What’s up ladies and gentlemen, I’m YouTube’s #1 breakup coach, Brad Browning….
And this video is for anyone who wants to get back together with their ex, but has already
made some major mistakes such as begging, pleading, or apologizing over and over.
So if you know you’ve made a mistake since breaking up, and you still want your ex back…
you’re going to want to watch this video all the way to the end.
First of all, let me just make one thing clear: I don’t believe in beating yourself up over
past mistakes.
It really won’t help you to sit around stressing out about what you’ve done or said in the
wake of your breakup… so, don’t bother.
Instead, just be thankful that you’ve now recognized what you did wrong, and commit
yourself to getting it right from this point onwards so that you can maximize your chances
of starting over with your ex.
You definitely do want to avoid making further mistakes, of course, so please consider signing
up for my comprehensive Ex Factor program at BreakupBrad.com to ensure you’ve got
a clear, proven strategy moving forward.
Let’s begin with one of the single most common mistakes people make: begging and pleading
their ex.
I completely understand why people do this after a breakup… it seems logical that gushing
your heart out and telling your ex how much you love them and miss them would potentially
convince them to give your relationship another chance.
But, trust me on this one… it DOES NOT work like that.
In fact, begging your ex for another chance… apologizing over and over again for things
you’ve done or said…
telling them how you feel about them… all of these things are going to actually do the
opposite of what you’re hoping for.
This type of thing almost always hurts your chances.
If you’ve watched some of my past videos here on YouTube, then you’ll already know
that the real secret behind getting your ex back is to rebuild the level of attraction
he or she feels for you… and in order to do this, you need to speak to your ex’s
“Emotional Control Center”.
When you beg and plead with your ex, you’re only speaking to the left side of their brain,
or the logical, rational part.
But when it comes to love and relationships, there’s nothing logical or rational about
the way humans make decisions.
We’re strictly driven by EMOTION when it comes to relationships, so you really need
to tap into the right side of your ex’s brain… the “Emotional Control Centre”.
This is really the only way you’re going to be able to re-build your ex’s desire
and attraction for you.
Now, the first step in doing this -- and therefore starting to undo any past mistakes you’ve
already made -- is to “wipe the slate clean”.
Right now, thanks to your past begging, pleading, and other mistakes, your ex probably thinks
of you as that ‘desperate loser ex’ that’s still pining after them.
They likely think you’re heartbroken, lonely, and upset right now… and even though that
might be true, the first step in rebuilding attraction again is to make sure that your
ex doesn’t think this.
You need to convey to your ex that you’re okay with the breakup and that you aren’t
heartbroken.
There’s 3 things you can do to achieve this:
#1 - Use my ‘Clean Slate’ Message template.
The Clean Slate message is something I’ve come up with to help erase the negative image
of you that your ex has in the back of their mind.
It’s not something you can just send out of the blue, and it should only be used in
very specific situations, so I’m not going to share the full message with you here in
this video… but, if you’ve really made some major mistakes since the initial breakup
and you’re confident your ex has a highly negative impression of you right now, you
can sign up for my Ex Factor program risk-free and learn more about how to use this powerful
copy-and-paste message to erase some of those negative thoughts in your ex’s mind.
#2 - Employ the No Contact strategy.
Look, I know you don’t want to hear about No Contact again…
I’m sure you’re already aware of what this strategy is, and how well it works…
but shutting down all communication with your ex is absolutely critical to shifting their
perception of you and helping to undo past mistakes.
Another advantage to using the No Contact strategy?
You can’t make any more mistakes when you’re not interacting with your ex at all.
If you haven’t already done so, now is the time to start employing the No Contact rule.
It’s been proven many, many times by various research studies that humans have a natural
tendency to let go of negative memories and feelings over time… so by ignoring your
ex for 30 days, you’re using this ingrained natural tendency to help erase your ex’s
memories of your past mistakes and the more negative aspects of your relationship and
your time together.
Simply put, No Contact works, and it’s a great way to help “reset” your ex’s
emotions and return them to an “emotional neutral” state.
#3 - Subtly show your ex what they’re missing.
Remember what I said earlier about the importance of conveying to your ex that you’re NOT
desperate, needy, and sitting around heartbroken over the breakup?
Well, there’s plenty of ways you can subtly sub-communicate this to your ex.
One of the most effective ways is to post photos and/or updates to social media that
showcase you doing interesting, fun things… or better yet, hanging out with new friends
of the opposite sex.
Now, inciting jealousy can be a bit dangerous and backfire on you if you don’t do this
carefully -- subtlety is critical here -- but simply posting a photo of you with some new
friends on Instagram can cause your ex to subconsciously alter their feelings towards
you and upend their mental expectations about what you’re doing since the breakup.
Another way to achieve the same thing is to make subtle comments when speaking with your
ex, or mutual friends you have in common… so for instance, you could -- once your No
Contact period is over, of course -- send your ex a text message asking them, “Hey,
does your friend Paul still organize weekly scuba dives?
A friend and I just finished our scuba certification and we’re looking for new people in town
to dive with this summer.”
Of course, you’ll need this to actually be TRUE -- don’t just randomly start lying
about this type of thing to your ex.
But, as you can see, this message appears totally benign and believeable… you’re
just asking your ex a simple, legitimate question.
But subtly, you’re also hinting that you’ve just finished your dive certification, and
therefore you’re doing fun, exciting, and interesting stuff since the breakup… and
you’re even creating a sense of mystery by referring to an unnamed “friend”, which
will make your ex wonder who this person is and why you didn’t mention them by name.
Again, you need to be subtle when doing this type of thing, or else you’ll look silly
and your ex will see through to your true intentions… but if you can use this type
of strategy properly, the way I describe in my Ex Factor program… it’s an extremely
effective way to help shift your ex’s feelings about you, and help to undo the damage from
past mistakes you’ve made since breaking up.
OK, guys…
I think I’ll wrap things up here, because I want to avoid turning this into another
monster video.
Hopefully, you’ve already learned a few tips that you can start using right now to
undo your past mistakes and start reeling your ex back into your arms.
If you need more help and guidance dealing with a unique situation you’re facing, there’s
two things you can do….
#1, you can register for my 1-on-1 personal coaching and get my ongoing personal guidance
to ensure you get the absolute best possible chance at starting over with your ex.
To see my current availability and details about my personal coaching program, visit
www.BreakupBrad.com/coaching right now.
#2, if you have a quick question, just leave it in the comments below the video here and
I’ll do my best to get back to each and every one of you.
Thanks for all your support, ladies and gents….
See you in the next video!