Hey guys, in this video tips
that I'm going to give you
to help make conversations easier
and to make you more charming.
If you're new to my channel
my name is Anna Jorgensen
I'm a dating coach for men in Vancouver, Canada.
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Okay, let's just get right into this
tip number one give compliments
everybody loves receiving a compliment,
but the key is it has to be genuine.
And if you can give a girl or a woman
a compliment that's not physically based
then she's going to appreciate it even more
because women are very sensitive
to being sexually objectified.
So, you can even say you have great style
that actually complements her
aesthetic and creativity.
You can say she has great energy
or you like the way she does her hair
or I mean those are physical
but it's not you have a great body.
So, try to find a compliment
that is not a physical compliment
tip number two, ask for an opinion.
People love giving opinions
you can ask for an opinion on you know,
does this shirt really work with this outfit?
Or you can ask for an opinion on
what's the best drink in the house,
you look like an expert drinker.
Okay, maybe don't use that one
but you can ask for an opinion on something
and people do love giving their opinions
and she'll also feel respected
because you've asked for her opinion,
which brings me to number three,
solve a problem.
Ask her to help you solve a problem in your life
it might not be a big problem
it could even be something you've just made up
that's not really a huge problem.
But maybe something that you've
kind of been curious about
and you could just say
you know I've kind of
been struggling with this thing
and I'm wondering what you might think about it,
what would you do?
People love helping others solve problems
and women love solving problems
even if they don't actually end up resulting
in anything that you're going to use.
It doesn't matter if you can get her on your team
then you're solving a problem
and she feels validated.
Tip number four, ask for a small favor
for example, if you're in a restaurant
or like at the bar in a restaurant or in a club
or something, you could say
hey, would you mind watching my drink
while I go to the bathroom
and you can even make it fun by saying
don't put anything in it.
And of course, that brings me to number five,
which is return the favor.
So, what usually happens is that
when someone does us a favor
we want to actually return the favor
and so she'll be more likely to stick around.
Because if she can't return the favor
she'll at least return the favor
by chatting with you more.
So, if she needs to go to the washroom
you're not going to say I'll watch your drink
because women need to feel safe.
So, don't say that you'll watch her drink
but say you'll save her seat or something like that
so return the favor in a way
that you can that's just simple.
Six, find something that you have in common
and share a story about that
and if you don't really have too much in common
you could also look around the room
and make up stories about other people.
You could say things like
do you think those two are really a couple
or are they having a secret affair.
Now, the fun thing about this is that
you're in it together making up
something about someone else.
Now, if you choose to use the
make a story about somebody else
in the room together
then you could make it kind of naughty.
Or whatever you decide to do with that story
kind of brings me to number seven,
which is to share a secret or a joke.
So, if you share your secret
is going to be this story
that you made up about these other people in the room
then that's something that's
just between you and her
that you can refer to later about those people
and make it your little
inside joke or your inside secret.
And if you can make her laugh
of course that's always a good thing
because laughter feels good
and releases endorphins
and she'll associate that with you.
Now, another thing you can do number eight
is to not always agree with her.
So, if you can find something
to disagree with her on
then that will show that you have a backbone
and the key is, is that
you want to keep it light and playful.
So, if there's something that you disagree with like
let's say she likes, let's say she likes electric cars
and you're like, I like the gas guzzlers.
So, you're having a discussion about this
and you could like
well, even though you're wrong you're cute
so I'll let it slide.
The key is you need to keep it light and playful
and never belittle her for her opinion
because that will make her feel bad about herself.
So, you can disagree
but still make her feel good about herself,
which will translate into her
being allowed to have a different opinion
while still feeling good with you
bonus points for that.
Number nine, find a way to move into a subject
that you're an expert about.
So, if you can share some expertise
knowledge about any particular subject
that is going to be impressive because that shows
that you've been committed
to learning about something
and of course that is attractive,
which brings me to number 10.
Talk about something she's an expert in
of course, people like talking about things
that they know a lot about
there's a reason why they know a lot about it
because they're interested in it.
So, if you can get her talking about something
she's interested in or knows a lot about
then that will show her
that you're interested in her beyond her looks.
And bonus tip
instead of just asking questions like
what do you do for work?
Those are kind of boring and standard
instead, you can ask her what do you do,
but why do you like it?
What do you like about it?
What do you not like about it?
So, ask questions that propel her
or compel her to want to divulge
more about her personality
and her genuine interest
as opposed to just what she does for a living
or what kind of hobbies she has.
Ask her what she likes about them
or what she dislike about them
depending where the conversation goes
Extra tips, I'm so cheesy.
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