Allah Loves Those Who Are Clean And Allah Loves Those Who
Are Pure. We Have To Purify The Heart And We Have To Clean
Ourselves Externally As Well As Internally. Remember The Almighty Says
Allah Loves Those Who Constantly Repent
And Those Who Cleanse Themselves.
This Is Verse Number.
222 Of Surat Al-Baqarah, So My Brothers And Sisters If
You Look At Cleanliness While We Must Keep Our Hands Clean
While We Must Wash Ourselves, While We Must Actually Clean
Ourselves In A Specific Way Five Times A Day To Make Ourselves
Ready For The Prayer.
We Must Make Sure That Our Clothes Are Clean.
Our Surrounding Is Clean.
The Environment Is Clean.
The House Is Clean.
The Bedding Is Cleaned.
The Food We Eat Is Clean. All This Is Part Of The Goodness That
The Almighty Expects From Us.
Now.
The Almighty Only Tells Us To Do That Which Is Actually Beneficial For Us.
So It Can Never Be That He'S Instructed Us Something And
It'S Not Good For Us.
It Has To Be Beneficial. It Will Be Whether We Understand
It Or Not. Sometimes Disease Spreads And We Don'T Realize
That The Almighty Had Granted Us A Gift By
Teaching Us About Cleanliness.
So It Did Not Spread As Much Amongst Us.
However At Times It'S Just A Lesson For Us To Appreciate
What The Almighty Has Actually Revealed.
So We Become More Conscious Of The Cleanliness Factor.
That'S A Gift Of Allah, You Want Comfort In Times Of Crisis?
Make Sure That You Keep Yourselves Clean.
Make Sure You Clean Your Heart.
Like I Said Because What'S The Point Of Having Such A Good-Looking
Outward Appearance And Your Hands Are Clean And Everything
Else Is Smart, Your Clothes Ironed Very Well.
You'Re Looking Very Neat With Your Haircut And Whatever Else
It Might Be.
But The Way You Speak Is So Bad.
Your Heart Is Dirty, Filled With Disease Filled With Hatred
Jealousy Deception And So On If We Cleanse Ourselves, We
Will Definitely Be Able To Achieve The Comfort. Allah Says,
He Loves Those Who Seek Forgiveness And Also Loves Those
Who Are Very Very Clean.
So If You Were To Seek Forgiveness From The Almighty, Then
You Would Automatically Have To Clean Your Heart Because
The Two Go Together Hand In Hand, You Clean Your Heart, You
Seek The Forgiveness Of The Almighty.
He Forgives You And You Have A Big Heart To Forgive Others
As Well.
Now One Of The Things Where People Go Wrong Is In Marriage
When The Marriage Is Struggling. Remember Marriage Is A Very
Big Sacrifice. If You Are Going To Sacrifice, You Will Be
Happy. If Not, It Will Become A Crisis.
So If You Want To Protect Yourself From The Crisis Within
Marriage Learn To Trust One Another And Don'T Give Reason
For Your Spouse Not To Trust You.
So While We Are Teaching You To Trust One Another We'Re Telling
You Don'T Give Reason For The Other Not To Trust You.
So This Is A Very Balanced Statement.
We Must Make Sure We Don'T Pry And Spy On Each Other Because
The Almighty'S Warned Us About That. Similarly, Speak Good
With Each Other, Help Each Other, Reach Out To Each Other, Don'T
Put Pressure Or Don'T Actually Ask One Another To Do That
Which Is Going To Be Difficult Very Difficult Because Then
It Might Create A Crack In That Marriage But The Almighty
Says, Do You Know What?
As Much As It'S A Sacrifice, We Want You To Love Each Other.
We Want You To Have Children Together And To Bring Those
Children Up In My Obedience.
The Almighty Says That'S The Whole Aim.
It'S Not About Having Children And Having More Children And
You Don'T Even Look After Them And You'Re Not Even Bothered
That Defeats The Whole Purpose.
But If You Have Children And You Look After Them And You
Give Them A Good Upbringing Then You Will Be From Among Those
Whose Protected From Crisis. Many People Have Children And
The Children Are Them Reason That They'Re Upset And Increases
The Children Sometimes Are The Source Of Their Hardship.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Not Let That Happen To Us.
So Allah Says However At Times It Might End Up Being Very
Difficult Such That You Are Discussing Divorce, Divorce In
Islam Is Not Prohibited, But It'S Not A Joke Either.
It'S A Last Resort When Someone Really Cannot Make The This
Marriage Work Anymore And It'S Causing Problem Hardship, Difficulty.
It'S Becoming A Strain On The Brain In That Particular Case,
You May Want To Consider Separating And Allah Says When You
Separate It'S Definitely Difficult.
There Will Be Other Acts Of Worship,
You'Re Going To Have To Engage In That You Never Engaged
In Before For Example, If You Have Children, You Will Have
To Allow Access Or Custody To Either Party.
You Will Have To Allow.
Whether You Marry Again Or Not.
You Have No Option But To Cooperate If You Don'T The Almighty
Is Watching, He Knows, So Make Things Easy Never Use Your Children
As A Tool Or A Weapon Against One Another. Look After Them
Spend On Them.
Even If They Happen To Be With The Mother. Make Sure That
The Children Are Given The Best Upbringing And It'S All About
The Goodness Of Those Children. Learn To Respect The Mother
Or The Father Of Your Children, Even If They Are No Longer
Your Spouse, Learn To Respect Them For The Mere Fact That You
Had Children Together, Even If They Did Bad Things But Put
All Those Bad Things Aside When It Comes To The Betterment
Of The Children.
Yes, There Are Cases Where If A Parent Was So Abusive That
They Don'T Qualify Anymore For The Access Or The Custody
That Is A Different Issue, But That'S Not The Norm.
That'S Not What Happens All The Time.
We Must Try And Give The Children A Balanced Upbringing In Order
To Avoid Ourselves A Crisis And In Order To Grant Ourselves
The Comfort That We So Need, May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala
Bless Every One Of Us. When You Make Someone Else'S Life Difficult
Allah Makes Your Life Difficult,
Remember That, It Has To Happen That Way. So My Beloved Brothers
And Sisters Allah Speaks About Divorce In Suratul Baqarah
And Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Says Well There Is A Way Of
Divorcing. You Divorce Once, Thereafter You May Reconcile.
Wow.
Imagine What Type Of Comfort, It'S The Only Teaching Across
The Globe Throughout All Religions That If You Were To Divorce
The Almighty Says, Well, You Can Reconcile, Come Back
You May, You Might Have Realized Something And You Want To
Come Back. So Allah Says
And If He Had Divorced At Her, There Is No Harm.
If Both Of Them Would Like To Get Back To Each Other Together.
That'S The First Divorce.
So Allah Says Well If You Feel You Made A Mistake And You
Shouldn'T Have Divorced, Come Back Come Back Together.
Look At The Comfort Allah Is Giving You In Times Of Crisis.
It Was A Crisis, You Made A Mistake You Divorced Someone, Allah
Says, Hang On We Have Comfort For You.
What'S The Comfort? Get Back Together.
But Remember When You Divorce Do It The Proper Way, Learn
How To Issue The Divorce.
Now Allah, Make It Easy For Us.
Some People Do The Wrong Thing Then They Scream For Help.
When They Cannot Be Helped Because They Were Foolish In The First Place.
But Allah Says, Don'T Worry.
We Will Help You, You Do It The Right Way.
We Allow You To Get Back Together Not Once But Twice, Two
Times You Can Get Back Together.
So If You Made A Mistake And Divorced First Time Come Back,
If You Divorce The Second Time You Had A Change Of Heart,
Something Happened, Which Was Positive.
You Felt Perhaps You Wanted To Get Back Or You Thought You
Made A Mistake.
Allah Says You Can Get Back A Second Time, Subhanallah.
Look At The Power Of Allah.
Look At The Comfort
He'S Given Us Amazing.
And This Is In Surah Al-Baqarah Verse Number 230, Allah Subhanahu
Wa'Ta'Ala Tells Us In A Beautiful Way.
Then Allah Says If You'Ve Divorced Your Spouse Don'T Become
Upset When They Want To Marry Someone Else, Make It Easy For
Them. Let Them Go. Sometimes A Person Divorces And
When They Hear That Their Ex Wants To Get Married.
They Start Putting A Spoke In The Wheels And A Spanner In
The Works And They Contact The New Supposed Spouse And Begin
To Spread Rumor And Say Hurtful And Hateful Things. Allah
Says Do Not Do That.
You Want Comfort In Your Life.
Let Others Live Comfortably.
It'S Okay.
You Didn'T Get Along, They Will Get Along With Someone Else
That'S What Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Says. So He Warns Us.
He Says Don'T Hold Them Back.
Don'T Hold A Woman Back In A Way That She'S Neither Married
To You Because You'Re Not Fulfilling Her Rights
Nor Is She Divorced Because You Haven'T Issued The Divorce
So She Cannot Go To Someone Else, Either Fulfill Her Rights
Properly Or Release Her Respectfully, That Is How You Will
Achieve Comfort.
Otherwise, You Will Be In The Biggest Crisis.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Protect Us From Crises.
So Allah Subhanahu, What To Allah Says That Remember The
Favours Of Allah Upon You. Remember That Allah Has Blessed
You With So Much. So Count The Favours Of Allah, Don'T Have
A Chapter Opened And You Want To Interfere Negatively In
Your Ex'S Life, Don'T Ever Do That.
That'S Your Ex-Spouse Or That Is A Person You Didn'T Get
Along With Leave Them Alone.
Say A Good Word About Them.
And That'S It.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa'Ta'Ala Grant Us Goodness.
Similarly The Parents, The Parents Are Being Addressed To Say
When The Divorced A Girl Wants To Marry
Someone Else. Don'T Make It Hard For Them.
We Go A Step Further And Say My Beloved Parents When Your
Daughters Or Your Sons Would Like To Marry Someone, Don'T
Say No Without A Valid Valid Reason, If You Don'T Have A Valid
Reason And Racism Is Not A Valid Reason, Tribalism Is Not
A Valid Reason. The Fact That This Person Is Darker In Complexion
Is Never A Valid
Reason. So Remember Allow The Marriages And Allah Will Allow
For You To Enter Paradise.
Remember If There Are Making A Mistake After You'Ve Tried
To Explain To Them Your Opinion And They'Re Still Stuck On
Their View And They Don'T Want To Budge.
It'S Better Sometimes To Allow Them To Make What You Think
Is A Mistake And You Might Be Surprised That They Will Be
So Happy And Even If It Does End Up Being A Mistake, It'S
Not The End Of The World.
They Can Actually Come Back Home And Still Happy And You
Can Tell Them My Child.
I Love You.
I Told You It Wouldn'T Work.
But If We Were To Stagnate And We Were To Actually Never
Consider What They Want Perhaps We Would Be Creating A Crisis
Out Of A Comfortable Situation, Which Is Actually The Opposite
Of What We'Re Talking About Today.
So My Brothers And My Sisters And My Beloved Parents Facilitate
For Your Siblings And Your Children To Get Married In A Good
Way. Give Them Good Guidance From The Beginning.
Tell Them What Marriage Is All About Tell Them, How To Choose
A Spouse So That The Day They Do Take That Step.
They Will Remember Your Words.
The Difficulty Is We Never Participate In The Lives Of Those
Who Are Supposed To Be Participating In And Then We Complain
May Allah Forgive Us.