- So, if you're experiencing a situation
where you like a guy, you think he likes you,
but things are just progressing slower than you would like,
how can you tell if he's actually into you?
That's exactly what we're going to talk about today.
Check it out.
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Hey there, my name is Mat Boggs
and I'm the founder of the the Love & Relationship Division
of the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is "Empowering people
to create a life they love,"
and that includes your love life.
So if you're dating someone
and things are progressing slower than you would like,
how do you know if he's really into you?
How do you know if he likes you?
Today, I'm gonna give you five signs.
And this came actually from a client of mine,
where recently she was saying,
I've dated this guy, we've been dating for about a month.
We've gone out several times and I like him,
but he's just really slow progressing things forward.
He hasn't even tried to kiss me yet.
I don't know if he's romantically interested in me
or if he just kind of considers us more friends.
I'm confused; how can I tell?
So if you are ever in this situation
where a guy isn't progressing things physically
but he's asking you out on dates, what does that mean?
How can you interpret that?
Well, it's important to remember
that men form connections with you in four ways.
They will form a mental connection with you,
an emotional connection with you,
a spiritual connection with you,
and a physical connection with you.
And so what's interesting is, the more a guy likes you,
the slower he will try to take the relationship,
which seems counterintuitive, doesn't it?
The more he likes you, the slower he'll move; why?
The reason why is because he has more to lose.
If a man is invested with you
and he feels connected mentally, emotionally, spiritually;
if he's connected on all those levels
and he wants to connect with you physically,
then if he pursues things too fast,
if he screws up the relationships,
then he'll lose the mental, emotional,
and spiritual connection that he has for you.
On the other hand, if a guy isn't mentally connected,
emotionally connected, spiritually connected
and not yet physically connected, but he's attracted to you,
that kind of man has nothing to lose
if he advances a relationship physically.
If he tries to kiss you too soon,
or he tries to sleep with you,
that guy has got nothing to lose if you reject him,
because he'll say, well,
I'll just go create a physical connection
with somebody else.
Very interesting, different interpretation to say, oh,
his slow progression means that he's actually into me more.
So there are other things that you want in place
to make sure that he isn't just dragging his feet
and isn't into you.
But if he's showing you these other five signs
and he's progressing things slowly, physically,
then that's a really good sign that he's super into you.
So here's the first indicator that you want to look for.
Is he pursuing you?
Is he actually initiating phone calls, initiating texts,
and asking out?
Or are you bridging the connection?
Very important.
Look at your text thread.
Are you the one who's actually texting him first?
Are you the one who's asking him out?
That's a different challenge that you're having.
If that's you, then you're doing the pursuing
and he's not into you as much as you're into him.
The person who's into you is going to be pursuing you.
Number two, is he's consistent in his communication.
So, and you'll often see an increase in that consistency
as the two of you progressive relationship.
So you go on a date, he texts you afterwards
to see how you're doing.
He texts you throughout the week
and then plans another date.
What he's not doing is going out with you
and letting a week go by before he texts you.
And then casually he's like,
oh, hey what are you up to? This and that.
That guy is not into you.
The guy who's consistent with his communication,
that's a great sign of his level of interest for you.
The third indicator is prime time hours.
When you go out, when he's talking to you, is it prime time?
Are you going out Friday, Saturday, Sunday?
Are you hanging out, or is it in between times
when it's convenient for him, not convenient for you
on a week night?
Those are not prime time hours.
So if he's asking you out on a prime time hour,
great sign that he's into you.
The fourth indicator that he is not just into you,
but romantically into you, wants to move things forward is,
is he offering to pay for dates?
See, men, we are hard wired to want to provide
and to protect those that we care about,
specifically the person we have a romantic interest in.
So when a man pursues you, he plans the date,
and then he offers to pay for that date,
that right there is a great distinction
between someone who is just wanting to be friends with you
versus someone who's romantically interested in you.
And number five: does he try to progress the relationship?
In other words, does he try to become exclusive with you,
take you off the market,
tell you, I closed my online dating site,
and so I'm not dating anyone else.
I only want to date you.
Is he offering up comments like that?
Does he want to be exclusive with you?
Because a man who really likes you
quickly doesn't want you dating anyone else.
He wants to be the sole person that you're seeing.
So those are five signs that shows that he's into you
if he hasn't yet made a physical move.
And you want him to kiss you,
you want to engage physically with him.
What he needs is a big, green light,
because remember, he's worried about losing
risking the emotional connection, mental connection,
and spiritual connection he's already built with you.
So you've got to give him a big green light.
You can tell him that you want him to kiss you.
You can tell him the things
that you would love for him to engage with you in,
but he needs that green light in order to move forward.
So there you have it, five signs if he's taking it slow,
that show you that he's into you.
My question for you is, what signs have you seen,
if a guy's taking it slow,
How do you know whether he just considers you a friend
versus he's into you?
Go ahead and post that in the comment section below.
I appreciate you; thanks for watching.
I'll see you soon.
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