Hey guys, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours and today we're going to discuss getting back
into dieting.
Have you been out of the game for a while?
Have you been in a long-term relationship?
This is the video for you.
I'm going to give you eight simple things you can do right now to get back into dating.
Stay tuned.
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Hey girls, it's Mark here.
Today, we're talking on a topic that a lot of you have been asking about and it's for
girls who haven't been in the dating scene for a while, is how do you get back into dating?
I want to give you eight tips, sort of eight guidelines that'll get you back out there
in the dating field.
You know, maybe you've been in a longterm relationship for a while.
Maybe you've just got away from men because we suck.
Maybe you're just, for whatever reason you have been out for awhile and you want to get
back in.
So I want to give you a really easy way to do that, to transition back in without the
fear or intimidation of it being like this whole massive deal.
So, number one, look after yourself first.
You know, get some new clothes.
Change your fashion up, get a new haircut, get some new makeup.
You really want to invigorate yourself.
It's not about caring what other people think.
You're doing it for you so that you feel good when you get back out there.
You can put your best foot forward and you're feeling great about yourself.
Number two, hold yourself back if you're not completely over your ex.
So a lot of people have this idea that ah, I'm being manipulative if I'm, or I'm leading
people on if I go out and meet someone when I'm not completely over an ex, it's just not
true.
Studies have shown that people who go out into the world, meet people, get over their
exes faster than people who sit at home and don't do things and trying to, you know, get
over it without meeting anyone.
The fact is to get over someone, you have to move on with your life.
And part of moving on with your life is getting out there and meeting new people, making new
friends, new connections, doing things.
So you know, this isn't a relationship.
I wouldn't say get into a relationship if you're not completely over your ex, but get
out there and date.
There's, there's plenty of honest ways to do it.
If the guy asks, you can say, look, I'm just enjoying dating.
I'm not looking for anything.
It can be done completely honestly.
But don't worry about it.
Just get out there.
That's the most important thing.
So number three, once you're actually out there, start meeting new men everywhere.
So you're going to have to increase the numbers of men that you're meeting in your life.
Most women only meet one or two new guys a week, but you want to be meeting a lot more
than that.
So just take opportunities to meet them everywhere.
Talk to the store clerk, talk to the guys at work, talk to people at uni if you're there.
Talk to someone in the shops.
Just talk to guys everywhere.
At least it's on the step number four, which is focused on only the first three minutes.
So, so many girls when they first go out, back into the dating scene, they get really
nervous.
Cause they go, I meet a guy and they're like, what if this is my future husband?
What if this works out?
And that thinking is just going to kill you.
It's going to freeze you.
It's going to make you so damn nervous.
It's just gonna, it's gonna bring you back and you're not going to be able to be yourself
at all.
Just focus on meeting guy for the first three minutes.
Give them a compliment.
Make a playful, flirty move at him.
Just chat to him about life.
If you put pressure on yourself that this guy might be the one and that this could go
places, you're going to be so overwhelmed.
Just focus on the first three minutes of dating.
Number five is just date.
So if you're just getting back out there, you don't want to be getting too serious with
anyone.
You want to keep things casual.
It's normal in the dating world to date multiple people.
If you're doing it casually, don't get too involved.
Just enjoy meeting people and when guys ask you out, go on the date.
Get meeting them, but just make dating your focus.
Don't be trying to soon to go into anything to deep.
Number six, I always recommend this for women who are just getting back out there.
Make sure you utilize online dating.
It's a low stress, kind of nice way to meet guys behind the safety of a computer.
It doesn't grow your social skills quite as fast, but it's a way to to start meeting men
again and to have more men in your life.
And when you meet the right one, you know you can go out and meet him, have a chat,
not in pressure on it.
Make sure it's still meeting guys by other means, but I always recommend online dating.
It's a bit of a kickstarter to get you out there.
Number seven is mentioned kids if you have them, but don't make them a focus.
So a lot of you ladies out there who are looking to get back into dating or have kids, you
know, you can put them as a line in your online profile.
You can chat about them with a guy that you go and see, but don't make them the focus.
If things move forward, he's going to have to fall in love with you a long time before
he ever meets your kids.
So he wants to know about you, your hobbies, your passions, you, your quirks, who you are.
Mention your kids, but don't make them a focus.
Number eight, make sure it's fun.
If dating isn't fun, honestly you're doing it wrong.
Even this shittiest date, you should be able to come home, have a laugh with your friends
about, just smile at how ridiculous the whole situation is.
Dating should always be fun and make sure that above all, you're going with that philosophy.
Then just going to have some fun.
It should be some time out.
It shouldn't be this huge high-stress thing.
It should be something you can laugh at yourself about.
So girls, hope you enjoy those tips and allow you to get back out there in the field.
I love seeing women get back out there, enjoying dating, having some fun cause it really honestly
is so much fun.
You'll be glad you did once you get out there.
Make sure you hit the link on where to meet guys if you're not sure where to sort of start
out doing that.
And we'll pop something for online dating in the link below as well.
Pop a little guide for that in here.
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Otherwise, I'll see you guys very soon
in the next video.