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what is the secret to making a marriage
work I think you're asking a wrong
person you know there was a gentleman
here from Germany and a lady from Italy
here and both of them had married
several times before they both came here
said Guruji we wonder blessing this
marriage at least should work and I
asked the gentleman do you know Italian
he said no and I asked her do you know
German say no they both didn't know
English I said then don't learn each
other's language it will work there is a
proverb in Canada it says Metheny Megan
Nadia martini mega value martini service
impossible okay Mata Monica serve again
that means it's only by words conflicts
begin and it only through words people
have fun and through words only people
gain wealth also so word should be used
sparingly
you know usually people when they have
some misunderstanding we say let's talk
it out right let's stick sit and talk it
out but the talk it out doesn't work at
all
so we should never talk it out now what
do you do and just move on that's it
don't sit and discuss the past don't ask
any explanation about the past you know
when a mistake happens happen and that's
it we forget we should move on just
imagine yourself in a position suppose
you do a mistake and someone keeps
asking an explanation about your mistake
it is such a burden to explain somebody
or to justify oneself right never make
other person feel guilty this is very
important anyone whom you make feel
guilty they cease to be your friend
somewhere deep inside that friendship
tie bond gets loosened so there is a
skill in making a person aware of his
mistake without making him feel guilty
but normal tendency in human beings is
to make someone feel guilty and feel
happy about it receiver and saying this
is a normal tendency we have to raise
above this normal tendency and not make
someone feel guilty then your
relationship is long-standing yeah thank
you there is one secret for women and
one secret for men I can tell you maybe
this will work you can think about it a
lady should never step on the ego of a
man of her men
you got it a lady should never step on
the ego of her man if you the whole
world may say to a gentleman he has no
brains but the wife should never say she
should always say you are the most
intelligent person on the planet just
the fact that you don't use your brain
doesn't mean you don't have it she
should always pompous ego this is very
much essential if she if a lady starts
saying them telling him and you are good
for nothing you are a vegetable and he
will really become one in a one secret
for man man should never step on the
emotion of Everman she may complain to
you about her brother or mother or
family but you should not join the
bandwagon
the moment you start nodding with her
complaint she will turn around all 180
degrees sheerest instead of you know
dwelling on her complaint she will
complain about you say why do you say
how dare you could say such thing about
my father what do you know she will
start turning the velar off and if she
wants to go for some religious programs
yatra maybe or a movie or shopping
you should just simply agreeing give her
the credit car so don't step on the
emotion of a women then everything will
be fine
and for both of you don't X don't ask
proof or others love for you you know
don't ask mean ask them do you really
love me
now why you don't allow me the sort of
completion never say that never give the
burden to someone to may prove their
love for you this emergency hmm if you
find a love for you is less you should
say why do you love me so much instead
of asking you don't love me bla bla bla
see if this works
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