Ego can be tamed, can be refined
starting with my ideation, starting with my ideas, starting with my thinking
Resulting in how reactive or heartful and being responsive.
It is very easy
You know, nature is so subtle
When it comes to truth, when it comes to natural things,
it does not give us the signal.
It gives the signal only when we go wrong.
You know, often we talk about breathing and eyesight and hearing and taste.
When I lose my ability to see things, then I have to visit a doctor.
Even when my eyes become blurred, I start wondering, “Oh, what is wrong with my eyes?”
But when you are walking normally, do you question yourself? Does your heart tell you,l
“Congratulations, Prerna, you are working well today.”
The heart does not give you this signal
when you are walking perfectly.
Only when you start limping and you feel
the need to have those prosthetics,
then you say, “Oh, my legs are not cooperating.
Something is wrong with my legs.”
When I am doing just the right thing,
my heart will never tell or give a signal and congratulate me for doing the right thing.
It is a post-facto.
But when we do the wrong thing, it will tell us immediately that, “Oh, this is wrong.”
The first sign of finding the right spiritual path,that
“This is the spiritual path for me,
for my personal evolution,” is the first signature is the happiness of the soul.
When the happiness of the soul is reflected in the form of peace and bliss,
after every meditation, especially after the
first introductory sitting, - you all must have felt
extraordinary calmness, extraordinary lightness, some sort of joy as if some
great burden has been lifted from the heart
- this is the sign that you are on the right track.
If somebody steals something, or you steal something,
if that experience is not going to traumatize you, what is the use?
Every experience is supposed to teach us something, especially the negative ones.
Suppose you do negative things and still your heart feels happy,
it is a wrong signal.
The experience has to teach us something.
It is good that the experience does not come
with a self-igniting inner bomb ‘Bmmmm’ inside and then you are gone.
It is enough that your mood changes when you are faced with wrong things,
wrong decisions in life.
So, bad experiences arising out of maybe, a business failure,
it highlights our mistakes; or making wrong decisions in selecting
inventories or selecting personnel, be it for your work or in your business venture,
or I think sometimes, it is too late in
marriage relationships.
Somebody cries, like Prerna starts walking or jumping,
then what do you do? In the middle of meditation,
somebody starts shouting or Pratik turns on
the TV and sees some series, it will still create fire-crackers in the house.
When you are deepest, you are so
absorbed in meditation, and somebody starts TV, or the maid starts banging the vessels,
making so much of ruckus and making noise.
But then, we understand, “What to do?”
We start learning more and more tricks.
We work around the maid’s time, we work around Pratik’s TV time.
We meditate ahead of time before they all come and make noise.
We learn to adjust that way.
This teaches us in a big way, actually,
how to adjust. And life is all about adjustment, is it not?
We should understand one thing, that Sahaj Marg helps us clean
samskaras (impressions). Ego is not samskara (impression).
Do you understand?
So, there is no point for which you will
exercise and say, “Isko hum safayi kare” (we clean this) and ego can be removed
Ego can be tamed, can be refined;
starting with my ideation, starting with my ideas, starting with my thinking,
and resulting in how I react,
whether I am mindfully reactive or heartfully
being responsive.
That is why, Lalaji’s ‘Principles of Communication’
they are very handy and very useful
in how we communicate with others.