This is 29 year old Samantha
Samantha: I'm currently very single.
I want to know how can I approach someone in daylight
So she sought out advice,
from 83 year old Hattie.
Hattie: I am an expert in dating.
men, sexuality and relationships.
So we'll cut to the chase, what do you want?
Samantha: I'm looking for someone
that I can meet beyond the dating app.
Hattie: Let's put my advice into practice, okay? Right away.
Will Samantha have the confidence to approach men the old fashioned way?
Samantha: Hi is it okay if I talk to you for a sec?
Hattie: Yay.
If Sex and the City has taught us anything,
is that dating in New York is hard.
Samantha: Dating in New York is a totally different animal.
I want to know how can I approach someone in day light because
even though it seems like it should be a average, regular kind of thing
I don't know how to even approach that subject
without like seeming like a weirdo or a creep.
Hattie: Now Samantha has been dating from the dating apps,
she wants to meet a person in person.
With apps you don't really know who is on the other side.
that doesn't breathe that doesn't have the seed of life.
Samantha: Hallo?
Nice to meet you.
Hattie: Hi honey how are you doing?
Are you getting what you want?
Samantha: No.
Hattie: Tell me about that.
Samantha: I've been in New York for four years.
I've been single for those four years.
and I'm looking for someone that I can meet beyond the dating app.
meet them in the real world.
Hattie: Okay so what you really want to do
a man.
not a text.
Samantha: And I also know right away if I'm interested in someone
Hattie: In a minute?
Samantha: Yeah in a minute.
Hattie: So do you have certain interests,
and if you don't,
can you get certain interests that will bring
you to a place where interesting guys are?
Samantha: I'm really passionate about helping animals.
Hattie: The meet a man who is walking his dog.
So what you do is you go up to the guy or the dog,
and you say, "I love dogs."
You have something you have in common right away.
Okay?
Samantha: Yeah, I mean that's [inaudible] it's not the worst
Hattie: No, it's the best,
No means next.
Let's put my advice into practice, okay?
Have you been to Central Park?
Samantha: Yes I've been to Central Park.
Hattie: Have you met a man there?
Samantha: No
Hattie: There's men all over.
Approaching strangers in Central Park can't be that hard, right?
Time for Hattie to throw her into the deep end.
Hattie: At the brink of a smile always.
So that its a little bit to go up.
and a little to come back but not all the way back.
Let your face practice pulling men in.
Let your face be a man magnet even for these guys, see?
Hattie: I'd ask him what he's watching if it's interesting.
Samantha: I think he's Face Timing
Hattie: So I would say am I interrupting Face timing?
Samantha: That's not Intruding?
Hattie: So who cares?
Samantha: Hey?
I wouldn't want to interrupt but is it okay if I talk to you for a second?
Male Speaker: About?
Samantha: Oh I just want to say, "Hi I'm Samantha,"
Male Speaker: Oh hi?
Hattie: She's just talking to him and he's answering her.
and she's moving nicely.
Samantha: I just thought you were handsome and I come over and talk.
Male Speaker: Oh that's very kind of you.
Samantha: Are you talking to your girlfriend or?
Male Speaker: That was my girlfriend
Hattie: She's laughing so they're having a conversation
and from there you just never know.
Male Speaker: Do you have a number or something like that?
Samantha: No it's okay if you don't want to give me your number.
Male Speaker: I'm only in town for a couple of days...
Samantha: Totally fine just wanted a conversation.
Hattie: What happened honey?
Samantha: He's talking to a male friend,
But he wasn't entirely...
into talking to me,
because he kept trying to put his' ear bud in.
Hattie: Okay that went well.
It got to the point of ...
Samantha: I don't know well but it went ...
Hattie: Why don't you think it went well?
because you got to the point of asking
at least you did I think that was brave of you.
So far, not so good.
Samantha: Hello,
Hattie: Bigger, bigger, bigger. Hello?
So maybe it is a little hard
But Hattie is not letting it get her down.
Hattie: Hallo dear you look terrific in that outfit.
Hattie: Well we're even.
Samantha: Can I pet your dog?
Have a good day, yeah.
Hattie: Bye dear.
Samantha: He was super cute and he did make eye contact.
He was walking very fast.
Hattie: Sweet dog. He liked you.
Samantha: The dog loved me.
Hattie: Listen four legs are better than none.
Samantha: Have you had dates walking in Central Park?
Hattie: I have dated and slept with so many men.
After many attempts, someone catches Samantha's eye.
Samantha: This seems like it might be it.
entering danger zone.
Hattie: Good luck honey.
Samantha: Hello,
May I ask what you're doing?
Male Speaker: This is [inaudible]
Hattie: I can tell that something is going on between the two of them.
Samantha: Oh that's so cool.
Male Speaker: So every November, I come here and collect the seeds
Hattie: Yeah perfect timing then I guess.
Hattie: So by the body language, there is a real communication going on.
Samantha: What's your name?
Male Speaker: Stephan
Samantha: Samantha. Nice to meet you.
Hattie: It really looks like, whatever skills she might have had inside her
is really flowering.
Samantha: Well if you're ever near and you want to grab a drink or something
I can give you my number.
Hattie: Yay.
Stephan: Why not yeah [inaudible]
Hattie: Oh look at this face,
Samantha: Well I gave out my number.
He lives in France but he is visiting here
and he explained all about the tree and what he was doing,
to grow [inaudible]
Hattie: Assume they want you, assume everybody wants you.
everybody feels good around you.
One number down but there is still daylight and Samantha is on a roll.
Hattie: Go for the guitar.
Samantha: I think he's going somewhere,
Hattie: Interrupt him.
Samantha: Hey? Are you going to go play somewhere?
Hattie: I think she's really good, she's showing quite a lot of courage really,
Zach: No I mean, I'm on my way home.
Samantha: Oh okay.
Zach: What's going on?
Samantha: Just thought I say Hi.
Zach: Hi how are you?
Zach: I'm Zach.
Hattie: Yeah they're still talking ...
good.
Samantha: Like that is such a cool vibe.
Zach: Thank you.
Samantha: Like yeah is he going to go play somewhere?
Hattie: Touching her hair they're smiling,
People that's really good.
Male Speaker: Do you live in New York or?
Samantha: I do yeah
Zach: Oh you do, cool
Hattie: Technically that's a woman chasing a man so,
she felt comfortable with that so good for her.
Samantha: If you want to grab a drink or something too.
Zach: Yeah sure,
that'd be great let me ...
Hattie: We got a winner here, I'm really proud of her.
really, it's really sweet.
Zach: Sound so good awesome.
Hattie: He looked back at you just now,
how cool.
Samantha: Getting great.
Hattie: I'm so proud of you, very proud of you.
I'm practically tearing
Zach: She's cute of course yes, yeah.
I'm glad I got her number.
I was a little surprised by it,
that just doesn't happen this day and age.
that's ballsy for her, that takes some guts but
I'm flattered.
Samantha: I feel really good.
I have to say, walking up to people has been
a feat in itself because I would not usually do that.
and even if it's beginning to get a little darker out
it's still day light and I've approached three people in the day light
Flesh males in the day light.
First I was freaking out
and now I think I'm like, "Okay yeah
like if I see a cool, handsome man, I am just going to go up
and say "Hi my name's Samantha."
I actually gave my number to two guys.
I'll definitely be open seeing them.
So I guess we'll see if they text or call me.
Hattie: I didn't know what to expect but neither did she,
what I saw was, my strength at being an inspiration,
I'm moved by how she just bloomed,
and that's wonderful.
[inaudible] I do Mission Accomplished.
Apparently she has trouble with dating,
and Tinder.
I can help her with that.
Female speaker: Hi Hattie?
Hattie: [Inaudible] what can I do with you today?
There's still something holding me back where I feel like a man should come for me
Not that I should chase after a man.
Hattie: I got it.
If you like him, don't you want to see him again?
So tell him.
and the fish is going to bite.
So when you go on a date,
I am going to be there empowering you