-Hi. On this video, we're going to talk
about one powerful thing you can ask your man to turn him on.
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Hey, y'all, Mat Shaffer here,
your dating empowerment and connection coach.
I'm so excited to talk to you about this topic.
This is one powerful thing.
You're going to be able to tell him and ask him,
at any time, to deepen your connection,
generate attraction and polarity, and turn your man on.
We're going to dive into it.
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Here's what I want to do.
I want to share with you an outside of the box question
that you can ask your man any time.
It's going to help you cultivate polarity, and really generate attraction,
and get his motor running. It's super simple.
All you get to do is any time you see your man passionate about something,
interested in something, maybe it's a sport,
maybe it's a hobby, maybe it's a video game,
whatever it is,
you just get to walk up to him and you get to ask him,
"Can I play?"
I know that sounds so simple,
almost to the point where it sounds ridiculous,
but truly,
when you express genuine curiosity about what your man is into,
that is a very polarizing,
powerful statement because men have a lot of hobbies,
we have a lot of interests, we have a lot of passions.
I'm personally into tennis.
That's a huge passion of mine.
I could tell you, it is very, very, very magnetic
and very attractive to me when a woman that I'm seeing--
You don't need to have any knowledge about the sport,
or the hobby, or the interest in question,
but when a woman demonstrates genuine interest in tennis
just because she sees that I'm into it, that is very powerful.
It's very powerful to have a woman ask me,
"Who are the players? What are their strengths?
Is this a good match or not?"
Very, very powerful.
Don't be self-conscious about whether or not you know anything,
and don't think that just because you ask, he assumes that you want to be an expert.
Men are flattered,
and it's a very powerful thing to have a woman show that she cares about
what you're passionate about.
It gives a man an opportunity to be an expert.
It gives a man an opportunity to demonstrate his authority.
That's what I mean when I say that it's very polarizing
because if you are asking him a question, you're evoking from him the answer,
you're evoking from him and creating space for him to demonstrate his power
and his authority on a subject.
It's so important when you're thinking about this to recognize that questions
are how we deepen our connections.
Questions are how we create a deeper level of communication with our partner.
When you're asking powerful questions
to your man about the things that he's into, about his passions,
about his interests,
it's going to cultivate a deeper level of attraction,
a deeper level of connection, and it's going to turn him on.
Truly, whatever your man is into,
especially if it's something that he might be
a little self-conscious about, maybe he's got a nerdy interest,
or he's got a subject that he's passionate about that isn't something a woman
would typically be interested in,
don't allow him to hide that stuff from you.
Just ask him questions,
demonstrate that you're open to learning about it,
and that you're into what he's into.
If you can do that, you're going to create more comfort,
more safety, more trust.
He's going to feel more masculine because he's able to demonstrate
his authority and his expertise on the subject,
and you're able to receive that.
You've created that polarity,
and it's going to turn him on in an indirect but very powerful way.
I hope that makes sense, and I hope that resonates with you.
Take a second look at your man.
Look for his hidden passions, and then ask him powerful questions,
and you will create more attraction.
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