What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Hey, I got 3 things you've got to
stop doing right now. And when you stop doing those things, you're going to have
some sanity. So, let's get your sanity back.
Hey, check it out. It's happened to you. It's probably happening to you right now.
You're overwhelmed. You've got so much going on. You feel the weight of it
weighing on you. Starting to drop the ball in different places and you're not
getting your things done. And starting to come back at you or maybe
you're this kind of person... And I know how this feels.
You're laying in bed and you can't go to sleep. There's so many things on your
mind, you can't even go to sleep. Okay, what do we do? How do you do something
about this because you're starting to feel like something's wrong with you. I
mean, really like sometimes when you hit overwhelmed, you think there's
something wrong with you, something's broken and and you're starting to look
at yourself like, it's just not going to be able to make it. Alright, slow down. All
you got to do, is recalibrate. That's all you got to do is recalibrate. Now,
consider this, you've made all the decisions you've made and you've
committed to all the things you commit to because you believed you could do it
all, you really did. And yeah, you probably overcommitted on some things and got
yourself into too many projects. But the thing is you really believe that you
could do it. So, your mind is stretching and believing and really stepping out
there but the rest of your life hasn't caught up with that.
So, you're caught in this whole realm called "overwhelmed." It's where your
thoughts and your abilities are not quite side by side. You got the big
thinking but your abilities are not quite up to that level yet and so,
you find yourself being overwhelmed. Well, let me let me talk to you about what's
going on. And then what do you do to get yourself out of this overwhelmed stage. And
so, really, your abilities can catch up to the way you're thinking.
So, overwhelmed is very natural, very normal but don't get stuck in it. That's
the thing is don't get stuck. You've got to do something about it and this is
what you do. So, first let's discuss this here that
you can have a problem that literally is over your head and that you can't handle
it. And it's really smothering you or kind of sitting on top of you but check
this out, the same problem can be addressed by the same person but the
person actually has a bigger image or a bigger ability and they can
actually be above their problems. So, all you got to do is... You can't change your
problems. I mean, seriously, you can't get away from problems in your life and
challenges and opportunities. They're always going to be there. But you can adjust
how you are acting and responding to the things around you. So, let me show you
some things of what to start doing and definitely what to stop doing. So, that
you're not in this place of being overwhelmed. So, a couple things for you
to start is number 1 for you to look at, it's time to build you. When you
start to get overwhelmed is because literally the image you have of yourself
is still small. Your thinking is big but your imagery of how you're doing things
is pretty small. And so, to build you, really comes from the place of how you
talk to yourself. Self-talk is everything. Self-talk is what you can talk
yourself into having better abilities or you can talk yourself out of it. You
could totally slam yourselves and really beat yourself up with self-talk. Or you
could use self-talk to really open yourself up to be a better team player, a
better delegator, a better time manager, so you're not so overwhelmed. But talk
yourself through this and up to the next level. So, self-talk about your abilities.
And so, when things are not going right, don't cave in. Use self-talk to
strengthen you, to build yourself and how you see yourself. Because self-talk is
everything. Second is recovery. When you have a big day and you've had a tough
day or a tough week, rarely do I meet somebody who actually
has a recovery plan. Now, recovery means from a big tough day or a big tough week,
what do you do? How are you going about the action steps of recovering from that?
Meaning, what's your healing practices? Do you take a hot shower? Do you soak in the
tub? Do you sit down and listen to music? Do you meditate? Do you unload your
emotions and your thoughts? You know what are some of the things that you can do
to have a better recovery plan? And I just named a few, let's just repeat one
more time is that you know a hot shower, soak in the tub, set outside in nature,
sit down listen to some calm music, use some meditation CD's. That will all help
you, so that you can sleep better that night. And definitely, definitely if
you're somebody who really goes for with a lot of projects, you gotta be using a
meditation CD at nighttime to help you recover from that, so you can sleep deep.
But your recovery plan, how do you heal after a big day? That needs to be put in
place. Okay, the next thing is it creates overwhelmed is you're being indecisive
about some of the projects or things you're doing. And so, when you put
decisions off, those moments of indecision literally weigh on your mind
and they stack up. And as soon as they stack up, it gets to that, all that
overwhelmed experience again. If you don't know the answer, come up with a
practice answer. Come up with an answer that you may consider but to leave
things completely indecisive or in decided or not decided, now you say that
part. But it's not being decided yet, it's going to take up brain space. Every
challenge or obstacle or opportunity you have in your mind that you have not made
a decision about but you're holding it your thoughts, is taking energy. It's
taking up some real estate inside your mind. And so, once you have
enough of those, you're not going to have any brain space and you're going to really
trip into that big overwhelmed feeling. So, make a list of all the decisions you
have to make. Keep a log of them. Don't just keep them in your brain. Put
it on your phone, put them on your computer. Of all the different things
that are going on that you still need to make decisions up, right next to it, give
a practice answer. Not a final answer but a practice answer and because you gave
it a practice answer, it actually gives your mind a little bit of space to go
work on something else that you're thinking about. But if you leave too many
open questions in your mind, it'll just suck the juice right out of you. You
will definitely slide it into being overwhelmed. So, make some practice
answers. Next one, you got to get better at playing with the team. Better
delegating, better at asking people to support you and help you. You might be in
that place where you're just doing too much yourself. So, to get into that better
place of being a team, that means asking people for help. I know, I know and I know
you're thinking. But they might do it wrong or they're too slow or I don't
like how they're doing it. You got to get there. The skill has to
happen. So, if you don't know what to do in this place, go get a book. Go get a
book about tribe or team or collaboration or delegation. Any of those
topics. Get a book and read a book about this because if you don't have the skill,
go get the skill. Don't just sit there and say, "Oh, I can't do this with the team."
You're going to really mess yourself up if you don't learn how to work with a team.
And the last one here is your ability to sleep deep is going to determine your
success or not. I really believe that how a person sleeps is really what's
affecting them in their success and what's happening. Because when you don't
sleep deep, you don't process your day very well. And so, when you don't process
your day, you wake up with yesterday still totally infesting your mind. The
reason why you go to sleep is to create space in your mind and build this calm
some thoughts down and sort some things out. So, use meditation CD's and prepare
your sleep space, so it's more conducive to deeper sleep. That means black tape on
all the little lights in your room. Cut down on the electronics in your room.
Make it as noise proof as possible. Go to bed earlier. Just give yourself 30
minutes sooner, so that you can get some extra sleep because when you're when
you're low on sleep, you're going to be high on overwhelm this, seriously. You get
enough sleep, you can handle anything. Get enough sleep. Okay, so here's a couple of
things to stop doing. Number 1 thing to stop doing in this whole overwhelm place
is you are being a fixer. You're trying to fix everybody's stuff. You take on
everybody's projects and you're trying to fix people's lives and their
situations and all these things. You're trying to fix way too much stuff. Instead,
be a coach to people and teach them how to fix things. But when you try to be a
fixer, you're going to live... you're going to literally have like the
main street living place on the street of overwhelmed. Really? Is that what you
want? No! Stop not being a fixer. Teach people how to
fix things. Don't fix everything for everybody. Then a loner. So, if you're not
a fixer, you're a loner. And that means I don't ask people for help, I don't want
to do this, I don't involve people. People drive me crazy. Boy, you're not going to make
it. You just can't make it. Try to be a loner, the world... The success in this
life is not about "Can you do it all by yourself?" It's about how do you work with
people. And I talked about the team thing, right? Go get a book, start reading about
how to be a team person but stop being a loner. And then the last one.
Aha! If you're overwhelmed, most likely you're a perfectionist.
The reason why I know that is because everything that has been done is still
bothering you. You can't even let go of it because
you're still worried if it was done right. If we could have tweaked a little
bit more, if you could have done something a bit different. You're still
totally consumed with the things that've been finished. And really, what you ought
to be is you're just... It's just done. But you're perfectionist is going to
totally keep you involved with things from weeks and months and months ago
because it's still going to bother you. And so, how do you get past for
perfectionism? Is you allow yourself to have steps and gauges along the way that
you can have progress. Progress is more important than perfectionism. Because I
know, we could argue about this but I'm just going to say this, wouldn't you much
rather have progress? Wouldn't you rather have progress than perfection?
you can hit you can keep your perfectionism. But I'm going to pass you up
every day with progress. Now, I'm a perfectionist.
Big time perfectionist and I have to manage it.
But to totally manage it, so it doesn't stop me. Because this can stop you. And it can
just keep on top of you. All these other things. Just tell yourself, "I love
progress while I'm learning how to be better at being a perfectionist." But
be in the mode of progress. Be in the mode of progress. Perfectionism will show
up. But first, get progress. Be in the place of progress. Okay! Stop doing this
stuff. Start doing those things and come on. Get it yourself out of being
overwhelmed. It's time. Seriously, it's time. Get to this place. It doesn't have
to... It doesn't have to smash you or be over the top of your head. Okay, you
know what to do. Go get it done. Okay. I want to know. What are you doing to get
yourself up and out of that overwhelmed experience? Hey, share your comments below.
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