- 10 Signs you're an INFJ,
the world's rarest personality type.
Not medium rare, rare.
Stick around to the end of the video to learn about
how rare the INFJ type really is.
So INFJ, it stands for introverted,
intuitive, feeling, judging.
If you want an explanation of what the four letters mean
in four minutes, check out this video right here.
Let's just jump right into the 10 signs that you're an INFJ.
First up, you prefer to narrow things down
rather than gathering more information.
The way I like to imagine it, is that INFJs
have a mind that works like a funnel.
And we're focusing on this part of the funnel right here,
the small end.
INFJs want to cut down the world into as simple
of a framework as possible.
So it's like everything that exists in the world
can be boiled down into a few simple principles.
It's like we can put everything in the world
into this broad end of the funnel.
But it's always gonna come out
into this super narrow understanding.
As such INFJs are not typically on the lookout
for new things to add to the funnel,
the new things kind of scare INFJs a little bit.
This makes INFJs very routine oriented,
kind of wanting to do the same thing
and stick with what they know.
So like when the iPhone updates its operating system
an INFJ might have a brief panic attack.
Number two, you make decisions based on value
rather than logic.
This is the F part of INFJ.
It stands for feeling, and it's not so much feeling
like emotion as it is value, what's good and bad.
What do people like, and not like?
What value do people place on something?
This is opposed to making decisions logically,
which doesn't care, what people like or how people feel
about something, but rather, is this going
to work and get results?
The INFJs prefer to make decisions based more
on what people value, what people think is good
rather than what just works.
So if you're looking to buy a toaster online,
the INFJ will be more influenced theoretically
by reviews saying, this is the best toaster out there,
everyone loves it, as opposed to reviews that say,
this toaster makes toast without any issues,
it gets the job done.
Number three, you might feel like you need permission
to follow your own inner compass.
This one might hurt a little,
but the truth is INFJs sometimes have a hard time
following their own inner compass.
Certainly INFJs have a strong vision
for how they see the world.
But when it comes to making decisions,
they can feel like they need permission from others
to do what they want to do.
This goes back to the feeling I was talking about
in the last point.
INFJs have a specific type of feeling,
which is concerned with how do other people feel
as opposed to, how do I feel?
And INFJs need that external confirmation from others
before they feel good about doing
what they wanted to do anyway.
Maybe you wanna start a YouTube channel,
but before you do it,
you might start asking a bunch of people
if they think that's a good idea.
Oh, do they seem excited when you tell them?
Or are they more like oh, okay.
If you do that a lot, trying to get feedback
for what you wanna do anyway, might be an INFJ thing.
Number four, sometimes you don't know who you really are.
This is related to that last point because INFJs
are a little disconnected from their inner compass.
Now on the bright side of that INFJs
are focused on how they need to act around other people
in order to put everyone at ease or to fit in.
Sometimes INFJs are called social chameleons
because of their understanding of social dynamics
and how to shape shift in order to get along with others.
The problem is, that they might look in the mirror
and be like, who am I really?
You might have different groups of people in your life
and find yourself acting different,
depending on who you're around, like very different.
That's something INFJs tend to do without even realizing it.
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Number five, you often over plan.
INFJs are not very spontaneous.
That comes from generally the J part
of their personality type.
I've used this joke before, but I'll say it again
because apparently I'm turning into my father,
if I as an INFJ I'm going to be spontaneous,
it's really just like, I can be spontaneous
if I've planned for it.
Oh yes, here are two options, I've narrowed it down to
and I can spontaneously one of them.
INFJs really really really like to plan.
They will over plan, even something simple,
like going to Chipotle like I gotta know,
what am I gonna get?
What are the options?
I can't just make up my mind on the fly.
White rice, brown rice, black bean, Pinto bean.
How long will the line be?
What is the parking situation going to be like?
They over plan because they don't wanna deal
with the details in the moment.
That is an INFJs biggest weakness,
concrete details in the here and now.
So INFJs over plan ahead of time to try to avoid it.
I guess you always have to plan ahead of time.
You can't plan afterwards, so it's a little redundant.
Number six, you're a natural teacher.
Now wait a second you might say, Frank,
I would never get up in front of a class and teach.
So this doesn't necessarily mean a formal teacher,
but INFJs are natural communicators.
Have you ever found that as soon as you learn something
and have just kind of barely gotten the hang of it,
you wanna start teaching it to everyone else?
Or maybe it's like, you have things that you figured out
about life in general, it might not be anything huge,
but you slip in these little pearls of wisdom
in your interactions with others.
There's just something about INFJs where they feel
the need to communicate the stuff they have processed
about the world around them.
Number seven, you are good at guessing what will happen.
This is a big one okay.
And there's a lot of misunderstanding about all this.
Some people like to say INFJs can predict the future,
and they can.
Nostradamus also predicted the future.
He wasn't really right about anything though, or was he?
I've probably made that joke in another video.
Am I slipping?
So INFJs are intuitive.
That means they are focused on detecting patterns,
they are trying to guess at the connections between things.
And what comes with that is guessing
at what will happen next.
We see a situation happening right now,
how do we think it will unfold?
And because INFJs are super intuitive,
they've been doing it since they were a kid.
It's just how they operate.
So theoretically, having been guessing at what
will happen in the future, their whole lives,
they may be right a lot of the time, but it's not magic.
It's not psychic or spiritual.
It's just detecting a pattern sometimes without the person
even realizing they're doing it.
Like if you've got a friend and she has this boyfriend
and you're like, I'm not sure why,
but I can just tell they're gonna break up.
And then they do, that can feel like, oh,
I just had an unexplainable feeling and intuition,
I predicted the future.
And yes, it is intuition.
But the way it was working is, you were picking up on all
these little details in your friend's relationship.
So your intuition says based on the existing patterns
that we already know about relationships,
we're guessing a breakup is coming soon.
And you might not even be aware of all that happening
until that hunch enters your brain.
Number eight, you feel the need to know
how other people feel.
So as mentioned before INFJs are feelers.
And they are the type of feeler who wants to know
what everyone else is feeling.
Not just emotional, but how do you feel
about that toaster you bought?
Do you like it?
Do you love it?
INFJs, might satisfy this need to know how other people feel
by directly asking them,
or they might sit back and just try
to read the other person.
This is why INFJs, are said to be adept at reading others
and picking up on how they feel.
It's because INFJs feel like they need to know.
And sometimes just watching how people act is easier
than directly asking them.
You pair that up with their intuition
and ability to put together patterns,
and you've got someone who is always trying to guess
at how everyone else feels.
Number nine, you care more about the meanings of things
than the facts.
One thing about intuitives is that they prefer
to look more at the bigger picture than the actual details.
This can also mean they look at the abstract meaning
of something before they look at the facts.
INFJs are particularly out of balance
when it comes to this.
So they are heavily dependent on using intuition
to see patterns, to understand the meanings of things,
to get how they work generally, and the facts,
and what is concrete is totally secondary.
An example of this is that INFJs
don't typically give good examples (chuckles).
They will just say, this is how this thing is
from a broad perspective and no examples,
unless you really press them
and make them think for a while.
If you ever wanna mess with an INFJ ask them for examples
when they're trying to explain something,
it's the hardest part of making these videos.
Number 10, the concrete world is not that important to you.
Related to the last point, INFJs are very much
in their head all the time.
Reality isn't happening so much in the outside world,
but in my inner understanding of the outside world.
So INFJs just don't value
the outside physical world very much.
It kind of just gets in the way.
For INFJs it might be an extra struggle
to take care of your body, to eat right and exercise.
INFJs can also get extra overwhelmed
by too much sensory stuff going on.
It's just too much to take in and process.
Now, to talk about the INFJ
being the rarest personality type.
Where does that come from?
And does it really matter?
This statistic comes from the NBTI manual,
which actually has a lot of statistics about type.
It says that INFJs are the least common type,
making up 1.5% of the population.
However, if you look at this chart,
there are six of the 16 types that make up less than 3.5%
of the population each.
And even the most common type is only 13% of the population.
So I would not getting too caught up
in this whole rarity aspect of INFJs.
Who even knows how accurate the statistics are.
The whole rarity thing
is really just for marketing purposes,
if we're getting real here.
The important thing to realize is that even
if you feel weird and like nobody can relate to you
and you're all alone,
there are people out there going through
the exact same things as you.
Feeling and thinking the same way, you're not alone
and you're not broken somehow.
You have something unique to offer the world,
don't forget that.
Check out this video about INFJs next,
and until next time, stay cool and attractive.
I'm gonna hang out, see if you click that video.