- Oh my God.
What if I start crying?
What are they going to do?
It's Netflix they gonna keep rolling.
I have always just loved who I loved when I loved them.
And it just so happened
that I love boys, until I didn't.
(laughing)
I'm Niecy Nash.
Although I would prefer to be called Niecy Nash Betts.
And I am Jessica Betts.
We're newlyweds.
- We are.
- That's why we smiling so big.
(laughing)
Even people that we know
did not find out until we posted a wedding picture
and it went around the world three times
we broke the internet didn't we baby?
- Yeah we did.
We met through the power of social media.
Her reaction or her response to my message
came later, months later
but that's how we
- Oh so you're trying to let people say
that I left you on read?
- She left me on read for a few months
(laughing)
Okay. Listen, I saw her when I was on the east coast
she was getting ready to go out with somebody else.
And you know what I did?
Know what I said?
Did you eat yet?
And I went on and I had to go
and make that baby some food.
And when I came out to New York
we would go to the theater, parties, or
- Dinner.
Yeah. We just hung out totally friends.
She was in a relationship.
I was in a relationship and
that's where it lived for about four and a half years.
Let me just say a little bit about my journey.
And that is that I have always been 100% who I am
and I've always been a person who wanted to
love out loud and it didn't matter who I was with.
It's like, you know, here's
here it is on display, you know
and nobody cared about none of the boys I was married to.
(laughing)
And then I married her and everybody was like,
tell me more.
- I had such a rebellious, you know,
way of going about it because of how I was raised
and who I was raised by. Wonderful people.
But they were very religious.
So my courage came earlier with, you know
just kind of coming into who I am and stuff like that.
So, and I've always loved music
and that's kinda how we met.
Music was sort of like, you know,
how I was able to kind of
relate to a lot of different artists.
And so that's, you know, kind of how our worlds
- Yeah, collided.
- Collided.
- So cute.
- Black love is powerful.
It requires a lot of courage and strength.
And it doesn't matter of, of about your sexuality.
I think it just requires depth,
loyalty,
respect.
- I think it is so beautiful to love with someone
who understands
your pain,
your struggles.
They don't have to try to imagine it.
They don't, they don't, they don't have to get close to it
because they get up in that skin every day and live it.
So there's something beautiful about coming together
with someone
who
completely
has your same experience.
- Her love language is words of affirmation
- and your love language is
quality time
- Quality time.
- and acts of service
- And acts of service.
- We are super, super big fans
of therapy, individual, and couple, because
we discovered in our journey that we're not perfect.
- Yeah, we're not perfect.
You know, and also too,
I feel like this relationship probably wouldn't be
as strong as it is if we wasn't loving ourselves first.
- When Jessica and I first started trying to explore what
this relationship was going to be after this beautiful
friendship we had,
I will tell you that for me
it was not a secret,
but it was private.
We protected it until we could,
could fully figure out what it
what it is, what it was. When someone sees you
and you know that they only have your best interests
at heart.
The things that they tell you, sometimes they can show you
yourself in a way that you're like, wait, I didn't even
(laughing)
- The key to finding the one is to be open.
It says so much more about the person,
when you get to know them for who they are inside.
- Sometimes you're in a space
in a place where it's all about your preference.
and then as you maturate
you understand it's about my priorities.
- I was in that place where, you know, I was just
very vulnerable and looking for love and I was ready for it.
and so now that I'm in love
it has definitely inspired my music.
I'm saying I'm making, you know, love making songs.
It's kind of crazy.
It's really weird.
- Yeah. You're welcome.
- I want to make love all around the world.
I need some stamps in these passports.
You know what I mean?
Break my back over here,
break my back over there.
So that's the plan.
(laughing)
- Oh, traveling.
- Edit that out.
- No!
(laughing continues)
The love is a thing that we were created for
but it's the space that we struggle with the most.
And
if you find it
and you have it,
protect it,
you know,
and also know that even in the worst case scenario
if the wheels fall off of it, you can always get it again.
You know what I mean?
We talk a lot about people having broken hearts
but it is the one thing that is broken that can be mended
by the same thing that broke it
- Love.