Heya playas, now that you've started school you're probably preparing for your homecoming
dance.
If there is a girl you want to ask out, I'm gonna share my tips with you on how to do
it right after this.
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I want to start off by saying that one of the biggest mistakes most guys make is that
they live in a fantasy world.
They think that by making a girl a poster, leaving a note in her locker or doing a big
dance musical is gonna get her to say yes.
And while that does work sometimes most of the time you're just gonna have to put in
old fashioned hard work.
Part of that work which really isn't even work is taking time to get to know the girl.
If you want to ask out a girl that you already know then spend more time getting to know
her.
Ask her questions about her personality, try to invite her out to hangout, spend time around
her so that she can get to know you better too.
The more she feels comfortable opening up to you the easier it's gonna be to ask her
out and the same exact thing goes for a girl that you've never spoken to before.
It's way easier to make a leap from 1 to 2 than it is from 0 to 100.
Meaning you want to narrow the gap between you and the girl by getting to know her better
and at least having her know something about you too.
Sometimes though we can invest a lot of time getting to know a girl better only to find
out that she has another date for homecoming.
That's why it's important to ask around, do some detective work or even just use common
sense.
For example, if the girl has a boyfriend, chances are she's going to go to homecoming
with her boyfriend.
I know that may seem obvious but a lot of guys actually ask me, how do I ask a girl
to homecoming even though she has a boyfriend.
Of course the most obvious way to find out is to ask her yourself but what that kind
of does is put it out there that hey you like her and you want to ask her out.
So if you're gonna take that route, be prepared to follow up with that.
Keep in mind if you do plan on asking her out, it's best to do it in a one on one scenario.
But I know what you're thinking, what do I do if she's always with her friends?
To learn more about how to ask a girl out in front of her friends you can check out
my video right here but to give you the short synopsis of it, it's best to throw yourself
into the equation, start talking to everyone in the group and once you've built enough
comfort with them, say "hey guys, do you mind if I talk to her for a second over here?".
It's incredibly important to let the girl see that you're willing to ask her out in
person.
Because doing it over text or online can make her feel like well, if he's not confident
enough to talk to me in person, is he gonna be confident enough to take me to homecoming
One little thing to look at here is how do you phrase asking her to homecoming because
it's very important how you do it.
There's the traditional formula where you walk up to her and say "Hey, I like you.
Do you want to go with me to homecoming?"
which might or might not work.
But then there's my formula which I think might come off a little bit more confident
and all you have to do is talk to the girl, say something like "Hey I think you're pretty
cool.
You should come with me to homecoming."
The simple phrasing in asking her "Will you go with me to homecoming puts all the decision
making power in her hands rather than yours.
But by inviting her to join you, you've already made the decision to go and now you're asking
her if she wants to have a good time with you.
And the final thing to remember if the girl you ask does say no, it's important to have
other prospects.
I know the big fear is that if someone catches you asking multiple girls then you might get
this reputation of being a player.
But the truth is, you're not asking each of these girls out on a date or to be your girlfriend,
you're asking them to come with you to the dance because you're gonna have fun and that's
your goal, to have fun.
What do you think though, what's the biggest challenge you faced in asking a girl to homecoming?
Leave a comment below and we'll talk about it.
I also made a video all about asking a girl to prom where I share even more tips just
like this.
If you want to watch it you can check out the video right here.
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The most important thing to remember is that homecoming is just a dance and dances are
meant to be fun.
The less pressure you put on yourself and the less pressure you put on the girl will
equal both of you guys having a great time together.
As always guys love and peace.