the story becomes more colorful remember when i told when i did this earlier session i said
because this ram question was so established and one day he was smacked rani rasmani the owner of
the temple saying hey you must can't think of your cold case in the in the temple think
of mother goddess smack and though he's gone completely nuts and we must he's not saying
anymore he's become insane and the reason why is insane is because it's celibate celibate
so they took him to the house of ill repute remember i did the story and this ramakrishna
in this you know can establish in good realization was taken to this courtesan called lakshmi by the
moment he faced lunching by he sends together oh mother you are here too and bow down
so this lakshmi bai who is a prostitute came running down to babu and this bandage and say
look what are trying to do trying to ruin us now they're prostitutes they're telling are you trying
to ruin us you're sending us a holy man and trying to tempt him this is terrible don't do that to us
she's there telling her that being a prostitute not a problem this is a business but this thing
is not right so this thing didn't work but didn't stop there let me tell the story gives a different
color in the same manner when ramakrishna at a very young age have gone to his village
he spends the old god he's losing his mind you know mind all this time mother goddess mother
only way to make him sober again is to get him married so at a very young age
he was buried off and somehow he didn't didn't mind he just got married and came back today
and then now at the age of 18 the wife comes to the temple to see her husband
her name is sharadamani she comes to the temple ramakrishna welcomes her
now you might wonder what is happening why this highly celibate a sannyasi
going to interact with a wife a wife entering the stage now what is going to be the link here
didn't i tell you ram krishna comes with tremendous amount of reconciliation reconciliation
between bhakti and agnan reconciliation between dwight and advaith reconciliation between grastha
and sannyas householder and a renunciate that reconciliation is visible in his life
and this is how it unfolds let me very very clearly tidy up this thing ram krishna had no
physical relationship with his wife ever ever well documented so there is no no mischief here
and yet the wife comes and she asks a very blunt question of this ramakrishna
he said how do you see me and he replies look at the reply he says the same mother that i worship
in the temple the same mother is sitting in front of me and massaging my feet
the now was taken aback what language what words this aram krishna throughout his life always
called his wife addressed his wife never is too in gujarati bengali which means
singular but is dao tame now you see if the rest of us householders here wish to experiment on this
it's very risky especially when you get visitors if you start addressing your wife as tamir
you'll have fireworks afterwards and i'm digressing let me go back he always gave
her that highest respect the dignity and yet there was no physical relationship
the wife lived in a separate room which is just across the across the the courtyard i was in
the room it's literally four feet by six feet room hardly room to move she just stayed there
cooked food for him served him and looked after him for his rest of his life throughout his life
this is the role you see what is happening is this this is something unique that is visible
in the story of ramakrishna he says do not treat marriage as a license for lust after the birth
of one or two children treat your wife not as an object of enjoyment but as a spiritual companion
raise a level do not see her as an object give her the dignity seer is a spiritual
companion but again you see he's so gentle he says after the birth of one or two children now
your view of your life must change dramatically look let me tell you why it is so necessary and
important you see the greatest thing that ties us down as this physical being as a material
being is this physical attraction that we have for other gender unless we can rise about this
physical attraction there is no chance we are not spoiled sports there is no chance you can really
experience yourself as a spirit so it is necessary to rise above this strong physical attraction and
the way that you do it is this rather than look at the other person as a body if you look at the
other person as an individual breathing through that body individual when you see a person not
as a material manifestation but as a spirit lust or attraction for the body will disappear forever
you see the marvelous message visible in the story of ramakrishna
in modern times it is telling a modern householder house is fine a householder's life is fine
but raise your eye level now no longer view your wife as an object of enjoyment see her as
a spiritual companion equal to you when you give her that dignity see how your life is transformed
you bring spirituality in your routine life so now it is not that either you are a grassy
or you are a sannyasi you can be a cross and yet leave your life for renunciation raise your level
this was not visible with any other teacher in the past is visible in the story of ramakrishna
he's giving a prescription for the householder rise you raise yourself up this is a unique
feature of this ramakrishna and the story of this mother this sharda money in a way reflects
this unique feature you treat your companion not as just objects physical but it's an individual
a spiritual being who is going to stand by you for spiritual progress lift your vision this is the
story of shah dahmani the story goes on now this ramakrishna is ready you see he's oh he's mastered
everything all the tools are ready now he wants to give out his spiritual message if you like his
spiritual inheritance to the rest of humanity he needs carriers he needs ambassadors of his message
he would climb up to the terrace in the kolkata temple and look at kolkata and with
the heart kind of as if a wet towel is being kind of squeezed his heart will be squeezed
like that he'll scream and say oh my dear children where are you where are you my children come here
i'm fed up of listening to this worldly talk come here i want to talk about the highest things
where are you my children you see the cry goes out and now the various children of ramakrishna
begin to arrive let me just touch on one other aspect sharda mani's mother was bit annoyed that
how dare i marry my daughter off to this man who is mad she will never have a happy married life
and no children and ramakrishna heard about it so he sent the message through he shared the
money to his mother-in-law gentle fellow tell your mother-in-law tell your mother he said that a day
will come when thousands and thousands of people will scream mother at you until your ears ache
that many people will call you mother tell her you will have more children that you ever wanted
and then charlemagne calls in her in her words he said this has come true to be true let me
say something else about shah dahmani you see ramakrishna is a hard task master if you ask him
for this and that and other things he will not give you that he will give you the highest not
what you want because you normally want the lowest what do we want normally we want big house big car
lottery a beautiful husband a handsome monster husband sorry and a beautiful wife this is what
we cry for he won't give you that he's a he's a hard task master last person you asked for this
thing is ramakrishna but he said there's a soft owner to ram question that's this sharda money
if you appease shardam and say please tell him he doesn't listen to me then you can get
your way i'm telling you the secret the reason why it is so is let me tell you a real example
after ramakrishna passed away his disciples were actually at nothing no place to stay
no no shelter no food no money they are wandering around in the streets of kolkata
feeling dizzy without you know kind of water or food and falling about fainting they're
all toppling all over the place and shah are they only looking this is terrible it's a wrong
question of children they don't have a shelter no no place for sustenance this is terrible
and she said oh ramakrishna you can't do this to your children give them a shelter
give them shelter and in no time the whole thing belurumata ram question mission came into being
so all the discipline questions we know where to go leave ramakrishna
just touching on some interesting aspect of the story of rishard money
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