"How to deal with a negative wife?"
Do you want to become a psychologist or
a teacher, or do you want to have a
better marriage?
My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation
on the premise that all marriages
are gotten into because
people want to be happier and they want
to experience
love. And what you're telling
me by asking this question is you're
telling me that
those two elements,
the goals of marriage are not being met
in your marriage so of course your wife
is going to be
negative. It's not because of this or
that.
It's because your marriage which is
supposed to produce happiness
and love is not. Because if it were
her negativity would dissipate
to a huge degree. Now maybe not entirely
because people have their own things
that they're working on
but at least you would be in a place
where you could give her the loving
support to help her get through
those negative states but you're not
doing that. Are you?
You're more focused on me, "What about me?"
Because we live in a what about me world
and we don't realize that marriage is
all about what about her,
what about him. You can't
experience love by just being the
recipient of it. Did you know that?
The way to really experience love and
you could check this out in your own
life.
The way to experience love is by giving
it.
If you have kids and you've watched them
asleep
and your heart just opens up to them
that is the greatest example of what I'm
talking about
because they're not loving you. They're
asleep
but you're loving them and you're
feeling love
in ways that you can't even describe.
Isn't it true? And that's what you're
supposed to be doing with your wife,
and you're supposed to be expressing it
for your sake too
but also for her sake. You think if you
flooded her with love like you did when
you were
courting her, when you were dating that
she would be negative?
What happened? What happened? Take some
responsibility
for how you have undermined the dynamic
of a loving fulfilling marriage.
You know we're uneducated
about marriage in our world. All the all
the education out there is
miseducation -- it's bad stuff. It doesn't
really
work. I teach
principles that are
undeniable and how they apply in
marriage.
You should be learning more about
marriage every day. Subscribe to this
channel --
it's free. It's a good way to learn about
marriage.
There's better ways too, reading one of
my books, taking the course for men.
I think that everyone should get so
educated like I am.
I mean I don't know more than you
because I'm smarter.
I know more about marriage than you
because I did the work.
And so, you can benefit from that and you
ought to
because the result of knowing is being
happier every single day of your life
than you were the day before, and it's
also
so you could experience unconditional
love. There's nothing
better than that and sex -- sure, you'll
have tons of sex when you know what's
going on
and you have your marriage and it's
running right.
So you can't do anything about her
negative state directly
but by being indirect, by healing your
marriage,
by changing yourself into a loving
compassionate
husband, you will
help her transcend those negative states
just as a natural course of events.
So like this if it was of a benefit and
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See what we have going here because it's
really good stuff.
Blessings to you, your wife, and your
family! Thanks for spending time with me!