- What's it like to be married to an entrepreneur?
A lot of people ask me, what's it be like
to be married to Dan Lok?
- It's awesome, what can I say?
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I think it's pretty good.
I'm so, like, easy down to earth.
(Jennie sighing)
So easy to work with, right? (giggling)
Living under one roof.
- Well it's different, actually working with you is easier.
- Hmm, okay.
- Yeah, I would say that.
But to be a partner of you in real life it's not that easy.
Also depends what kind of relation you want
as a lady, like maybe you want to become a wife
of entrepreneur and especially when they become
more and more successful, you also know
there is a lot of sacrificing from your time
and that you're gonna sacrifice a lot, time, energy.
A lot of things he could not be, not even worried,
not even be thinking of, it's not even in his brain.
Like you have to think for him, also for yourself.
- Well, I think also, early on in the relationship
I kind of, when I met you I was reasonably successful.
But now of course now it's like ten times more successful.
But was already doing well and doing quite well
with my businesses so, but I think I also
early on, when I know the relationship's getting serious,
I talk to Jennie and say hey, you know what,
this is kind of what my expectations are.
Even after a few months together, I told you like just
the way that I am - Yes
- Like I never tried to hide the fact, I say,
you know what I'm entrepreneur, I'm very, very busy.
A lot of things that I told her, I'm not good,
if like you're looking for a guy that remembers
all your birthday, anniversary, and do all these gifts,
I said I'm not your guy. - He's so bad.
- Like I'm horrible with that.
- Like so bad, so bad, yeah.
- And I said if you're looking for like get little gifts
and all that, I'm not your guy.
If you're looking to like a lot of like time with you
like all the time, oh how come you don't,
I said, I can't do that.
- Or doing little things, you know, picking you up,
- Yeah - Cooking you dinner,
taking you to some restaurant fancy.
- No, not gonna happen. - No
- But I say, if you're okay with that, everything else
I told you, like I think I said, I'm gonna
make your dreams come true.
I said, remember I ask - Yeah.
- You what your dreams were. - I said the first one's
I want to go to Disney one day.
- Disney, Disney, she wanted to go to Japan.
- Yeah. - Like different,
I said what's your dreams? - Yeah.
- Three, four, five things, okay I'm going to make
those dreams come true.
But that's my thing, but other than that other things
I cannot do.
I just cannot be a like a normal, like a typical boyfriend.
Just - No, no.
- I can always be there and sometimes she'll know that
even when we're together, like I am, like a little bit
zoned out, although I'm present, but sometimes
- (laughing) Yeah! - I'm zoned out
because I'm thinking about, I'm worried about
something about business, it's very normal.
Now, if that happens to you, comment below
'cause it happens to a lot of people
so it's very, very normal.
Like you with your boyfriend, girlfriend, your spouse,
your husband, your wife and then suddenly you are there
but you're kind of not there, right.
You're thinking about, oh, what am I gonna do?
What's going on with my business?
What about, oh tomorrow I'm gonna do this, I gotta meet
with the next client, it's very, very normal.
It just, because the path that we've chosen, right?
But even initially I think the first few years
it took a few years, for us to kind of gel, I guess.
- Yes. - Lot of compromise.
- Yes. - Maybe share
your perspective, like there.
- I think it's also really important,
cause I got asked a lot, like approached by guys
learn from Dan asking, so Jennie
how come you're very patient?
Sometimes you're always supporting Dan
behind the scene and not really asking for whole lot.
And then a lot of times, oh just imagine,
when he goes on stage speak,
afterwards like a lot of people approach him.
Like I remember every time it was,
sometimes you speak let's say, before lunch
and then you gotta get approached and then we gotta,
like I gotta wait and wait and keep waiting
- Yeah. - Maybe we won't have time
to have lunch, and then just, an hour wait
but I'm always like don't talk a lot.
A lot of guys asking, how come you're so patient?
I think it goes back to your expectation.
I can tell you this, if you wanna really caring
husband and just does a lot of things for you,
let's say do a lot of housework, helping you out,
or even take care of the kids.
- I, I do house work, no?
- Like what do you do?
Like, honestly, just tell me one thing, one thing.
One thing.
- I eat.
I eat.
- And then take a dump.
- I take a dump (laughing)
and eat dinner (laughing). - (laughing) That's it.
- (laughing) That's it.
- Nothing
- No. - He literally
doesn't do anything.
- I don't, I don't, I don't do them and I don't
know how to do them. (Jennie giggling)
That's the thing with me, I'm so focused
- (laughing) And that is so good, cause every time ask him
hey, let me teach you how to do this, and no,
I'm not gonna learn, I'm not gonna learn,
I'm not gonna look, cause after that
you're gonna ask me to do it.
No, I'm not gonna learn. - Yeah.
- So, he's so smart. - Okay let me give you
a secret (Jennie laughing)
This is secret, this worth the admission of this episode.
- What's the secret? - Here's the secret.
So guys, if you, you're too competent in a lot of housework,
guess what, you do more of it.
(Jennie laughing) So, when I do housework
I just screw up a couple times, she got pissed off
and she's like, I don't want you to do this anymore.
How the hell can you screw that up?
Oh, I'm so sorry and then they, she won't ask you again.
- Are you doing that on purpose?
- No, not on purpose, I'm just incompetent in that regard.
(laughing)
Just, it's horrible. - Oh you're finally admitting
incompetent eh? - I don't know how to do them,
I don't wanna know how to do them, like even light bulb,
I don't know how to change a light bulb, I don't know
what light bulb to buy.
- He doesn't even know how to, let's say,
after today this shooting, he just take off
the jacket or that suit, he doesn't even know how
to fold them and put it back on the hanger.
He would just throw on the bed
and just like, take care of it, like that.
I'm like, okay, baby, let me teach you.
This is how you do it.
- He's like no, no don't teach me
I don't know how to do it.
I'm busy.
- Yeah, I don't want to learn.
I just don't want to learn, so that's kind of,
so, but I have to give Jennie credit, like to work
especially with like me, I know that our relationship
in some way why's it so unique is because it's not just
husband and wife. - No.
- If it just husband and wife, then it's simple.
- We are business partners right?
We are - Best friends.
- Best friends, we are in some ways, interesting,
'cause, just because we work together, we also have
that mentor, mentee relationship.
- Yes, we do. - So, I taught her a lot
of things. - I learn a lot from Dan.
- So that kind of relationship, we have our
kind of working relationship.
She's my make-up artist,
right, she is - Stylist.
- Stylist, she does my hair. - Assistant.
- Assistant, you know, manager.
- Yeah, manager. - My consultant.
- Yeah. - My counselor.
- Sometimes driver. - Sometimes driver.
- Yeah. - Sometimes she wears
many, many different hats, and I think when you are married
as a woman, you're married to a high-performance
entrepreneur, especially if it's a high level entrepreneur,
it becomes, you have to wear many different hats.
And you are, I don't know if you feel that way
maybe in your perspective, that it does feel like
her world revolves around my, what I do.
Like, everything is what's going on with Dan.
It's according to my schedule, it's according we
travel together if I'm speaking somewhere
it's very much like that.
And she went through that identity crisis
a few years ago, too.
Like, well did I lose myself, did I like, where's Jennie?
Should I do my own thing? - Cause before marriage
I was Jennie Lee but after marriage I'm Jennie Lok,
so I belong to the Lok family, so am I really
the Jennie Lee before, I kind of feel that way.
And then there's a lot of my perspective, my own career
I want to pursue like about fashion or about anything
but then I wouldn't be able to do that anymore
because right now I'm just
kind of involved with the Lok family.
But as myself I'm become
one of the Lok members too, right.
So, I went through that but then, then just one day
I realized, you know what, isn't that my husband's
success is my success also?
'Cause without me, he wouldn't be as him today.
- Hundred percent. - Right?
- Hundred percent. - So, I do feel maybe
a lot of ladies, I know what you're thinking,
because I went through that, but then I feel like
sometimes it's not about losing yourself
sometime it's, just think, a lot of things
you already sacrifice, a lot of things you already did,
and a lot of things you already even, maybe just matching
his step, that's why your husband is your best success.
It's like your kid, you know.
Like you raise up a kid and go to good school
and have good marks and become a better person
it's exactly like that and sometimes I do joke
like, I already have a baby I don't need a baby.
Like this is a big baby for me, like it's really.
- Yes, truly. - Yeah, I have to take care
of him like a baby, so like, I don't feel like right now
I truly don't feel like it because, and also
it goes back to I really like what Dan is about
is he always gives me credit.
He always say, oh, thank you to Jennie and it's
because of Jennie, and then sometimes he really,
like really appreciate it, you know?
Afterwards, after we hardworking day, he's like oh
thank you wife and then do a lot of things.
I think that's also very important from guys as well.
You have to always say thank you.
- Yes, don't feel like - Some of the things
you just have to. - Yeah, don't feel like
oh she's my wife and she's - No.
- You know, that's her job to do.
- No, no - And she's obligated
to do that, it's not like that.
'Cause she could of just, even if let's say we going
out there and she could of just, oh I wanna stay home.
No, she's with me like long days, like today's a long day.
We're doing a lot of filming and then afterwards
we gotta go to meetings, like, today's probably a
thirteen, fourteen hour day.
- I just had like four hours sleep.
- Four hours sleep and we're making a video for you.
And that's just our life, it's just what it is, right?
And she doesn't, she knows, at first of course
not used to that and because especially with me
I'm so focused, I could go so many hours, like,
my stamina, right.
I don't think about it but usually it's after,
oh now it's like one a.m. okay, I guess got,
we should wrap this up (Jennie laughing) and relax.
But in between, sometimes I forget to eat.
Sometimes I just forget, like so focused.
- But I gotta say, working with him is one
another benefit of for yourself, the growth.
It's afterwards, I working with him, and then I working
with other people, I realize those people,
their performance level is really low.
'Cause I was kinda expecting similar pace
'cause Dan's quote unquote the only kind of business
like from the field like business kind of coach I had.
So I was kind of expecting everybody working a similar,
but when I realized it's not.
Like sometimes people say, I need to take my weekend off.
I need to finish by this time, I cannot do long hours
or I just gotta delay, postpone this and that,
but I would never hear from him.
So, even though maybe one day we'll be separate
cause nothing's forever but then if, yes it is.
- You never know.- - Yeah.
- You never know - Yeah, yes it is.
I think for me, I learn a lot from him.
I can be very independent financially, emotionally
- And I told her to be independent, to have your own
business, have your own investments so that we are together
because we want to be together - Yes.
- Not because, oh because of my financial success.
- No. - You relying on me.
I can tell you without hesitation, Jennie could go
and do her own thing and she'd be very, very successful.
It doesn't really matter. - And that's it not you
- It doesn't, she's not with me because of my money.
- It's not because I have to do it, because sometimes
like a lot of ladies think, oh I don't have my job.
I'm not insecure enough and then what if one day happens
to my husband like I don't have a job
- The skill, the skill. - To provide an income.
- The confidence. - But then, you have the skill
don't worry about it, you always have it.
That's something you'll learn,
nobody can take away from you.
You how to, you learn, let's think about if, let's say
I have to go out to be maybe hired by assistant.
I can be a really good assistant.
- Damn frickin' good, no, way better than assistant.
Way more than assistant. - Of course
way more than assistant but I can
at least, start with somewhere.
We're even kind of joking like, let's say one day
we have to divorce, he would said he would (laughing)
have to hire me.
- First thing I said, I will hire you
as my executive assistant. - Yeah.
- And like a VP or something like that.
(Jennie laughing) - That's the first
thing I would do. - Yeah, yeah.
- Like I said, I would pay you a high salary, maybe like
when we do get divorced, don't try to get too much money
from me, you know. - Oh that's not gonna happen
of course. - Like half that money,
that's a lot of frickin' money.
- Yeah, half, half. - Like one-third.
- No, half. - Payment plan.
- No, not negotiable, no.
- That's what happens, right. (Jennie giggling)
- So how much it costs entrepreneur,
so that's what it's like to, the pro's and con's
to marrying an entrepreneur, so if you are you're
already married to entrepreneur, you're kinda stuck.
(giggling)
- Comment below, maybe share your experience.
But if you're dating entrepreneur,
you're thinking about marrying entrepreneur,
I hope that gives you some perspective.
What you're getting yourself into knowing that
your life will never be the same.
It's very, very different, it's not a normal life.
But if, I think if you, work hard as a couple you can
experience life, you can achieve so much more
than what most average people achieve and experience.
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