Heya playas, let's say you're in a relationship or want to be in a relationship but your partner
is gonna be miles and miles away. Does it make sense to carry on a long distance relationship?
Well, here are my thoughts on that. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh
Speaks. I've been asked this question tons of times before and the reason I've never
answered it because I don't think you're going to like the answer I have for you. When it
comes to long distance relationships, we often have this romanticized idea of how they actually
work. Both partner go their separate ways, they remain faithful, and loyal and very ever
so patient in waiting for their partner to come home. And while that does happen sometimes,
it's not what you should always expect. So when should you give a long distance relationships
a chance, well I'll start by telling you when you shouldn't. If the start of your relationship
is built on only a few days, a week or even a month in person being in love with each
other, then chances are what you have won't last. And the reason for that is that the
two of you really haven't dedicated enough time to securing the foundation of what you
have. Have you shared deep expressive moments together, both good and bad? Have the two
of you gone through a really bad fight and dedicated enough time to help the other person
recover from it? If you've only experience the honeymoon part of the relationship together
then when that feeling wears off, you're gonna find out very quickly that you may not love
the other person. This is what happens sometimes when couples split to go to different colleges,
one person goes overseas to fight in the military or a partner takes a job in another state.
New environments also open the doors to new experiences, new opportunities and new people.
When a girl starts on a new campus and is excited by the idea of meeting someone like
minded like her or a guy goes out on a business trip and talks to a bunch of girls in a random
state at a random bar, both situations present multiple new opportunities. And to force yourself
to not take advantage of these new opportunities but simply to live by the limitations you've
set for yourself is not going to strengthen your relationship, it's going to make you
resent your partner. And this is how long distance cheating comes about, because both
partners agree to be monogamous but then act differently because that's what they really
want. So what's the solution? Only and only if you and and your partner agree to it, try
being in an open relationship. That simply means that when you're away from each other
you're allowed to fulfill your physical needs but you promise to always be loyal romantically
to one another. But what if the romance in the relationship is getting kind of dull because
you've fallen into the slump where all you guys do is ask each other how was your day?
Try spacing out the conversations you have. You don't have to talk to your partner every
few hours, in fact, allow some time to pass so you can build up the anticipation between
the two of you. No one ever wants to feel like they're reporting to someone always having
to say this is what I did in the morning, this what I'm doing this weekend, this is
what I'm doing tomorrow. Instead, try asking each other questions and learn things about
your partner that you've never known about them before. Trust me, knowing that little
fact will make all the difference in how you perceive them. What do you guys think, have
you ever been in a long distance relationship? How did it work out for you? Leave your comments
below so we can talk about it. And I'm not trying to be bitter here by saying long distance
relationships will never work. In fact there are plenty of people in this world who are
able to maintain a monogamous and loyal relationship by both partners agreeing to it. What it all
comes down to is being open with your partner. If you keep that line of trust going then
you and your partner will find out exactly what works for you. As always guys, love and
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