You’ve seen other dating coaches’ videos.
Here are the FIVE SEXY TEXT MESSAGES THAT WILL MAKE HIM CRAVE YOU.
Here are the SEVEN THINGS YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW THAT WILL BREAK HIS WILL
AND FORCE HIM PROPOSE TO YOU WITHIN MINUTES.
This stuff is clickbait and you click it and that’s why there are lesser dating
coaches with bigger followings and that’s another story for another day.
The fact is, there is one simple thing you can do right now that men absolutely love.
Stick around and I’ll tell you what it is.
My name is Evan Marc Katz, dating coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal trainer
for love. Welcome to the Love U Podcast. Keep listening to the best and easiest thing you can do
to make him like you. When we’re done, I’ll let you know how you can apply to Love U
to create a passionate relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood.
Love U members (the people who pay me for my advice instead of just listening for free)
are having a banner week.
Just this week, I got: notification of an engagement from an African American woman in
her mid-fifties, a photo of a millennial Love U grad who got a boyfriend in Love U and just
reached their one year anniversary, a 41-year-old woman who found her first easy relationship as
she graduated from Love U, and two current Love U members who just got into committed relationships.
Big week for Love U!
I mention this at the top of the video because it’s easy to think that your experience with
dating and men is the only experience - and that whatever you do is futile
because apps suck and men are terrible - but every week is like this for me. I only tell
you about this because it's important you know that there's a whole other way to be.
So when you see other women who are successful,
I'm hoping that it gives you more positive reinforcement so that you realize that there
are some good men out there and that there's hope for you, and the idea that it's relatively
simple to do better with guys if you do a few things differently. So I just want to
begin today with the sociological observation about men that you can use to your advantage:
Men aren’t very nice to each other. I know it’s a shocker, but it's true.
Men don’t compliment each other. Men rarely call each other.
Men tend not to talk about their feelings with each other.
Men certainly never touch each other.
If anything, part of the guy code is that men
do the opposite of what women do under the guise of some sort of masculinity.
If a woman goes back to her high school reunion, her girlfriends are going to look at her and say,
“Oh, my God, Janine, you look great!” regardless of whether she does,
that's what they're going to say to each other.
If a man goes back to his high school reunion, he gained weight,
his guy friends are going to bust on him, make fun of him for losing his hair and ask him if he
ate a basketball. That's what guys do. And not saying that's a good thing. I'm saying
that's men: blunt, tactless, insensitive - or at least that’s how we’re socialized.
And I don’t even need to know why to point out that this is in general, true.
When guys get older, in their 40s, 50s, we have work, maybe a hobby, maybe a couple of friends,
but we don’t have networks and men’s groups and Dad’s night’s out.
Masculinity is a pretty self-reliant and lonely world.
Now you enter.
You meet a guy online who has been ignored, ghosted, and belittled by 90% of women he’s
met online and he doesn’t have much in the way of warm, positive energy from his guy friends.
I think we could state this is a broad assertion.
If you’re like most women, you tend to be wary of the many awful guys out there.
And there are. But that has nothing to do with this guy.
The problem is when you let your weariness creep into your conversation,
into your communication, your lack of faith,
your lack of trust — suddenly you're acting from a place of fear and scarcity and urgency.
Instead of flirting with the new guy that you met, you're
so geared to fend off icky guys and prevent anybody from getting in to hurt you.
And the problem is that it shows in how you show up and how you communicate.
Your texting itself becomes defensive, fearful, somewhat transactional, and kind of masculine.
Why? You don't want to get hurt, don't want to waste time,
don't want to lean on the wrong guy. And then you notice dating isn't that much fun.
That’s where today’s tip comes in.
If we understand that men are starved for validation, attention, affirmation, attraction.
If the guy you're talking to hasn't had a compliment from a male friend for a decade.
If other women are setting hard boundaries and trying to interrogate their guys by text.
Here’s one thing you can do that men absolutely LOVE.
Give him a pet name. Say something sweet and complimentary in the most off-handed way,
in the context of a conversation.
Hey, handsome, give me a call later tonight! All right, cutie, can’t wait to hear your voice.
Slow down there, sweetie. I love your enthusiasm but we save talk like that for later.
Cap it off with an emoji of your choice and you’re all set.
I call these Flirty Flourishes and they work like a charm.
First, they work because men are starved for affection.
Second, they work because they’re really easy to use and require little thought.
Third, they work because they’re not even real compliments. So you’re not telling him
how great he is, how insecure you feel, how you hope he picks you,
or how you're obsessed with his social media and you've been researching him.
You're not putting up on any pedestal. This is like an offhanded nothing kind of remark.
So all you're doing in this situation is where other women don't do this — you’re confidently
dropping a tiny positive affirmation (in text) that makes him feel like a million
bucks, a little dopamine hit of flirtation without making a real big deal about it.
So earlier, I mentioned the success of some Love U clients of mine.
I want to mention one in particular. Her name is Joan.
She's a doctor who came to me last year, invested in private coaching, and kinda
went all in. She went through a six-month Love U curriculum and just posted a picture in the Love
U Facebook group of her and her ten-month boyfriend about how happy they looked.
But she told me that out of EVERYTHING I taught her in a six-month course with 280 videos about
confidence, meeting men, dating, understanding men, relationships, and commitment, the ONE
thing I told her that made the GREATEST impact on her was what I just shared with you today.
Once this somewhat traditional, learn to flirt just a little bit more via text,
it was like magic, how men and later her boyfriend softened up, responded to her,
and were willing to kind of play by her rules and instead of trying to set their own.
So, yes, I acknowledge there are terrible guys out there.
Sure, there are always guys who push things too far sexually; we’re not talking about them.
Good guys like to hear sweet nothings once in a while, too.
Drop a sweetie, honey, baby, cutie, or handsome into your next text and see how well it works.
I think you’re gonna love it. And so will he.
Have you struggled to remain flirty via text when there are so many men who are so
bad at texting? Share your comments and thoughts below.
See you next week.
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