What's going on - Tripp Kramer here from trippadvice.com. On today's video, I'm just
doing a rapid fire of a bunch of questions that came in through my Instagram. On Instagram every
once in a while I have people do a Q&A where I can answer their questions and give some quick answers
for it. We're gonna go through a bunch of those right now. If you don't follow me on Instagram,
what are you doing man? Go over there. You can even DM me - I respond to pretty much every
single DM. So hit me up, Tripp Advice, I'll put a link in the description down below. Alright,
let's get to some Q&A. First question how to be good at texting. Okay, so in a quick answer how
to be good at texting, you actually don't ever want to be good at texting or be able to create
a skill out of texting. Texting just needs to be used as a logistical tool. Texting is best used
when you're asking her to meet up with you and you're trying to get her on a date. The reason
why you don't want to be texting otherwise, or doing too much texting otherwise, it's because
there's a lot of room for error. People read text messages in their own voice. If you say something,
and she's reading in her own voice, and you didn't mean it in the way that it was perceived,
like you're trying to flirt with her or tease her or whatever, it could turn her off and then you
can get her unattracted to you. We don't want that. How to be good at texting? - only use it
as a means of meeting up. Next person asks what stories to tell if you don't have any.
I think what this person means is if you're on a date or talking to someone and you tell stories,
you talk about your life, what do you do, and you don't have any stories to tell? My simple answer,
start creating stories in your life. It's like get more active. I don't think there's a hack
here unless you want to just lie. But you should be doing things with your life to create more
stories. You should be going on more adventures, being more spontaneous, doing more travels, saying
yes to more things, trying things that you never tried before. Get active and engaged in your life
in a way that can eventually create those stories. That's what I did. I have a ton of stories,
all because I was more adventurous and said yes to a lot of things and tried to get outside of
my comfort zone. I think that's a key there too. It all starts with getting outside of your comfort
zone, the things that you do that scares you the most are usually going to turn into fun stories.
Next question - where to find girls in small town and how to approach them? I get a lot of guys who
live in small towns, what are you supposed to do? I know there's no easy answer for this. But the
next best answer that I've been able to solve for most people, especially guys who are in the Tripp
Advice coaching program, who joined the program and we give them homework to approach and then
lo and behold, they live in a small town, what do we do? They gotta drive and you should drive
to the next nearest town. I want you to drive upwards of an hour to the next town
that's closest to you where there are more people to mee. Where are there more people
you can even meet through online dating? I think a lot of guys underestimate what they're able
to do. You probably think an hour is far away to drive. But that's nothing. I mean, I'll tell you,
back in my day, I was driving at least an hour when I was living outside of Hollywood to go
and approach and and talk to more women. You should absolutely use that. It's an hour, big
deal. You drive and you go there. Now if you're like I don't have a town even near me that's
like the closest is an hour and a half away. What am I supposed to do? Honestly,
I don't have a magic answer for you. If dating and meeting women is a priority for you, then you
might want to prioritize living in a bigger city and moving. No one can magically just put women
there in your city. I'd also say hopefully in your small town as much as you can utilize any events
or anything going on so you have more options to meet women, rather than just doing it online. Next
question - how to approach a girl appropriately when we find them attractive? My best line,
my favorite line you say "Hey, two seconds. I wanted to come and meet you." Does your coaching
program really work? Yes, of course it works. We have transformed 1000s of guys in the past
10 years. We have taken them from either virgins or super unconfident, or divorcees who are ready
to meet a great woman and we just turned these guys into rock stars. It happens every single
day. Our coaching staff is working with all these guys to make it so that they have a dating life,
a daily life that is completely turned around. If you need help with that, go to the link in
the bio - TrippAdviceCoaching.com. Can you get out of the friendzone? Quick answer is rarely. I would
rather focus on avoiding the friendzone then focus on the strategy to get out of the friendzone,
because it is so rare that you're going to do so because a woman, once she sees you as a friend,
it's hard to make that jump to lover. Try to work on never getting into it rather than avoiding it.
What are the qualities women find attractive in a man? I would say decisive, assertive, confident,
effective, mentally strong. What is a good method of knowing if you're acting like a simp? How can
I see through the fog? If you're doing things to convince her that you are the prize, instead
of being the prize, that's how you know you're being a simp. You're trying to trade something
to get sex from her, instead of being a guy that she already wants to have sex with. What if she's
losing interest? How do you get her back? You don't. You want to move on because you want to be
with a woman who wants to be with you. How to read a room to know if a woman is interested in you?
I'll say here, instead of learning the skill of reading a room, learn the skill of going over
and talking to a woman that you're interested in. You'll never know 100% if a woman wants to
talk to you or not. There can be women out there, who you see who look like they are in the worst
mood and they don't want to be talked to. And then all of a sudden you go and approach them and they
just open up. That would have been a woman who you would have read as someone who didn't want
to talk to anybody, but you missed your chance. Stop reading the room and start learning how to go
over and just approach them. Is "nice guys finish last" a valid statement? Well, I like to say this;
nice guys never finish at all. What I mean is, if you're a guy who's your typical nice guy,
who's a pushover, unopinionated, just does things to get people to like them or try to
get attention. You are never going to be able to attract the kind of woman you want because you're
utilizing the niceness as a method of attraction. When niceness is a commodity, that's not what
women are attracted to. They like it when you're nice, but they're not attracted to the niceness
portion of who you are. They're attracted to what I said earlier, the decisiveness, being assertive,
being confident, being someone who's effective. That's more important. Would you say approaching
in a grocery store is harder than a bar or what about a coffee shop? Interesting question. Try
not to compare. I don't know. That's kind of a personal question. Maybe someone has a harder
time doing it in certain places. But instead of comparing or trying to figure out where it's
harder or where it's easier, you should just be going out there and starting conversations. All
right, last one, this is a good one, thoughts on approaching girls with headphones in.
If a girl's wearing headphones, you should not let that stop you from going over and talking to
them. Basically, what you're saying to yourself is, oh she's got headphones in so therefore,
I'm going to let another great woman walk away when this could have been your next girlfriend.
You're letting headphones get in the way? No, no more. The girls wearing headphones,
you just go up to her and you stop her and you say hey, excuse me two seconds, and you make a little
signal with your hand to pull out the headphones, a little bit of smile on your face, she'll get the
hint and then you can start the conversation. Hope that all helps. Check out the coaching program if
you need help and follow me on Instagram and say hello where I'll be doing more Q and A's.