This picture is so important to me.
My husband died two and half years ago,
but he loved Savannah.
In 2015 my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer.
Keith ended up having a heart attack.
He didn't want to see Savannah in the hospital.
My dad went into the ICU,
and then my mom wouldn't let me go see him.
He was so angry with her for being pregnant.
It's really hard to say that her behavior led to his death,
but he told me so.
(Savannah crying)
I'm sorry honey.
I'm so sorry honey.
Tell me, tell me why you would say that,
and why he would say that.
He felt that way, and I never wanted her to know,
and I actually said I didn't want to say that,
and then when they asked me the question
it just flew out of my mouth.
I deserve to know that. And I wish I had
not said that.
I deserve to know that. I didn't wanna
tell you that honey.
I deserved to apologize to my dad.
I deserved to know how he felt before he died.
That's why I set up for you, for him to come see you.
I didn't want you to think any less of him,
I wanted you to love him.
I don't understand why he would be angry at me
for getting pregnant at 19.
I'm grown.
It's not directly affecting you.
I'm not living with you,
you're not gonna take care of my son,
you're not gonna pay for my son.
Nothing, I was asking for nothing from you.
I told you because I was happy.
And then you told them that ruined my dad's memorial
by telling you I was married?
And you never told that to me either.
You never told me you were married.
You told everybody else.
You didn't me, I didn't even know.
So whatever the case may be,
I was told that you said that I ruined the memorial.
I didn't say you ruined the memorial,
I said that you said at the memorial,
and you didn't say anything to--
Why would that matter?
When did we ever speak, how often do we speak, Mom?
How often do we speak?
How often are we on the phone with each other?
Very rarely.
OK, so I found the opportunity
to say something to you. I contact you,
you don't contact me back.
How do I contact somebody that we cannot communicate?
We don't see eye to eye, we don't.
(audience clapping)
I know we don't.
I love you, Mom, but it's like,
if we ever try to get in conversation,
get in depth in a conversation, about almost anything,
we would disagree.
Can I say a few things
to you here? Yeah.
Do you think I know what I'm doing?
Yes.
My parents made me watch you growing up.
(laughing)
I know all about you.
Yeah, sorry about that.
(audience laughing)
There are some things that I know for sure,
and some things I have strong feelings about,
and some things you do the best you can, from my seat.
But let me tell you a couple things I know for sure.
You did not cause your father's death.
(audience clapping)
I know that for sure.
Nothing you said caused your father's death,
nothing you did caused your father's death,
nothing you did or didn't do caused your father's death.
If that was true, parents would be dropping like flies
all over America.
You did not cause your father's death.
You being trained, you should know that.
Oh, I know that, I've never said that--
Well, then, then--
You agree with him.
I didn't agree with him.
Why would you say it?
Well I don't know
why she would say it. I shouldn't have said it.
I shouldn't have let it out, but it was what he said,
and they asked. You're correct,
and you should apologize for having said that.
And I should apologize. Because that is wrong.
I'm sorry I let that one out honey,
I should never have let that out.
Like I just changed my view of my father
for the rest of my life.
I know, I know, I'm sorry.
The last time that he was alive, I thought.
Look, your relationship with your father spanned years.
I'm sorry you heard that, that's not true.
So you need to, if you think I know what I'm doing,
then believe me when I tell you,
that's not the case.