Hello and welcome back, my body language buddies! today, in episode 29 the big question is,
Was James Charles' apology real, or...
No, wait.
It can't be real.
And I can tell, because I had to navigate through all the excuses he said he wasn't
going to say:
- There's no excuse for them, and I don't plan to make any in this video either... but
I didn't do the research...
I'm desperate...
Unfortunately, I've not been able to find that person ... that I come to terms with
my desperation ... my desire for a relationship never went away ... my lack of experience
regarding dating, growing up ... honestly just thought that I had really, really bad
luck ... and that I was being taken advantage of...
Whatever!
Charles released a new video addressing the recent allegations that he exchanged explicit
messages with minors, apologizing to fans and telling them he was “being reckless.”
But in this video I will not only analyze his apology; I'll also give you tips to read
between the lines when someone tries to hide their true intentios behind a wall of words.
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My name is Jesús Enrique Rosas, I'm the body language guy, and I want you to uncover the
secrets that people try to hide from you.
Even if this video has certain vibes and looks like his "No more lies" video, the one that
he posted in 2019 regarding the Dramageddon with Tati Westbrook, Jefree Star and Shane
Dawson, he makes it clear from the beginning that he will not be showing receipts and that
this video is not planned at all.
One odd characteristic is that he talks in a very low volume.
I had to turn up the sound just to barely understand what he was saying.
I don't know if he wanted to sound soft, or harmless, but it's not the voice tone that
Charles uses in his other videos.
And I'm not talking about being serious here versus being playful in those.
I'm talking about voice volume.
Right at the beginning we can already spot clues that he's nervous:
- This video that I'm gonna be making today is going to be nothing like "No more lies".
His blinking rate is through the roof.
He blinked ten times in just five seconds.
That signals a lot of anxiety and my guess is that he knows that he's doing an apology
video for the kind of offense that he was accused for back in 2019.
At that moment Jefree Starr had accused him of being a predator, but Charles managed to
set the record straight, or so we thought.
Now, with these new accusations, of texting in a suggestive way with minors... it's really
concerning.
Charles is very controlled in his body language and shows few emotional reactions, but we
can also analyze the words he says to understand better what's his real stance about this situation.
That being said, try to spot anything odd when he says, "sorry":
- first and foremost i need to say... sorry - first and foremost i need to say... sorry
Oh, it's great when people like Charles make my work easier.
He is very careful when saying the words "I need to say sorry", and, by the way, he doesn't
say "I'm sorry", but "I need to say sorry".
It's an impersonal way to say that and not be fully accountable.
It's impossible to miss that facial expression he has, especially right after saying he's
sorry and he's in the transition between sentences.
That's another tip that you should be aware of.
When we articulate sentences, there are going to be more emotional reactions between them,
when one ends and it connects to the next.
That's not an expression of being sorry, at all.
That's not even an expression of being ashamed or even worried.
That's almost joking with arrogance.
But let's see what happens just three seconds later:
- I owe a massive apology to anybody that i've hurt or anybody that i've made uncomfortable
with my actions - i owe a massive apology to anybody that
i've...
I must confess that the first time I saw the first minutes of this video I was absolutely,
100% sure that this was an April Fools prank.
I mean, that's the only way that he could be showing those faces, in the most important
part of the "apology", the core of the apology itself, so this couldn't be serious, right?
Right?
- when i upload this tomorrow it is going to be april fool's day which is awful timing
because this video and this topic is not a joke in any way shape or form
Well THANK YOU James, for making it clear.
Anyway, the situation is really embarrassing for him,
as you can see in the next clip:
- This is really, really embarrassing - This is really, really embarrassing
Rapid blinking is an emotional reaction that can also serve as an emphasis to know the
exact topics, terms, words, names that affect the person.
In this case the rapid blinking marks the word "embarrassing" which signals how uncomfortable
he is.
Let's see if he can really acknowledge what he did:
- I want to make it really really clear that I fully understand my actions and how they
are wrong - I want to make it really really clear that
I fully understand my actions and how they are wrong
That hard swallowing is also nervousness and stress, and it's too much of a coincidence
that they happen at the exact moment that he says that he understands his own actions
and how they are wrong.
Again, any body language signal alone or by itself, cannot confirm that people are lying
or even telling the truth.
We just keep adding them until we can reach a solid conclusion.
In this case, he has a hard time trying to acknowledge his own actions.
With the next clip, you'll start to notice a pattern in Charles' apology:
- to speak about this i want you guys to know that this is very very important to me and
i'm taking this very very seriously - - to speak about this i want you guys to
know that this is very very important to me and i'm taking this very very seriously
Barely two minutes into the video and we already confirm that every time Charles talks about
this being an important topic, or taking things seriously, he does that smirk.
Right at those moments.
That's his face betraying him by showing us his true emotions.
That's why I made a reference between body language and words.
The longer you speak, the more body language clues you're going to spill.
Now let's watch what is potentially the first clue of Charles lying:
- in both of these cases i added these people on snapchat asked how old they were right
away was told that they were 18 believed them engaged in authority conversation and then
later on found that they were actually 16. - was told that they were 18 believed them
When he says that he believed them, he shows two emotional reactions.
The first one is raising his eyebrows, that is something we do to draw attention to what
we are saying.
He really wants us to think that he believed those people.
And the second one is the single shoulder shrug, that is an emotional marker of stress,
that you're not totally confident with what you just said.
Those two markers combined at the same time of a statement about credibility, is what
makes a combination between body language and words that can be considered as deceit.
But we still need more clues.
Meanwhile, the next clip is important and it's NOT because his body language:
- As i did more research on these topics and self-reflected I realized that the receipts
and the screenshots and the specific details of the interaction really don't matter because
I f*** up.
So, the rationale behind not doing another "No more lies" video is that the receipts,
and messages and specifics really don't matter.
Well, it was the receipts the ones that let him set the record straight back then.
So we can assume this time that the receipts actually hurt him.
And he assumes that he did wrong, and that's good; he uses an expletive for that.
But the problem is that explaining himself about not using receipts actually draws attention
to the fact that those receipts could hurt his side of the story.
It's sort of a paradox.
If you don't show receipts, it's suspicious.
If you justify yourself for not showing them, it's suspicious too.
Well, he owns it.
He f**** up.
And that would be a good thing, if it wasn't for what he said next:
- and i needed to take accountability for my actions and most importantly apologize
to the people that were affected by them - accountability for my actions
Same nonverbal clue again; when talking about his own actions, remembering what he did,
he is not sorry at all; instead, he looks proud of it.
Look how he shakes his head when he says that he takes full responsibility:
- And I take full responsibility for that - And I take full responsibility for that
If this was a criminal interrogation by this point we would have enough tips to know where
should we focus our next questions.
In fact, Charles could have stopped here and call it a day.
At least it would have been a shorter apology.
But instead, he keeps on rambling, and... you know what happens when people keep talking,
right?
They will make mistakes, like this one:
- To the guys involved in this situation...
When he is talking about the guys and the situation, he has a very tiny expression of
anger in his mouth.
That expression that we show when we are angry at something.
Now, could he be angry because he got caught?
To answer that question we need to look deeper.
And the next clip helps us exactly with that:
- I wanna say I'm sorry - I wanna say I'm sorry
He claims that he wants to say that he's sorry to the men involved in this situation, but
the single shoulder shrug, and again, the expression of arrogance is an attitude of
dismissal.
That it was no big deal.
And no, he's not sorry.
By this point you might be asking, "Jesús, why do you continue with this?"
"It's so disgusting" "We get the message, this is a fake apology".
And my answer is, I have a mission.
A mission that is beyond analyzing the empty words of people with impossibly smooth skin.
A mission... to wake up YOUR body language abilities.
And yes, it's fun to watch James Charles digging his own grave.
And this next clip is no different
- Like I'm actively searching for younger people to be in a relationship with.
I just want to say firsthand that that's absolutely not the case.
- I just want to say firsthand that that's absolutely not the case.
Now that's a face of real delight when he says that no, he is not looking for younger
people to be in a relationship with.
It's a real, strong and very unsettling contradiction.
We could assume that Charles learned the dangers of being reckless after what happened in 2019.
But at least he's clear about how he broke that promise:
- in that video i made a vow and a promise to myself and to you guys as the audience
that i will be way more careful moving forward and that promise was not one that i kept.
And, of course, absolutely predictable, he makes the promise again:
- but the only way to actually show and prove that you are sorry is through action and change
and i'm going to change.
These are just empty words.
The excuses, the attitude, history repeating itself, it's something that surprised almost
no one, but it's baffling how someone can just turn on a camera, try to apologize thinking
that words are going to do the work, but... just falling short.
But, why so many words for an apology that could have ended seven minutes ago?
And that's when the next sentence came up and everything made sense:
- Because the power imbalance can happen even if it's not intentional
- Because the power imbal ance can happen even if it's not intentional
More than half of the video is trying to explain in one way or another, that the ones that
were reckless were the ones that sent messages to him.
And he bases his argument in the excitement that people have when they exchange messages
with a celebrity:
- the excitement that comes with talking to a celebrity is literally enough to make somebody
do or say something that they normally wouldn't even if that celebrity isn't intentionally
weaponizing their fame money or power - even if that celebrity isn't intentionally
weaponizing their fame money or power
And there you have it.
He's blaming people, that can't control themselves because they get all too excited when they
are messaging with a celebrity and the so called celebrity which is absolutely pure
and with no ill intentions and if by any chance there's something that remotely resembles
a power imbalance or weaponizing of their fame, then it was not the celebrity's intention
or fault at all.
I'm sure Armie Hammer agrees with that.
In the end, this is not about James Charles.
This is about learning to spot those clues of deception so you can spot them in your
everyday conversations.
I'm sure this is not going to be the last time we have to watch a James Charles apology
video, but I'm sure that when it happens again, you'll be more than ready to spot those secret
nonverbal clues.
Did you spot any other clues in the video?
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