Have you ever liked a woman just to find out that she did not feel the same way about you ?
It can be downright devastating it can be heartbreaking truly right when you found a
woman that you actually like one that checks all the boxes for you only to hear in return the all
too familiar excuses of uh i don't know i'm just not that into you or i don't want to ruin our
friendship or the very common um i'm not ready for a relationship yet and i'm sorry to break
it to you but most of the time if not almost all of the times those are just excuses she's just
trying to let you down easy she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and it makes you wonder what's
happening here what am i doing that's turning her off or what do i need to do to turn her on
why is she falling for all these guys that don't even treat her as well as i do well guys it's
actually not what's wrong with her it's something that you are doing and this is really unfortunate
because unless you fix this then dating is going to continue to be unpredictable it's going to
continue to be frustrating and you're going to end up settling so that's why in this video i'm going
to reveal to you the 7 most common reasons women are not attracted to you they don't feel the same
way about you what to do when it happens and more importantly how to prevent it from happening again
and make sure that you take special note of reason number one because that's what i see 90
of my students struggle with too needy a lot of you guys are coming off as really needy really
emotionally dependent on her you are looking to her to give you some kind of validation
some kind of affirmation that she likes you that things are going well that she's giving you
attention and this is just plain old unattractive and this leads us straight to number six
putting her on a pedestal so if you're placing her above yourself your world your moods your actions
are going to revolve around her you have lost all control all power if your moods are so fickle
based on this one person it basically means that she's running your life and that's not the kind of
man that you want to be you want to have control of your emotions you want to have control of
your moods of your actions you don't want to be so fickle being proactive is fantastic being reactive
one puts you in the feminine two it makes us lose trust in you and it makes us lose respect for you
that is not the kind of relationship that you want to have number five having no purpose so i'm gonna
go into this a little further in a second but i hope that you guys see how all of these play
into each other when you put her on a pedestal when you become needy essentially shows her that
your world revolves around her and that you don't have things in your life that you're excited
about when we talk about being an attractive man we're talking about a man that knows who he is
that knows what he wants that goes after what he wants and he's clear on his purpose and big hint
here your purpose should not be her sure your purpose could be to leave a legacy or to have
a fantastic family but it still doesn't revolve around her as an individual think about this what
is your purpose when you're on your debt but how do you want to leave the world behind how do you
want people to remember you what are you striving for what excites you in the morning if you don't
have purpose and if you don't have a life that you love a life that you're excited about then yes
you're going to come off needy because she's going to become your life and no healthy woman is going
to want or respect that if you don't have purpose and your world revolves around her you're putting
her on a pedestal you are starting a very toxic and volatile relationship where you can expect
a lot of high highs and low lows and a lot of resentment that's going to end it all number four
you're uncomfortable with tension this is a huge one guys i really want you to take special note
of this how do you deal with tension how do you deal with a situation that makes you uncomfortable
do you just sweep things under the rug and become overly agreeable are you people pleasing are you
essentially becoming a doormat here again you are not leading through your masculinity the masculine
needs to be able to handle tension i'm not saying that you're out there seeking tension
i'm not saying that you are this gorilla ape of a man that is starting fights but you are a man that
when push comes to shove and you need to put your foot down you do and the more that you do and the
more that you do so in a healthy way the more not only respect but attraction we have for you when
she challenges you when she tests you when she does things or says things that you don't like
how do you deal with that are you reactive are you proactive do you get really triggered do you
find it easier to just ignore the whole thing in the first place so let's get really comfortable
with tension both in your relationships and also in your everyday life number three desire when i
say desire i'm talking about either desire for her as a person or desire just to be in a relationship
now you might be wondering okay how is this making her lose attraction when you are desiring
her or the relationship so much that you're white-knuckling it so much that you are going to
sacrifice your dignity sacrifice your respect because in your mind you say to yourself oh my
goodness i just don't want to be alone anymore i rather put up with things that are not pleasant
but i just want her so bad she's worth it this is going to backfire and it leads us to number
two having a scarcity mindset scarcity implies that what you have is very limited
meaning you're worried you may not be able to find another one you're worried that there is a lack of
opportunities or a lack of relationships that's going to serve you like the one that you're in
this is going to lead you into actions that you don't want to do and then sprinkle a little fear
of oh my goodness i do not want to go home alone again and i don't want to wake up in a cold empty
bed it's going to make you act in varying healthy ways and it will certainly cause her to lose
attraction and now the moment that we've all been waiting for the number one reason why she's not
into you having low self-worth so if we look back at all the reasons we just talked about in this
video scarcity mindset desire for her or their relationship not being comfortable with tension
lacking purpose putting her on a pedestal being needy these are all signs that your self-worth
needs some improvement that your self-worth is not where ideally it should be and like we've
been saying this video it's going to come across as weak it's going to come across as unattractive
because you don't have the confidence in yourself and you lack that self-worth that's where we need
to start building that is essential for not only attracting the type of woman that you want but
having the kind of life that you desire having low self-worth is going to make you act in ways that
turn people off people will start treating you as a doormat people will take advantage of you
people will just not respect you it all ties in you need to have a really solid sense of who you
are and by the way it's okay there are things that you're not good at we are all human beings there
is no such thing as perfect you're going to find someone that loves your imperfections and your
imperfections should be something that you want to work on something that you're striving for how
you're growing and getting better when you work on this your self-worth should be so strong that you
know exactly what kind of behaviors are acceptable you start setting boundaries and you never again
settle for behaviors or women that you have in the past now everything that we've talked about
here you need to be really clear on you also have to have really healthy access to your emotions
and you need to know how women communicate because men and women communicate differently so if you're
trying to attract her she's not feeling it back you are not speaking her language you are not
having a natural engaging magnetic conversation with her where she's just drawn to you
and you're just acting like yourself and she feels that because you are that confident man
with high self-worth and you know exactly what women want and you know how to engage with them
because you're able to connect on that authentic genuine level the level that she responds to if
you're relying on that logical analytical mind of yours which is wonderful by the way but that needs
to be put on the shelf when it comes to talking about emotions relationships and connecting
if you're relying on that then you are completely missing the boat and women will not respond
to you in a romantic way now when you learn how to communicate with women the right way
that's a game changer you're gonna finally stop wondering what specific words to say
how to say them what you need in specific situations and you're gonna feel so much
freer in your body you're gonna connect in an organic way how liberating is that so regardless
if you're having a hard time approaching if you're having a hard time striking up a conversation or
if you're a little more advanced and you're having a hard time sealing the deal for that
second third fourth date then this will help you tremendously we're gonna show you exactly how to
lead the interaction how to have a good time and how to draw her in so that you're both connecting
and she can't wait to see you again so if you want to learn how to truly connect with women
how to speak that language how to draw her in so that you're connecting organically just click the
link on your screen or in the description and it's going to take you to our website with a
lot more details my name is Lynn Matalon for The Attractive Man and i'll see you in the next video.