Is it a resting
bitch face? like- - No.
It's just a resting
Angry Man face. - Really?
- You do. Like the eyebrows
and then... _______ does it too,
like when you furrow your brows
and you just look like you're upset
and I'm just like, Is everything okay?
And you're just like: 'Yes,
this is just my face.'
What do people who
watched our past {The And} session
not understand about our relationship?
- I think a lot of times
when people
see us, whether it's our friends or
or probably even family,
they may feel like our relationship is
is perfect, we describe it
that way a lot that we're
perfect for each other. - We were matched.
- We're...
a great fit.
But that doesn't come
without its challenges.
- Yeah. - You know, it's always...
Any relationship is
going to have its challenges.
- You know, when you
look at our relationship
describing it as perfect,
it's perfect for us.
You know what I mean?
Like, we have a very easy
way with each other.
We don't fuss and hurt
each other's feelings
like we respect each other.
And even when we're upset
with each other, we maintain that.
And so, you know, for me,
it's like whatever challenges we have,
as long as we can talk
about them with maturity
and we can still honor each other
no matter what is going on
and try to understand each other
in a sensible,
responsible, mature way.
I don't know what else
I could ask for.
Because that's usually
the biggest problem
is just like being heard
and listened to.
And listening to
your partner is probably
like the biggest challenge, right?
But we have that.
So it's like: well, good. We have
like the great foundation.
Now we just see what other things
we need to do, how we can...
- It's all learning.
You know, I mean, we've
I think we've learned a lot from
our past relationships
and brought it to this relationship
to make it better.
You know, the quality time,
the time that we get
together, time that we make sure
that we get, that's very important.
And I think we talked
about it last time,
and that was one of the things that,
you know,
I think where we felt
most close to each other
was when we went out
and when we were able
to just sit and talk.
And whether it's talking
about the house...
stuff at the house or at school
or whatever it is, it's just nice to
to have that time.
And I think that's
something that we learned
from our previous relationships
that we need to bring in to this one
to make sure that it keeps
growing in it and it stays strong .
- Yeah.
Agreed.
- How do we define intimacy
differently in our relationship
and how does that affect us?
- Okay.
Yeah, I think we touched on this
a little bit.
I do have a rather, a broader sense
like we both do enjoy
just spending time
with each other, but.
I think we differ in that.
I think that's probably
it seems to me that that is the
the greatest part for you is like us
just being together.
That like fills you up a whole lot,
just the spending time,
even the proximity of our closeness,
like on the sofa
or when we're sitting out
to eat. Things like that.
And I feel that way, too.
But I also feel strongly about like
being held and, you know, cuddling.
I don't know.
Maybe this is all
just a very typical thing.
You know what I'm talking about, but...
But yeah, I think that is,
that would be
a big difference
for us where I do feel...
I guess more loved
and closer to you,
more intimate with you
when we spend time
close to each other physically.
You know,
not even just sexually,
but just physically
with physically touching each other.
And I think I always ask you,
like, does it hurt? It's
because like,
I've read things with people
who are that way
where they just don't need it as much.
And sometimes for those people,
it's like harder for them, literally.
So I'm just always trying to discern,
is that because it's really hard for
you? And you're just like,
No, I just don't remember to do it.
I don't think of it.
It's just like, okay,
I just want to make sure
that it's not like,
this is very challenging
for you, you know,
because then I want to make sure
that I'm not crossing any boundaries
or that we can solely push boundaries
back or whatever.
But yeah, that's the difference.
I don't think you need that
to feel close to me,
and I feel like I need
that to feel close to you.
- And we've had this conversation
a few times before. - To death.
To death we've
had this conversation.
We've buried it and we dug it up
out of the ground
and then we buried it
and resurrected it.
We need the holy water
or something on this situation.
- I put reminders in my phone.
- I told you that. I was like: babe,
just put like- set an alarm.
Hug my wife and then it'll ring.
Kiss wife on cheek.
Rub wife's back in a circular motion.
- Yes.
It's all in there.
- It's okay.
We'll do what we've got to
do to try to remember.
When do you think I need you most
and how do you know?
- I think it's...
I think it's easy to tell.
I don't always...
I don't always pick up on it.
But it's-
a lot of times when you're watching
one of the kids go through
something that you know is
tough for them, and it's
obviously tough for you to watch.
And I think that's
when you just need
a hug or whatever,
and you know, again, it's
one of those things that I'm trying to
to make that effort to see
more clearly those times.
But it's
it's I guess it's,
you know, it's just hard
because it's
not something that I've
ever done in the past.
Just
for some weird reason, I don't know.
But, but
I think that that's...
those are the times- watch,
when you're watching
one of the kids
go through something that you know,
they're having a tough time with
and they may say they,
you know, it's fine.
I've got it and all that,
but you can tell, you know,
you're their mom.
You can tell.
And that's when I can.
I can see that
you need me.
And it's
it's not for anything but
support and a hug
or...
- Just remind me everything
that it'll be all right
and that they will...
They will find their sea legs.
- They will persevere. - Yep.
- Yeah, they're tough.
- They are. - They are.
- They're strong people.
- They are.
What does my love feel like?
- Like...
You're very- it's very
secure.
Fortress feeling,
you know, like in a castle
where you pull the moat
up and you're secure.
It's safe.
It's reliable.
You know, you don't waver
much.
You know what I mean?
Like, you don't have like
great emotional ups and downs.
So like, it's just- it really does.
It really is safe.
Like it's safe for
me to express myself.
It's secure.
It's very solid.
That would be my best
description of it, it's
just it's very reliable
I can wake up tomorrow morning
so long as you're living.
I know that we're okay.
I know that I can step
on this foundation
and it's not going to crack.
You don't fall apart
easy. You're very capable.
I can rely on you
and I know it.
You show up.
And you do things well.
You know?
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