in this video you're gonna learn how to stop getting nervous around really beautiful women
the kind of like um psychological shift guys have when they encounter an extremely attractive
woman is that they think they need to do all these extra things to impress her and that's
why most guys fail it's it's really actually simplifying it because the most attractive women
have the least amount of authentic communication from the outside world because somebody's always
trying to get something from them so if you can actually just be comfortable and talk
to them normally like you would anyone else as ironic and counterintuitive as it sounds
you will stand out like an attractively sore thumb well i resonate a lot with that because
as you know guys i was in a six year long relationship almost so when i got out of it almost
every girl was attractive to me and i was nervous around every girl so like i resonate with that
a lot and like the more i would go out the more comfortable i would get there is still something
in me that i thought that some types of women were just not for me and i would have to work
a lot to get them and just just learn a lot of stuff what really made a difference for
me is actually because i was lucky i accidentally approached my actual girlfriend who is probably a
girl that i would consider very out of my league at the time and uh everything flowed naturally
and from there i just realized that i had a connection with someone that i really appreciate
and when i would approach women that would be very very attractive after that i would not be
triggered because i would realize that most of them are actually more boring than i thought
most of them would be just not that fun and i would not connect necessarily with them so i was
kind of lucky to have that experience of something works right and that would just put me outside of
my head that being said i still had that problem of i don't really know how to date or attract
those beautiful women and that actually was sold by my friend here josiah who gave me that tip
instead of you know going into the bars and try to talk to people or nightclubs and just warm
up and work your way up to the girl you actually wanted to talk to reverse that start to just enter
somewhere and start to talk to the most beautiful women there and if it doesn't work well [ __ ] it
and like when you get used to this first rejection then it's it's just simpler it's like getting the
hardest one yeah out of the way and even though you realize it's no harder than just talking to
any woman she's just a little bit more attractive sorry basically what happens is that at some point
you don't necessarily see this difference in the in the looks anymore you see more like with whom
you would like to genuinely talk to yeah i had to personally go through a lot of contrast because
i'm very short i learned one of two things that that i asked myself every single time that i would
do this is what does my life look like if i do this and what does my life look look like if i
don't do this and i never know what's going to happen so might as well just do it so one of two
things that i always do is like i would follow a lot of david data right the way the superior man
i read his attract so many women you have to eliminate them and the radical honesty
right because i would always put the idea that my subconscious would always find the right women
that are looking for me um just because it's it's that sophisticated and then the radical honesty
was like i'm just i'm actually showing how nervous i am the worst thing that she can say is just no
might as well and uh one of the most beautiful women that i've i've come across with and had the
experience to actually be with i would reframe that with the best thing that she can say is no
yes then you just you just get the experience and it doesn't matter anymore you got that move on to
somebody who will say yes yeah and i think the key component when you're feeling really nervous
around really beautiful women is that you got to stop putting them on a pedestal like
you said right especially nowadays with so much information out there we see all these pictures
of beautiful women on instagram and a lot of guys watch pornography because it's no big deal it's
like it's a cool thing to do you got to stop doing that you got to stop watching porn you got to stop
even following all these really beautiful instagram models because you see that all
the time you see these perfect women and you're just like wow oh my gosh i want that
and every time you do that you put her on a pedestal even when you see her in real life
and you think wow she's so hot or you say that to your buddies wow look at her she's so hot
you got to stop doing that instead you got to see them as regular people say yeah she looks
pretty let's go find out if she's cool so one of my students he just approached a girl who looked
very average i would say and he just got a date with her and everything went well then she left or
something like that and like two months later he sent me a text saying that she was a modeling for
l'oreal actually so he got a date with her not knowing that she was like when she puts makeup
on and she gets prepped and you know pictures are edited that's the truth yeah especially
on instagram nowadays just go on youtube and just just just look for you know fake instagram profile
like there are so many videos out there that will show you how these people can change their entire
figure photoshop photoshop i've seen a lot of skinny chicks who aren't actually skinny chicks
when you see the real like real shots in the real video you could do plastic surgery on the apps now
totally what oh yeah you can change the nose size and i think the size of everything
yeah jen does that another really powerful mindset uh shift that you can make is i took
this from zen perrion it's the do i like her does she like me boys ask
does she like me in her mind does she like me does she like me did she like what i said what do
you think that's gonna do to your state how how do you think you're gonna feel when you're constantly
seeking her approval right instead shift your focus to do i like her what do i like about her
does she have something interesting to say because imagine that your face is literally a a screen
a marquee right she's gonna be able to see any of your thoughts projected on your face
so when you're and we get this with students all the time and model work right they're like
they look like little boys or deer in headlights where they're like they say something they're like
looking for her approval right she sees that and it is super unattractive and it's it's as well
gonna destroy your interaction but when you shift it to what do i look like about her and you're
looking right you're looking into her what do i like about her what interesting things does
this woman have is she just a pretty face your expression and your energy is completely different
and that has a very profound effect not just on really beautiful women but all women in general
and you see that the more emotional development and maturity people get um especially men we have
more of a severe look on our face right for the world we're kind of more discerning around the
world when you see that you have a lot of nice guy and a lot of supplicating uh qualities you'll see
people walking around the street and they're like kind of like looking around literally
like children are deer in headlights so when you develop this habit in your approaches and your
interactions actually look for what you like about her beyond just her looks because the problem is
you give her all this value just because she looks good that's the simple mindset shift do i
like her versus does she like me yeah you're more proactive than reactive yeah exactly does she like
his reaction and remember that she's just a normal person without makeup on with a different not so
sexy outfit like in her pajamas she's farts too she poops too she she does it all and and women
have just as many if not more insecurities than we do they just see our insecurities first because
they are masters of picking up body language right but when you get to know a lot of these uh really
really beautiful women and get closer with them and you start seeing the insecurities and fears
and anxieties that they have it transforms your world i mean it humanizes them right yeah it's
simple like think of it this way if she is judged for not being attractive her entire world might
just yeah that's all of her value yeah because women are affirmed either by society or themselves
we always have to affirm ourselves no matter what that's why the nice guy came up right because we
didn't have male models for a long time so we we had society kind of give us these uh easy
things where we had food and water and shelter without even earning it so a lot of the guys
didn't have that right of passage that happened so much and think about this when you're looking
at a beautiful woman and she's the prize in your mind it's just because the wrapping is really nice
you have no idea what the gift is inside right but it's the opposite for men because it's really yeah
it's really what's inside for us that counts what do we have going on what's our passion
what are our goals what are our accomplishments and again you don't necessarily have to have
incredible accomplishments to be a high value man you just have to know your values you just
have to know what you want in life you want to be clear discerning um and direct girls love me like
i'm super short and they love me yeah yeah because you're on your purpose yeah you know what that is
you're on path yeah and they can feel that that's masculine i think of more of a practical sense
if you're looking for a girl who uh you want to get away from pedestal and girls there's an old
like saying you know the road to the road to nines and tens is paid with sevens and eights right
been a saying around forever but we used to play i think you actually taught this was uh we played
the hottest girl the gay game oh yeah hottest girl of the day comma game and so you would pick out
uh you'd see a cute girl a girl you're trying to do and you'd approach her but if you saw another
girl cuter than her you had to approach her as well so it kept amping up like your your level
and you find there's a lot of psychological things going on like most just because she's physically a
10 on that outside she could be a five or a six or less on the inside i've dated a girl who was
stunner model level physically attractive but she was childlike and her level of self-esteem
was like you know yeah we've all had that moment but that game has changed my life yeah so it's a
practical application of the of the the science behind it right one of the funniest things is
when you consistently start meeting and talking to hot women or betting hot women or going you know
sleeping with hot women you'll find that they're not all created equal it's not like oh she's
really hot she must also be good in bed matter of fact i would say i would say more often than not
it's actually the reverse and that's the halo effect i believe right we she's beautiful
therefore she must have all these other things in her life that are also beautiful but that's
not usually the case that's usually not the case and i think another key is the tension right the
beautiful woman like we know there's going to be a lot of tension when we approach her she makes
us feel all this tension before we you know just the thought of approaching her stirs up all this
emotion and you just gotta put yourself in that tension you just have to do it just experiment
experience it even if you fail even if you look like a fool in front of the most beautiful woman
in the club or walking down the street but you got to experience that now and when you get
to do that then each time it becomes easier and easier which of course is why we bring in so many
models on our workshop so that guys can experience that stand this close to them and experience all
those emotions that come up all that tension that comes up and they can deal with it and release it
it's all about weight and then when they see a beautiful woman walking down the street it's no
big deal yeah that's easy to approach depending on where you're coming from like if you just believe
then you'll see it like your subconscious will automatically fall in place but some
guys need to go through yes yeah some guys need to go through all that pain to feel like they
actually deserve that woman for some reason so it just depends if you they're they're both sides of
the same mountain but if you want to take the easier out then just believe it and if you want
to take the harder route and feel like you earned it by all means i mean i know i took that right
yeah you do the inner game work that we teach in our workshops and then you start to believe
it right you start working on the mindset and then you also work on the actions at the same time like
you said inner game outer game and then yeah when i when i had queue on this version of yourself on
on the mentoring program he did it in 60 days like he just fully believed it and then he just went
most of our students have this seeing women as too beautiful for them also as an excuse to not
not necessarily as an excuse to not do something but to an excuse to not fail
because they have a reason right she was just too hot like she was just too much
and what i figured is that what what makes the most difference is to get this just go all in
with her and just assume that it's not gonna work it doesn't matter just just go all in and and you
know do as if it was someone else and just get this true rejection but it helps to have someone
behind you know just to make sure that you're safe that's also what uh like what our guys appreciate
a lot of boot camps is that they can have that experience with someone that also makes sure that
nothing bad happens they also get emotionally safe and they don't have a breakdown and that they can
learn from it like it's it's as with everyone you mentioned the tension like most girls that
are approached let's say every day even if it's indirect they don't have that effect of
i am actually desired they just have men that come there to try to basically buy her in a sense right
with with other qualities with with status with looks it would just show something but they never
have someone that is genuinely like showing her that she will probably have a good time with them
right that's uh that's so another point i want to add on like like we were talking about earlier
with how fake pictures can be of women how much makeup and surgeries and who knows what
else is out there to enhance women's beauty beautiful women nowadays are a dime a dozen
what's more rare is a man who goes for what he wants and when you get better and better
at going for what you want you really stand out and you really start to see that you're the prize
but the very fact that you're approaching and you're going out there and you're being direct
makes you the prize automatically already even if you don't believe it because that woman you're
talking to no matter what happens there's gonna be thousands and thousands more at her caliber
in beauty right so that really helps you shift and start seeing that you really are the prize
yeah and once you once you start approaching more then you'll start seeing the sub communications
and basically women are always looking for that man that can catch those because women like i
don't even need to approach anymore at this point because like women are approaching me because they
can see that i have those qualities that i am grounded that i am sure of myself that i do know
what i'm looking for and then they're just giving me you know the eyes or they're like you have the
belief that you're good enough so you don't put women on the pedestal but the problem is right
these guys they put women on a pedophil pedestal because they believe they're not good enough right
so the belief is like the root issue so how do you fix that purpose you you're on your purpose
and you start you got to be a higher value man than her that's it yeah you're on your purpose
and you love yourself yes as far as what you exactly do when a woman is
you feel that she's outside of your league it's pretty simple women like that don't get
very genuine compliments so just look at her how she looks and what exactly is attractive
is it in her eyes what exactly in her eyes makes it attractive what in her way of appearing is
it her energy is it the way she walks is it so instead of focusing on the nervousness in your
body you focus on that is that what you're saying focus on that and that has two sides
first it gets you into the place this place of approaching out of giving her some value and being
standing out from other men that are just there just having this yes or no of is she hot enough
as and on the other hand it allows you just to stand out by giving a compliment that she probably
never got before like i would not mind approaching a girl telling her how i like her legs because
that's something i like a lot and she probably never heard like hears that she hears every day
that she's cute beautiful that she has probably nice eyes that she's good looking that she dresses
well go beyond that take more time to figure out what exactly is attractive in her and how to
convey that in the most powerful way like just go all in hundred percent don't you appreciate that
it's the perceptual shift it's like uh going out there to constantly chase materials that are
gonna make you happy versus just actualizing your own self-love and self-understanding
and then naturally attracting that stuff i mean this is why celebrities kill themselves right
it's like the millionaire that thinks that next million is gonna be his security right
and then he gets it he's like no no i need another million and another million
and it never ends and the guy spends his entire life focusing on making money instead of slowing
down and actually enjoying the wealth that he yeah the pursuit of happiness is the journey not the
destination yeah when it comes to relationships and dating is the journey yeah working on yourself
working on like i said the internet the inner game and the outer game so come on a boot camp we'll
work on mastering your inner game your mentality your thoughts your beliefs as well as your outer
game actually what to do and what to say when you see a beautiful woman that you want to talk to so
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