Hey everybody.
Happy Thursday.
And since it's Thursday,
I'm doing an FAQ video / update.
[Trumpet noise]
I feel like it should be one of those news things.
Where you're like,
Diddly-diddly-diddly-do,
Update!
So, many of you in the London and the UK area as a whole,
Have been like,
'Kati, when are you coming to the UK and coming to Scotland.'
'I heard you are coming. Oh my god.'
'Blah blah blah, what's the update?'
So,
The best I can give you now.
Is that I am flying in on the 21st,
Which is a Saturday.
Of March.
The 21st of March.
So it's like what, three weeks away.
Two weeks away from Saturday.
And I'm coming out on that next,
Not the following Monday, obviously.
But the Monday after.
Which is the 30th.
Okay.
21st to the 30th.
Now with time differences.
And the time it takes to fly.
I'm not sure if I get in the following days in Scotland.
Or if that's when I get in in Scottish time.
Anyway,
That's a rough estimation of when I'm going to be there.
And since I will be speaking at the Elgin Youth Cafe.
If any of you haven't looked them up, look them up.
It's just Elgin Youth Cafe in Scotland.
I'll be speaking there,
I believe twice.
And then I know that they have asked me to go to,
Spend another day, one other day,
Going around to their local schools.
And checking out, you know, maybe talking to some kids there.
It's just kind of right now like a free-floating schedule.
So I will, once I get a more condensed schedule.
And we have an idea of exactly how long I will be speaking here,
And what I will be doing there.
I will shoot that out.
I will make sure that information is on the website.
So make sure you are signed up at katimorton.com
Because I will put that information out.
And I will definitely do a meet-up in that area.
I am, Sean and I are flying to Scotland.
And we are staying in Elgin the whole time.
We will obviously be doing some fun things around the area.
And I'm very excited.
And I have to look up some stuff that we want to do.
But I'll be in that area.
So if any of you are looking like,
'Hey, where do I need to go?'
'Or where would the meet-up be?'
It will be in that area.
We haven't rented a car or anything.
Everything's in like walking distance around the area.
So plan on coming to Elgin Scotland.
Ta-da.
So that's where I will be.
Um, yeah.
So that gives you an idea.
And like I said, when I get more info, I will let you know.
You will be the first to know.
But just for an idea.
The topics of things that I will be talking about,
Are dealing with stress and school.
Also being bullied and managing that.
And then I may on a smaller level,
People who are interested I will do more conversations about, you know,
Self harm and suicide and stuff like that.
So those will be the topics that I am preparing to talk about while I am there.
And then during the meet-up we can just, you know,
Chitty chat.
That's what I usually do.
Meet-ups aren't, I don't have any like structured thing.
It's just like, hidy-ho.
So that is in a nut shell, what's going on.
And I am very excited.
I cannot wait.
Okay.
Lets get going on the questions.
Because that's whated you really want to hear.
Am I right?
First question,
'Kati, is it true that being bullied as a child,'
'Can cause depression in a person's adult life?'
I thought this was a good question.
And I'm doing some,
I'm going to film tomorrow some more topic videos,
For my Monday videos.
So if you have anything that you want me to talk more about.
Or something that you would like me to do a Monday video.
Leave it below would you.
Because that really helps me out.
And the question,
This question was great.
Because I know a lot of us have struggled in our childhood,
And wonder if that's why we're having a tough time as we get older.
And the truth of it is,
That yes,
Being bullied can definitely cause depression as we get older.
But more importantly,
What happens is,
When we don't heal the pains of our past.
When things have happened to us when we were young,
And we just never really got over it.
And we never had a chance to process.
We never saw a therapist.
We never were able to vent.
And to cry.
And be upset.
And have someone console us,
And talk us through it.
And so we feel like we have overcome it.
We don't think about it any more.
It doesn't hold any power over us any more.
When all of that stuff has happened,
We don't tend to struggle later in life.
It's when we haven't had proper time to heal.
To process through it.
And to feel like we can kind of put it to bed.
That's when we end up struggling later.
That's when depression rears it's ugly head.
Or anxiety.
A lot of people who were bullied,
Have a lot of social anxiety as they get older.
And depression.
And that is very common.
But it doesn't mean that it is the end all, be all.
Like I said,
If we work on our root issue,
Which will be the being bullied as a child.
And we heal that inner child of us.
We can overcome.
We don't have to be depressed.
Even if you are struggling with depression now because of that.
Seek out a therapist.
See someone.
Start talking about it.
Start working through the trauma that you may have experienced.
And I promise you,
All of those other symptoms that you are feeling,
The anxiety.
The depression.
The just extreme struggles with social situations.
Will all get better.
Honest.
Okay.
Question number two,
'Hey Kati, I have a huge question.'
A huge one.
'I have an eating disorder. I don't have a therapist.'
'And I've only told my pastor and his wife.'
Pastors and groups at church can be a great support.
'I am actually overweight.'
Which you don't have to be underweight to have an eating disorder.
If any of you thought that.
It's a myth.
Total myth.
'This all started when I went on a diet at the wrong moment in my life.'
'I still have a substantial amount of weight to lose,'
'To be at a weight that my doctor would prefer me to weigh.'
Like a healthy weight.
Not unhealthy.
'Do I have to stop losing weight to get better?'
'Or is there a way that I can conquer the voice in my head telling me not to eat.'
'While still losing weight.'
'P.s. I'm so glad I found you.'
I'm glad that you found me too.
This has been a question,
I addressed this years and years ago.
I believe at some point.
And I felt that it needed to be talked about again.
Can we recover from a eating disorder while still losing weight?
With our doctor's approval.
Like she's saying,
Her doctor feels that she is overweight,
And that it's unhealthy for her body.
And it's healthy for her to lose weight.
Yes we can.
However, weight loss cannot be our goal.
That's the eating disorder goal.
Healthy living,
Healthy body, healthy mind.
Has to be our goal.
And we have to work in conjunction with our doctor,
And a dietician or a, you know, nutritionist.
Whatever you have available in your area.
Because it is pivotally important,
That we get all of the nutrients and energy that our body needs.
Without under feeding it.
And without over feeding it.
And having people who are monitoring that,
Checking our blood work.
Making sure everything is good.
Which is completely out of my standard of care.
That is not something that I can do for my clients.
But it's something that needs to happen,
When we're working on getting healthier,
And recovering from a eating disorder.
While losing weight.
To become healthier as a whole individual.
With the support of our doctor.
Those two can happen.
They don't,
They're not mutually exclusive.
We can't,
We don't always gain weight when we are in recovery from a eating disorder.
Because I feel like all of this belief around this,
That we can't lose weight while in recovery.
Is all because it took so friggen long,
For Binge Eating Disorder to get into the friggen DSM.
That it's just now as the last one came out last March.
That that is now in there.
And people can be like,
'Yes, you can be overweight and have a eating disorder.'
No shit Sherlock.
So, yes.
You can lose weight while recovering.
I actually have a client, two clients,
I am working with now,
That are doing that very same thing.
But you have to work in conjunction with your doctor.
And your dietician.
So that you are not doing an unhealthy manner,
And just flopping your eating disorder to another one.
We know that they are like chameleons.
They can morph into like five different types of eating disorders lickety split.
Okay.
I hope that helps.
Okay, I have a note in here,
That I need to go over the youtube rules of approval of comments.
Many of you are new.
Welcome.
I'm glad you found my channel.
And I am so happy that you are part of our community.
I haven't talked about this in ages.
And many of you know,
That when you submit a comment below,
It's like,
Boop.
It disappears and you don't see it.
And you're like,
Some of you have sent multiple.
You are like, hey, and send this again.
I see them.
But I have to approve them.
Me.
Yes.
No minions.
I wish minions could come across the screen.
But some of them don't come up.
And you're like,
'Why didn't my comment show up?'
And there is many reasons.
Now here are just the basic rules for our community so that it's healthy, happy for all.
No number talk.
If you post a comment like,
'I lost x number of pounds and I weigh x stone' or whatever,
I don't approve those.
Because it can be triggering to those in recovery.
I don't like our eating disorders that get competitive when we read comments.
Also if they are too, like bully-ish type.
Like some people post things like,
'You're an idiot,'
No, ehh.
Hard stop.
I wont approve those.
I don't like people fighting.
That's not what this community is about.
It's about supporting one another.
And actually caring about how each other is doing.
And so, keep that in mind when you post comments.
If you feel like it is hurtful and not constructive.
And it's meant to bring people down.
Chances are,
I won't approve it.
And if, without realising you are putting numbers in and calorie talk,
And all of that stuff.
I can't approve that either.
Because I want this to be a healthy happy environment.
So that we can work together.
And if any of you are like,
'But Kati, I still get those emails when people respond to my comments.'
You can turn that off in your youtube settings,
So you don't have to see that.
Because I don't have any say over that.
I can't stop that from happening.
Because you will still get a notification that they have sent a comment.
Even if I haven't approved it.
So, that's a little glitch that I am kind of frustrated with.
But know that I am doing my best to protect our community.
And to keep it safe, happy, healthy, etc.
Now, journal topic.
Because I love 'Oh the places you will go.'
If you have not read that book from Dr Seuss,
It's a good one.
And it's good for motivation.
Sometimes I like to talk to myself in like, childlike motivation.
Because it just seems so much more real and raw and excitatory.
So this quote from this book is,
'Your mountain is waiting, so get on your way.'
And I think it's just perfect.
Your mountain is waiting.
It's already there.
There is already this wonderful plan in place.
And a wonderful life just waiting.
So put your shoes on.
And get on your way.
What are you waiting for?
If you have been waiting to do this great thing,
Or waiting to make a change.
Or waiting to finally reach out to that person,
Or call that therapist.
Or get back in touch with that friend.
Do it.
The time is now.
And what is it that you are going to do?
What is your, what are you on your way?
What is your mountain?
And what are you doing to get to it?
So put on your shoes and get on your way.
Okay, I love you all.
I will see you all on Monday.
With my regularly scheduled video.
And then again on Thursday.
And, like I said,
As I know more about Scotland, I will let you know.
Bye!
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