I am jealous, I am insecure and I don't know how to stop. What do I do?
My name is Coach Natalie and I'm a relationship coach, and I've dedicated my
entire life toward relationship recovery. I have helped thousands of couples
throughout the course of my career reunite, get back together, get back
stronger, get back better so that they can have a long-lasting relationships
with the people that they love. And if there's one thing I've learned from all
of these years of experience is that the easiest way to recover from a breakup is
not to have one. So if you are watching this video in this relationship that you
are in has not ended I'm so thankful to have you here. I'm so thankful to have
you visiting HAPPILY COMMITTED
HAPPILY COMMITTED is this passion project that me and my amazing partner, Coach Adrian
developed to help people stay together, whether you've recently experienced a
breakup and have reunited or have never broken up, staying together is the
ultimate goal and so we want to provide tips and tools for you at home to help
you stay committed to your partner, to help them stay committed to you.
This video in particular is about insecurity and jealousy. We've all felt it. I get it.
Everyone in a relationship second-guesses themselves every once in
a while. They're wondering about their partner's
interest. Are they valuable? Are they worthy? Does my partner still love me?
Does my partner still think about me? Does my partner still think I'm sexy?
These are all questions that cross our minds in our relationships, whether the
relationship is short-term or long-term. What I'm about to reveal to you in this
video is a very powerful revelation. Ready? The revelation is this: If you are
insecure in your relationship, it's not your relationship you're insecure about.
It's you. Insecurities in a relationship is not a relationship problem. It's a "me"
problem. It's a "you" problem. If you want to feel better in your relationship, you
have to feel better about you. You have to feel better with you. If you can
achieve that, wait and see how your relationship and the dynamic of your
relationship transforms. How much more sexy you will feel,
how much more sexy your partner will think you are, how much healthier and
more stable your relationship will become. It all goes back to personal
development. And when we're in a breakup or when we're single we tend to spend so
much time or at least so much more time in personal development. We focus on ways
we can improve, hobbies we want to try, things we want to commit to,
but for many when we're in a long-term relationship we stop trying. We stop
searching for ourselves because we feel that since we have a partner we no
longer have to try. "Oh! I have a boyfriend. I'm good!"
"Oh... I've been with her forever. We're great." But the moment you let yourself go
and discontinue personal development is the moment you've given up on your
relationship. It's the moment you've let your relationship go. So if you are
watching this video saying, "Coach Natalie, I am so insecure, I'm so jealous, I have
no idea of who he's talking to, I have no idea of who she is spending her time
with," I want you - I ask you to stop, and instead of focusing on that, focus on you.
Why will she find someone better? Why is he a better option for her? The reason
you feel like there might be someone better is because you feel less than.
So here's an exercise I want you to think about. I want you to think about who your
dream person is. For me, who is my dream woman?
What does she like? What does she do? How does she spend her time? Who does she
spend it with? And that's the woman I need to commit to becoming, to exploring
to connecting with, for the sake of my partner's happiness, so that when he sees
me, he sees who I think is the best. So that he sees who I think is the sexiest,
the most interesting, the most cultured. Become the woman of your dreams so that
you can be the woman of his. Become the man of her dreams by being the man of
your dreams. I want you to spend this time really
reconnecting with why you feel insecure, not with why she makes you feel insecure
or why he makes you feel insecure. If you can elevate your own self-esteem and
your own confidence more often than not your relationship will take a positive
turn. I see it happen every day. In fact in so much relationship recovery we
focus on reconnecting with your confidence, focus on reconnecting with
your personal development, and partner's flock back to you.
People are attracted to people who are attracted to themselves. So instead of
feeling like this situation is making you less attractive, become more
attracted to yourself and watch the situation change. I know it sounds weird,
I know it sounds counterintuitive, I invite you to give it a try. I wouldn't
recommend it if I haven't seen success with it both personally and with the
thousands of people I've coached along the way. If you have any specific
questions, if you are unsure as to how you can eliminate these feelings of
insecurity and jealousy that everyone knows so well. If you are skeptical about
how you can grow about whether or not growth will work, about whether or not
personal development can help your relationship grow, leave a comment under
this video. Fill me in. I am here to help. I've dedicated my life to this process.
I'm so thankful to be able to sit here and tell you that I have so much
experience in this arena and I would love to share it all with you. Leave a
comment in the section below or book a coaching package with us at
HAPPILYCOMMITTED.COM I'd love to help you understand what's going on and to help
you implement the right approach to elevating your self-esteem, elevating
your confidence, eliminating your insecurities and staying happily
committed. My name is Coach Natalie, thank you for tuning in and I look forward to
hearing from you