do you have any thoughts on what this disciplines someone can use to improve
their decision-making skills as a leader not only in keeping clarity of thought
during high pressured situations and environments but also in making the
correct decisions when it is vital okay so we've talked about this last week you
have to learn to detach and how do you learn to detach you learn to detach by
putting yourself in stressful situations and then observing how you react so good
stress stressful situations to put yourself in well what makes you stressed
one thing that will make everyone stressed especially they first start is
start with jujitsu that's gonna that's gonna put you in stressful environments
look at sports what are you gonna do put yourself in stressful positions in
sports what else makes you stress public
speaking right public speaking make some people really stressed out start doing
it more what about competition shooting where you've got a or hunting where
you've got to do something in a stressful environment or Archer you know
I started started archery recently you did oh yeah yeah yeah and so that's one
of those things where you got to learn to detach you gotta learn to pay
attention to things that are going on if you're all caught up in the moment then
you're gonna miss it so that's number one if you want to
learn to deal with stress put yourself in stressful situations that are under
some kind of control you know even something like paintball you know we do
gigs at national in front when we put people through what we call ft X's where
you go out and you're gonna fire we usually use airsoft because it's a
little bit more it's a little easier to work with but actually what we started
using now is we've got things high-end laser tag guns and so that's that's what
we use and they are super effective they're they're they're awesome they're
awesome training tools like if we would had them if we would have if they would
have existed when I was in the SEAL Teams I would have used them that
because they're that good so we use those and we put people in stressful
situations go hit this target there's bad guys you know people are gonna get
shot there's people yelling put yourself in stressful stressful situations and
learn to detach put yourself in stressful situations with the purpose of
learning to detach and stepping back mentally to figure out what's going on
okay that's first part next part is how do we make good
decisions well number one making correct decisions you've got to study
you got to know and understand you got to know the background you've got to
know the historical outcomes of equivalent type decisions that have
happened in the past similar situations and if you know the history and you know
the background then you can use those to assess the current situation you're in
and then once you assess the decisions that you can make assess the possible
actions that you can take and then assess the outcomes that those decisions
will have those actions will have and when you're doing that you also have to
assess the possibilities of inaction so a lot of times people forget that one
they don't know they don't know if they should do a or B what they forget is
there's also what if I don't do either what's gonna happen sometimes not doing
either is good most that were a lot of times not doing either is bad so you got
an A or B what should you do maybe sometimes you got to pick a or B
sometimes occasionally it's better not to do anything and you wait and let the
situation develop a little bit more what so the point of this is whatever you can
know beforehand you know you learn you study you understand you know the
standard operating procedures you know what variants variations have been made
on the standard operating procedures and that's how you go forward and you
execute now the thing that you have to remember is that you can't know
everything beforehand which is why it goes back to study and practice
detaching and making decisions so so now let me dig into detach a little bit
let's actually break that down maybe some mechanical steps that you can use
number one step back but literally physically take a step back from the
situation that you're in and move your head and look around so when we used to
shoot they would teach us to scan like you would have to physically move your
head and what that is it's a mental reminder that you need to look around
and assess what's happening so once you've taken a step off the line whether
that's taking a step back from the table when you're meeting if you're a know if
you're a firefighter and there's a fire happening take a step
back so you can see the bigger picture if you're in a cop and there's a
shootout happening where can you go to step back get some cover and look around
and see what's actually happening if you're in if if you're in a conversation
with someone stop talking if there's an argument going on
stop talking take a step back and actually listen to all the other
elements that are shouting and yelling at each other if there's a decision that
means needs to be made and I don't on a planning situation step back from the
plan don't just take a step back from it look at it more broadly so that's step
number one is to step back number two then you're gonna come up with hey one
of the possible decisions that I can make I go this way a coup abd ABCD I can
do any one of these things keep an open mind this is the problem some people
have is they they come up with two decisions three decisions and they don't
think about anything else so you kind of have to like repeatedly detach you kinda
have to stay detached that's why it's good you throw out an idea like if we're
planning for something and I come up with three ideas I say echo what do you
think of these I give them to you that I step back again mm-hmm I keep my mind
open so that's why the more you can get your subordinates to plan the better off
you're gonna be the more you can get that people below you in the chain of
command to come up with an idea or come up with the ideas the better off you're
gonna be because you're not embroiled in it you're your de facto detached because
you're letting them run with it then okay once you look at your decisions and
you got to look at what the possible outcomes are what are the possible
things that can happen is this could how bad could this go risk versus reward
you gotta weigh those things out and you got to do it fairly quickly and again
you gotta you gotta figure out what's the result or possible outcome for
inaction and then you just weigh out these various options that you've
created and you figure which one which outcome has the most which one makes the
most sense that's that's what's good and like I said inaction is some people like
any action is better than no action not always true not always true sometimes
you can learn more by letting things develop and letting things reveal what
what this status is so that does make sense and sometimes you do hold off if
if you key if you can see that a problem is getting worse though well then we got
to do something and generally okay let's make some kind
of a decision very quickly now one of the most important things to remember
and there's a little dichotomy to this is that you don't always have to make
giant decisions you don't always have to make the all the the all-powerful
decision of might mm you know it's like do we go or do we not go you don't
always have to say we go sometimes you can go well let's push a little further
let's let's move let's move a little bit further before we make that decision or
hey let's stay where we are and see if it develops or let's back up a little
bit and keep watching look so instead of we go or we don't go there's actually a
bunch of different decisions that you can make besides we can go or don't go
there's a building there's a bad guy in it let's go or let's not go no actually
let's put eyes on the target for a little while let's let's call and see if
where there's any other intelligence let's put an aircraft over there's all
kinds of decisions that you can make let's push a little bit closer
let's stage let's monitor so there's all kinds of decisions that you can make
that allow the the situation to develop further and maybe reveal the proper
decision to you in the long run so my my fear of saying that is that people be
get paralyzed what does it analyze the parallel yeah analysis paralysis that's
my fear about saying that because the dichotomy is you can sit around and
analyze and figure out and look at something for over forever while the
situation changes now you lose so yes you don't have to make giant decisions
but at the same time you got to be decisive there's a dichotomy yeah I'm
sorry I'm sorry leadership is not easy wrote a whole book about it
dichotomy leadership why cuz that's what happens so there you go that's my
assessment of how you can prove your decision-making skills experience goes a
long way yes yeah it's just kind of when you were
talking about the the results versus then the the method mm-hmm right
decision-making some sometimes like the result actually both method and
kind of the value isn't even in the results it's like you haven't getting
that experience going through it you know it'll improve your decision-making
sure true yeah anytime you can be in a situation where you're making decisions
and getting experience out it you're gonna get better at it yeah kind of the
value in role playing that is the value that's why we do a lot of role-playing
actually having like a little thing and people might think like oh that how does
that work come and get it I watch people all the
time it totally improve as leaders because
put them through a roleplay scenario as a leader yeah where they're going up
against a combative subordinate or a subordinate that's lazy or a
subordinates angry or a subordinate that that wants to leave like you put it you
put a person we're all playing in those situations over and over again and they
get so much better three iterations three iterations yeah and people are
exponentially better at handling situations yeah cuz it's like some of I
mean most of time you know it's just a matter of them like never seen it before
and then we don't when it's in the during game time it's kind of like you
got to make the decision super fast so you can't an analyst but in the
role-playing situation you can analyze you do whatever and then - and then
learn it no that's a great actually should have brought that up that's a
great point is another way that you can get better at making decisions by
roleplay for sure you've give yourself the options put you put your set set
yourself up a pressure situation and have people roleplay it out with you of
what you're gonna do is so it's kind of like like mock that means that's
basically what it is it is mock experience that's basically what SEAL
training well not the basic skill training but the SEAL training that I
REM that's basically what it was we're gonna have people act like bad
guys and you're gonna make decisions all day long that's a roleplay yeah get some
remember and again going back to like just seeing it once alright just seeing
it one time is way bigger difference then then I mean compared with never
seeing it all versus seen it once the difference between that is way bigger
than seeing it like twice versus once you know if you've seen it once it's
kind of okay now yeah this yes like night and day
it's night and day the difference between knowledge and like no no no
knowledge is crazy yeah and we see that over and over and
over again like on Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade you ever see now
I'm pretty sure it wait how old is that one like I saw the all like that series
when I was a kid I think I see so at the end they go through I had to see things
right there's like these booby traps right do you get the holy grail nothing
didn't do it oh that I've seen this one because
everyone the guy's face melts right no that's Rita the laaser okay when they
open the arc oh yeah shut your eyes yeah it's old school anyway no this one they
have to go through these like these tests or whatever there are there booby
traps to get to the Holy Grail and one of them was you have to kneel only the
penitent man will pass that's what it says in the Grail diary
mm-hmm which is Indiana Jones dad's diary that took all the notes in and so
he's like oh you got to interpret that right so they had all these people they
were bad guys there too so they just send us someone in there and then the
guide go in and his head gets chopped off mm-hm so you go in there you know
hey that blade is gonna come chop off my head cuz I seen that one guy get his
head chopped off I'm just gonna duck mm-hmm just one time it's like I don't
know lady's gonna come out done a good point
thanks Indy Grand granted there was more booby traps you kind of got a refer to
the Grail diary for the answers subject to interpretation by the way but same
deal you see the point all right if you walk through a hall I did it yes I get
his head chopped off yeah you know okay I better duck now your best doc yeah yep
I get it thank you one time