I love this house because it has sheltered me and my family.
But it doesn’t define me.
It’s a thing I need at this time... but it’s not me.
‘Kamili zar goig gerat zar shabat.’
It’s in Arabic.
It’s a poem by Rumi. He says,
‘Earth turns to gold in the hands of the wise.’
I like that because when we built this
we just took whatever that was on the earth.
You go into an open field
and take rocks that have been lying around for millions of years
and just rearrange them and you have a shelter.
And this is what we were able to produce,
together with my wife and the children as well.
And it gives me pride to have something that
we have done from our hands, as a family.
Home is not just a building or this land.
Even before I could say I have a physical home,
I think I had already created a home.
So this is just the idea manifesting itself.
At school I struggled.
I couldn’t read.
So that became a challenge
and I was told that I wasn’t good enough.
People create a perception that
when you didn’t finish school you are a failure.
Once you start believing that you are not good enough
then it becomes a mantra.
And when you magnify the negativity internally
the negativity just keeps compounding and growing.
So I would have failed if I were to allow
perceptions that are coming from outside, to bring me down.
Nobody owns the thoughts that go into my mind except me.
I own those thoughts.
So if I believe what others say about me
it means I have to shut the thoughts that I have about myself down.
If I focus more on the positive things inwardly
and always make sure that I remember these things,
then you can actually move
from that space of positive thinking about yourself.
Only you can do what is in your mind.
I’m not one to quit on myself.
Whatever it is that I could learn
I put a lot of energy into it so that if I say I failed,
I failed but I tried.
Everybody makes mistakes.
And it sounds clichéd to say that you learn from your mistakes
but it’s true... everybody does make mistakes.
And if you dwell on the mistake
and not look at the good things that you do,
you’ll find that you don’t appreciate anything that you have achieved.
I always encourage my girls...
I know you are scared, but try it.
Even if you make a mistake, it’s ok.
We’ll just keep trying until you get it right.
(Three)
The more you do something, the better you become at it.
And it becomes easier and easier over time.
(Four)
When you take on a simpler route in life, it’s challenging.
It’s a lot of work.
But when you are able to grow your own food, that gives pleasure.
You have seed that you plant and you nurture it.
And here is this produce
that you are able to share with your neighbours
and you are able to feed the family.
Nature always gives in abundance.
So we as people need to be natural.
We need to mimic what nature does.
I’m not a wealthy person in terms of monetary wealth, economics.
But I think I am wealthy because I have so much to offer.
I’ll share with somebody else that is not part of my family.
And whenever they need, we share.
Love has to do with sharing.
If I say I have love alone, what does it mean?
I’m sitting here in a dungeon alone saying I love, I love.
What does love mean?
Love means doing good to and for another person.
When we begin to share our stories, our experiences,
then we are slowly peeling away
on these ideas that separate us and create more pain and suffering.
More and more, people are beginning to realise that
it is not my skin colour that defines me.
It’s the concern I have for the next person.
There is a saying that a person is a person by other people.
It’s an African saying.
To see somebody as you see yourself.
It’s a human experience.
I don’t like spaces of being on the limelight.
So I wouldn’t want to have a tombstone.
No, I wouldn’t create something like that.
I would rather have people be more loving.
And that would be the mark...
when you say there used to be this man who used to be like this...
I would like to be more like that.
And they would pursue that.
I feel that that would be enough as a benchmark.
Not a signage on some stone...
it’s just a stone.
I’m energy. I’m love.
I’m the energy of love.
That’s what I’ll always project out in the world.
Love will always live on.