have you ever been on a first date and wanted to literally put your foot in your
mouth because you said things that you just wish you could take back the moment
that you said it i remember specifically when i was writing this video thinking back to a time
when i went on a first date and within literally two minutes on the date i was
talking about a tooth extraction when i had my tooth pulled from my mouth and
of course needless to say this woman was a dentist so yeah that is why i was talking about that but
even still she's a dentist i'm talking about my tooth extraction you think she's going to want to
make out with me after that heck no and that was one of those moments where i'm like god i wish i
didn't say that so in this video right now i want you to avoid situations like that like situations
like i was in and avoid these four very simple words when you go on a first date keep watching
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first word to never talk about on a first date is kids look if you're a single mom and
you're getting out there and you're dating a lot there's a tendency to want to bring your children
along with you on the date and i don't mean literally i mean figuratively because it's
likely that your children are your whole world your whole life and a huge part of your identity
but the reality is these guys are going on a date not to get to know your kids although that
will happen in the future they want to get to know you as a person they want to connect with you and
if you find that all you're doing is talking about your children your kids on the first date
i would kind of bring that back a little bit and focus a little bit about more about asking him
questions and of course sharing parts of your identity that doesn't involve your children
the second word is ex your ex-boyfriend someone in your past your ex-husband once again there's this
tendency to want to talk about past relationships and sometimes guys will ask you about that but let
me tell you there's nothing less attractive to be on a date with someone where all they want
to do is talk about their past relationships why that guy was such a jerk this guy was a
narcissist oh my god my ex-husband yadda yadda every time you say those words the attraction
level is just going down by a notch my ex-husband my ex-boyfriend so and so and on and on of course
as the relationship progresses and the connection progresses if it progresses then you might want
to talk a little bit about your dating past and your history and so on and so forth but that is
really better suited for later on in the dating process once you get to dates three four and five
and beyond you start going to deeper dating but on that first date please dear god don't talk about
the ex the third word to avoid on a first date is relationship do you find yourself going on
first dates and asking a guy what is it that he's looking for or is he looking for a relationship
well if that is the case i really urge you to just kind of tone that back a little bit because
when you ask a guy that what he's kind of really translating that into is are you looking for a
relationship with me and that might not be what it is that you're saying you're just trying to figure
out is he the type of guy who's just trying to sleep with me or is it the type of guy who
is looking for a relationship or marriage so rather than asking directly is he looking for
a relationship or not because it's a little bit forward it's kind of a cart before the horse
rather ask him where does he see himself in the next five years what does he want out of life
more fun open-ended questions and you're going to get a lot from that if you ask him where he sees
himself in the next few years if he says i want to travel all around thailand go backpack and go
to wild half moon parties every single night and party my butt off well there you have your answer
he's not looking for a relationship whereas on the other hand if he answers that he says you
know look i'd love to really settle down i want to buy a house i want to live outside of the city i
want to start a family if you're in that age or maybe if you're an older age group he says that
he wants to be married whatever it is then you get more information from him in a way that feels
a little bit more organic and the final thing you don't want to talk about on a first date is
money look i get it when you're going out with a guy on a first date there's a tendency to want to
size him up you know how is he doing financially he's the type of guy who's not doing well or he
is doing well because you want someone who's on your level but this can really rub a lot of guys
the wrong way i remember specifically going back in time when i was dating as well i was out on a
date with a woman who i was actually getting along with really well things were going well
and she started asking me about my profession and at the time i was a traveling professional speaker
i was traveling all around the country giving lectures and speeches about dating relationships
and attraction and usually that's what people would ask about they'd be like oh my god that's
kind of a weird job like tell me more about what is it that you talk about or like what does he
do but instead she started asking me some kind of weird questions like oh and you actually like make
a living doing that i'm like yeah i make a living doing that yes yeah of course she's like yeah but
like how many speeches did you do a month i'm like well i don't know i do as many as you know
six seven a month whatever and then she asked well okay like and how much do you like make
per speech and it was at that moment where i was literally feeling like she was sizing me
up for my income you know and it was just one of those weird moments maybe she was maybe she wasn't
but this is why on a first date it's just not appropriate to be talking about that because
again you don't want him translating that into you trying to figure out how much he makes so there
you have it the four words to never say on a first date is kids x relationship and money avoid those
words on a first date get into those later on in the dating process i hope you enjoyed this video
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