we've all been there you have an amazing
friend and they have a partner who you
do not really like do you just be nice
about your tongue do you vocalize your
opinion well the first thing is to
figure out why you do not like them
because if you feel upset because your
friend is no longer available to you
because their time is now divided
between you and their partner that has
nothing to do with their relationship
and everything to do with your own
insecurities and if that's the case then
it's time for you to work on you by
strengthening other support systems
picking up hobbies and sometimes
speaking up if your friend is the kind
of person who gets lost in a
relationship and totally neglects their
friendships I used to be that girl so
call me out if I do it but maybe you
don't like this person because you
genuinely think that they're a bad fit
for your friend in this case you can say
something but make sure that your
opinion is not one rooted in judgment
judgment is like your boyfriend is a
dick versus I just feel really
uncomfortable when I see him act like
that judgment your boyfriend is a day
versus his behavior really concerns me
it's also helpful to point out specifics
about problematic behavior rather than
blanket statements so a generalization
would be your boyfriend is a you guessed
it yeah versus he just made no attempt
to meet you halfway and you're such a
generous person that I can't even
imagine you exhibiting that kind of
selfishness you know and I just worry
about you being emotionally neglected in
this relationship but how do you feel
but ultimately this is your friends
relationship so before you even bring it
up I would think long and hard about why
you feel this way whether or not your
friend would even be receptive to
hearing your opinion and the extent of
the behavior that you're witnessing
because everyone has flaws and all
relationships are gonna come with their
own set of problems no one's perfect and
usually your friend is willing to accept
some negative behavior in exchange for
all of the positive benefits in that
relationship that you may not be
witnessing because even if he is a dick
he's probably using that dick in a way
that makes her feel great all you can do
is be supportive kind and honest when it
calls for it I'm Anna Akana stay awesome
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