unconditional love( How to Love Unconditionally) [subtitles using inown.org]
hello everyone. Saturday would not be complete and less I threw a wrench in something.
so today I'm gonna throw a wrench in the spokes unconditional love (laugh)
when you look at the world vibrationally
love is an identical vibration to appreciation
and appreciation is nothing more than pure positive focus.
so it can be said that unconditional love is the very same thing
as positive focus that is not conditioned upon something that the person is looking at.
in other words unconditional love is the same as unconditional positive focus.
unconditional love is positive focus or appreciation that is not conditioned upon how someone else acts
now it's time to get real for a minute.
how many of us on this earth truly feel capable of doing this?
how many of us are truly capable of focusing purely positive toward a person has a gun pointed at our face?
how many of us are truly feeling capable currently focusing positively towards the person
who steals a little child off a city sidewalk and cut them into pieces?
how many of us are capable focusing positively towards war?
not many but this shouldn't make us feel bad.
do you want to know why?
unconditional love is the exact same vibration as true enlightenment.
we know how difficult it is to reach enlightenment.
it is a lifelong practice if not a multi lifetime practice for beings. beings
and we also know that enlightenment is not a goal that we reach.
instead it is horizon line that continues to move further into the future
with every desire that we have and with every new perspective that we're introduced to.
it is the same with unconditional love. unconditional love is practice.
it is not a state we achieve and that are done practicing.
there is no retirement from the practice of unconditional love.
and the minute you think you've reached it you will find yourself in yet another situation
where you were challenged to find alignment with it.
there are beings who have achieved the experience of enlightenment.
and who spend their lives dedicated to maintaining that alignment with the experience of enlightenment.
in the same way that there are beings who have experienced what unconditional love is
and who have dedicated their lives to staying in alignment with that experience of unconditional love.
but there is no such thing as a being that is physically incarnated who is permanently in a state of enlightenment.
the same as there's no such things as being who is permanently physically incarnated and permanently in the state unconditional love.
you see if we reach the state of permanent enlightenment to the state permanent unconditional love same thing.
there would be no reason for us to be physically incarnated here
because if a person could truly feel unconditional love 24 hours a day
there would be no further contrast for this person to experience
if there is no further contrast for a person to experience, no desires are born from within them.
and if no desire are born from within them, there is no expansion which is being satisfied through true being.
and us there is no reason for them to be incarnate it here.
so for you to reach state at 100 percent unconditional love would be to defy your own expansion.
and defy the expansion of this universe.
in the spiritual community unconditional love is a standard that we hold ourselves to.
it is a standard that is no different than expected ourselves to be enlightened.
when we are not get enlightened asking ourselves to be enlightened is
the same as asking ourselves to lie to ourselves in favor of pretending.
in favor of acting like we think unenlightened person should act.
asking ourselves or others to be unconditionally loving
is no different than expected ourselves to lie to ourselves about how you really feel.
and instead act by we think unconditionally loving person should act
we strip the genuineness out of ourselves and expect ourselves to pretend
so we can maintain the lie that we are the spiritual people we think we should be.
all the while we send our self a very damaging message.
we send our self the message that we are not good enough.
you cannot lie to yourself no matter how hard you try.
deep inside you know you don't actually feel unconditionally loving and good about another person.
but you think a truly spiritual person should feel unconditionally loving
and so even if you go through the motions appearing to be unconditionally loving inside you feel like a fraud.
you are acutely aware of your own shortcomings.
we'll maintain the lie that we are unconditionally loving that we need to be unconditionally loving.
when the truth is none of us are unconditionally loving
if we were, we wouldn't be physically incarnated here on planet Earth.
it is a perfectly fine practice to dedicate yourself to
but unconditional love cannot be forced and you cannot talk yourself into being unconditionally loving
when you are currently feeling negative emotions toward someone like fear or guilt or hate
if you feel fear or guilt or hate towards someone and you say to yourself come on now be unconditionally loving.
all you are doing is shaming yourself into good behavior
behavior that is in no way genuine and guess what
you are further away from unconditional love
if you do that and if you just let yourself be to place a fear guilt or hate relative to that person.
so how do we become unconditionally loving?
the first step is to admit to ourselves to own up to the fact
that unconditional love is the exact same thing is enlightenment.
why is this enlightenment is the state of pure alignment with source energy.
so as to own, so as to share, source perspective
that means that the perspective you hold when you are perfectly align with source energy is source perspective
and source perspective is the most objective of perspectives. perspectives
the reason is it is the collective of all perspectives which have ever been held or are held currently.
because if this source hold perspective towards all things in existence which is unconditionally loving.
so when you match the perspective of source energy
which is in alignment when you match that consciousness so is to match that perspective.
you will simultaneously match the perspective of unconditional love towards all things existence.
this means that anything that we do as people to reach enlightenment will culture unconditional love within ourselves.
there are thousands if not millions approach to that one destination that we call enlightenment.
same goes for unconditional love.
there would be no way whatsoever to give you the way to reach the state unconditional love.
because there are many roads there and many left yet to be invented
so all anyone can do is give you suggestions that may serve you to close the gap between where you are and unconditional love.
by now you know that if you really want to unconditionally love the world
you can't start with the world have to start with yourself
the first up starting with yourself is get off your own back and stop expecting yourself to be unconditionally loving when you aren't
you can't expect yourself to be somewhere where other than where you are
and have that be a self loving state
if you continue to measure yourself next to a destination you haven't reached that
you will continue to highlight your own shortcomings
and that is not unconditionally loving to yourself
instead it is self hating. you're giving yourself the message that where you are is not OK
also all too often unconditional love becomes the excuse to keep ourselves in self abusive painful situations
for example let's say someone is emotionally abusive to us and we see that they're hurting
that's why they're hurting us. we have the tendency to tell ourselves to be
unconditionally loving to them and stay in that situation
despite the fact that we are being abused
but this is not unconditionally loving to ourselves or to them ironically.
if we allow ourselves to stay in abusive situations we aren't unconditionally loving ourselves
and remember that part of caring about someone is about fostering their growth
making sure they are always emotionally comfortable and preventing them from experiencing pain
or the consequences of their own actions is the same is denying them growth.
unconditional love is love without limits.
an unconditional love is the by product perspective. perspective
if your perspective is limited, your love is limited.
this means to become unconditionally loving you must expand your perspective.
question your thoughts instead of blindly believing them.
deliverly choose to think whatever thoughts feel good and focus on whatever makes you feel relief.
the be aware that if you feel fear relief may be an angry thought.
if you feel anger relief may be a pessimistic thought.
trust your emotions. let yourself think those thoughts without judging whether they're good or bad thoughts have.
you cannot lie to yourself so make sure to pick thought the you actually do believe.
if you are the one who controls how you feel by controlling what you focus on about another person
than your emotional state is no longer dependent on what that person does or does not do.
your love which is positive focused towards them is not conditioned upon something that they are doing.
this is the most important steps when it comes to learning how to unconditionally love.
once you take charge of your emotions start thinking thoughts and focusing on things to deliberately that make you feel better.
you find yourself quite quickly in an aspect to positive emotion.
and from this place of positive emotion you can play a little game with yourself.
it's called pretend that you are them.
I want you to get very deep with this practice.
meaning I want you to try to remove yourself from your own perspective
and try to live life through their eyes interacting with you interacting with the world
taking on their perspective will help you to understand them.
and understanding expands your perspective
and when your perspective is expanded
it is very easy to slip into the space of unconditional love.
I want to stress that this particular process slipping into someone else's perspective
can not be forced and can not be done prematurely.
if you try to do it prematurely from a negative emotional space
when you're still feeling guilt or fear or anger or hatred
than it is self that is invalidating and that's self abusive.
next we must learn the art of detachment.
detachment does not mean to stop caring about another person.
it means to detach your happiness from the other person
so thier actions aren't effecting the way that you feel.
it is to take responsibility for how you feel to remove that responsibility from the other person from the world.
if we are attached to the outcome of someone or if we are attached to them behaving in one way or another.
we are now unable to be unconditionally loving our positive focus now depends on them.
our love which is no different than pure appreciative focus is now conditional upon how they behave.
if you are attached to them. it is a parasitic relationship.
and yes before you start feeling bad about this
most current human relationships are parasitic.
if you are attached to them, it becomes important to control the other person and how they act so that you can be happy.
if they must change to make you happy you don't unconditionally love them.
the first step as far as detachment is concerned is to admit to where we are
to admit to the fact that we are attached.
to admit that we feel completely powerless to other people.
there are happiness does seem to be at the mercy of what they do and don't do
what happens in the world around us.
learning detachment is a lifelong practice but I promise you
the more you detach the more you will love
remember that it is easy to love someone or something that is easy to love
but we are powerless if we can only love someone based on the condition of them behaving in a way that is easy to love.
unconditional love is in fact state of being completely in alignment with source perspective despite external conditions.
to love conditionally is to say
these parts make me feel good about you and these parts make me feel bad about you
and so I need the parts that make me feel bad about you to go away
so that I can feel good when I look at you,
because the only thing that I am looking at is what makes me feel good.
unconditional love is to say I am responsible for how I feel
I trust myself to focus at you
in a way where I am paying attention to things that make me feel good about you
and so the way I feel is not conditioned upon what you do
you do not have to change one thing for me to be in control of what I am focused on about you
and so I am capable of radiating love towards you 24 hours a day if that's my wish
by virtue of having complete control have my own way of focusing upon you.
if you wish to understand unconditional love understand this
it is the process understanding that you are capable of loving regardless of the conditions that you're looking at
and we must realize not only are we capable of feeling love regardless of the condition
we are love regardless of the condition. our lives here is nothing but a process of remembering that very fact.
have a week. week
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