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Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
On today's video, we're talking about how to approach a girl without being creepy.
These are some amazing practical tips that you can use right away.
If you use these, not only are you not going to come off creepy, but you're going to look
more attractive because you're gonna know exactly the proper way to make her feel comfortable
and get her interested in you all at the same time.
Why don't we dive in?
First thing is this, when you go over, you can use what's called a false time constraint.
This is old pickup stuff here.
The FTC false time constraint.
Basically, you go over and say "hey, two seconds..."
It's basically like saying, excuse me without saying, excuse me.
You say "hey, two seconds...
I wanted to come say hi."
Hey, two seconds, I want to come say hi.
That's your opener right there.
That means that when they hear "two seconds, I wanted to come say hi", that means that
you're not going to be there for that long.
This is quick, this is not something where you're going to be sitting around a while
or standing around a while talking to them.
It makes them feel just a little bit more comfortable.
Two seconds, I had to come over and say hi.
Next, always approach from the front.
Never approach from the back.
People don't ever really approach from the back unless they're trying to be creepy or
weird.
It's not in line with the social norms.
Better to approach from the front.
Now, you might be saying, well Tripp, what do I do if I see a woman and she passes me
as we're walking?
All I can do is approach from the back.
Not necessarily, you can go back to approach her but instead of tapping her on the shoulder
from the back, you can run up a little bit... jog, not run... just kind of like step a little
bit more in front of her.
And then now you're in front of her and then you say "hey... two seconds...
I want to come say hi".
Yes, it still might startle her a little bit.
You can't really get away from that.
But it's better than just coming up right from the back and doing some sort of tap.
Now, with the exception of maybe you're at a bar, and it might be tough to get in front
of her because she's at the bar or there's friends in front of her... there you might
want to tap a little bit.
That's a little bit more normal because you're in a social situation.
Here's an obvious one.
I didn't want to lead with this, because it's so obvious.
But I feel like guys are so nervous that they forget to do it.
Smile.
Guys get really nervous and they go up to a woman and it's like a deer in the headlights
and they're just freaking out and they forget that they can smile.
Because what does it mean when you smile?
It means that you're comfortable.
It means you're confident and a woman wants to see that.
She doesn't want to see a dead pan looking in her eyes.
That's creepy.
That's not relatable.
We like it when we see people smile and happy.
There's something more trusting there.
Make sure when you're approaching a woman, you are having that smile.
It doesn't have to be the whole time like a grinning idiot.
But make sure that's happening throughout the conversation.
Even a light grin like I'm doing right now as I'm talking to you.
I'm not smiling, but there's like a light grin.
Looks like I'm having a fun time having a nice conversation.
Next, you want to slow down.
When you're talking fast like this, and you're nervous, that's gonna make her feel nervous.
You see, your energy and what you put off when you're in a conversation can be easily
picked up by someone else.
It's called the law of state transfer, which means how you feel you can make someone else
feel.
For example, have you ever been hanging around a friend who's down in the dumps and really
sad, for some reason, but even that reason for sadness has nothing to do with you but
they're just feeling down and then you start to feel down?
You start to take on that person's energy.
If you're going up to a woman and you're nervous and talking fast, they're gonna start to feel
anxious and weird around you.
By the way, I know that some of the stuff you're not going to get right away.
All this stuff takes practice.
Don't worry about getting this down the first time.
It might take a little bit to get to that point where you can breathe, where you can
slow down, talk to someone, smile, feel confident, feel comfortable.
It's something that you work up to.
And that's totally fine.
But remember, you want to work up to that.
Talking in a slow, confident way.
Sometimes might talk a little fast, but then you might come down here and talk slow or
talk in a normal speed.
But don't always be talking in a very fast paced like I'm doing right now.
It's gonna make her feel a little bit anxious and show that you are nervous, which is not
very confident.
Next, make sure you talk about you.
This is one of my biggest tips.
I talk about this to my coaching clients who I'm coaching and telling them what to do when
they go out and do approaches.
And that is, you just want to make sure that you're talking about yourself a little bit
and not just pounding them with questions.
If you're pounding them with too many questions, and it's just interview mode, then what's
going to happen is, they're not going to feel connected to you.
They're going to feel like it's an interview, and they're not going to be feeling like they
know who you are.
You're more of a stranger.
It's creepy.
It's a little weird.
Don't be afraid to talk about you or yourself even if she doesn't ask.
That's my point here.
She might not feel comfortable in the conversation quite yet to ask you.
questions because you're the one who approached and is leading it.
Instead, you want to offer some statements.
And again, if she's not saying anything then you have to follow up with a question so the
conversation can keep going.
But the idea is, can you tell a little story based on whatever you're talking about?
Can you listen to what she's saying and word extract?
When she says, for example, I'm from Austin, Texas.
And instead of saying, oh, cool, how do you like it?
You can say Austin Texas, awesome.
I've always wanted to go there or I've never been there before or I was there a year ago
with a bachelor party, it was so much fun.
What can you say in the conversation to offer up information about you and not make it so
one sided with all of these questions?
My coaching program, which you can find at www.coachedbytripp.com, I'll put a link down
below, helps you with all of this.
If you feel like these tips are great, but you need more help, more one on one work,
like you and I working together and solving this problem, then you can go to Coached By
Tripp dot com and apply today.
I have all kinds of programs, one on one with me.
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on the next video.