When you scroll through your instagram and see how rich and famous people live, you realize
how boring is your life.
These people are travelling the world every day, doing extraordinary things and making
a lot of money, their life looks more like a dream than a reality.
Of course time to time we imagine ourselves in that position, enjoying the luxury life
but then we realize that we don’t have the courage or the confidence to do what it takes
to build that kind of lifestyle so we get back to our normal life.
In fact, we start believing that these people are simply born with such talents to achieve
extraordinary things and its not your fault that you weren’t born like that.
But thats just an excuse we give ourselves so that don’t feel that bad about ourselves.
But the truth is that, if you go back in time, you will find that most of these people weren’t
as confident as they are today and had to struggle a lot to develop self confidence.
Because confidence is a skill that can be learnt like reading or writing and thats exactly
what this video will teach you
But before that, Lets understand how confidence works in the first place!
If I tell you to go to Starbucks and get yourself a cup of coffee, you wouldn’t feel doubtful
or scared to do that because thats the normal thing to do when you get into the Starbucks,
thats what everyone else does, so you will feel calm and peaceful doing that.
But what if I tell you to jump onto to the table and sing your favourite song, you will
probably think twice before doing that because that doesn’t seems normal, people would
think that you are an idiot.
Thats not what Smart and normal people do.
Thats what stupid people and you don’t want to appear stupid.
So, if you pay a close attention to both scenarios, you will realize that confidence is a game
of perceptions.
If you would have thought that getting onto to the table and dancing is a normal thing
to do, you wouldn’t feel doubtful doing that exactly like ordering that cup of coffee.
You dont have to be smart, strong or famous to be confident, you just need to change your
perspective towards doing unusual things.
The only reason you are afraid to stand up and ask that question in the middle of your
class is because you think that your classmates would think that you are an idiot since you
dont know such an obvious thing.
But what if its not obvious, what if its the most difficult thing to understand and no
one in your classroom knows the answer!
you would feel proud to ask that question!
Because everyone will look at you and say - this guy must be smart!
So a lot of times we are not confident is because we are afraid to appear like an idiot!
But what if being an idiot is a normal thing, in fact it is a normal thing because the only
reason humanity is progressing, is because we are doing a lot of stupid things and then
learning out of them.
A lot of people whom we consider to be successful today have done things that seemed stupid
at its time (like colonising mars).
So keep that in mind next time you are afraid to look like a fool!
Accept yourself the way you are, a human being, who is ignorant, who is weak, who constantly
needs to improve and learn.
So no matter what life throws at you, you will stay confident since you understand thats
how life works!
Probably thats why Churchill said: “if you are going through hell, keep going!”
And with every bold action you take, it starts becoming normal for you to do that and eventually
it becomes as normal as ordering a cup of coffee in a Starbucks.
I am not trying to tell you that you have to make a complete fool out of yourself and
do every stupid thing that comes into your mind.
Sometimes overconfidence leads to horrible consequences.
The point is of course to think rationally before taking an action but at the same time
be fearless when you have to take a bold action.
In short, confidence is a state of mind, and with practice and patience you can be as confident
as you ever dreamed about!
and now its your turn, what do you think?
Whats the one thing you wanted to do but you haven’t done it yet because you are not
confident enough?
Lets share each others secret in the comments below!
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