I just got such a good question for Ask Sunny, so I figured we should just do another video
while we can. So I'm going to share the video with you, share the question and then we'll
dive in. This is a super common question. I'm sure you're going to be able to relate,
so hit that like button if you do. So let's dive. Hey Sunny. I am so, so happy you're doing the
Ask Sunny series again. So I actually have this question a lot for the people that I really look
up to and the people that I admire, kind of like you. Did you know when you were about
to have a breakthrough, whether it's personal or whether it's business or whether it's both
these marriages together? So basically what I mean is, as an entrepreneur, you're hustling through,
you're doing everything left, right and center, you're really trying to give it your all. And
with every failure over and over again, I know that there's a voice inside that just says keep
going. But did you know when you were at the brink of a breakthrough for your business,
for your channel and for your life? Nadine, this is such a good question.
And she was referencing the three marriages, which I talk about in this video, which is the marriage
between your self as a person, your relationships and your business, and kind of balancing those
three things. And as you also know, I referenced in this video and in a lot of my videos, my motto
is really test, fail, learn, grow, repeat. So do I know and have I known when I'm on the
verge of a breakthrough? And also, how have I not given up in my entrepreneurial journey? Because it
definitely is not easy. The nature of this beast is uncertainty. So if you can relate to that and
you're excited about this, I'm going to dive into the things that have kept me going and feeling
like my next breakthrough is around the corner. So subscribe. It's free to do so. You can always
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sure you hit the like button and leave a comment with your biggest takeaway from today's video.
So in terms of knowing when my next breakthrough is coming, I would say sometimes I have a feeling
that I'm moving in the direction towards something big. But there is an ironic twist to that,
which I'm going to share in a second. So the first thing I will say is I celebrate my wins.
It doesn't matter if it's a tiny, teeny, teeny, teeny little thing and little win, I'm still
celebrating it. I started doing this very early on because it was the only way to keep going.
One of the biggest mistakes I think that people make when they start a business or do anything
challenging, it's a YouTube channel, it's a new relationship, whatever it is, you don't take the
time to give yourself a little kudos for how far you've come and give yourself a little pat on the
back. So a big part of my progress and my ability to keep going, even when things were really hard,
was to celebrate every single little micro win. Did I wake up? Did I send an email? Did
I publish a new video? Did I work on a new campaign? Those are all little wins. Did I
take another breath? Win. So that's one thing. The next thing is my ability to pivot. I've
talked about this. I recently talked about this in this video and pivoting my business, and that
is a huge key to success as an entrepreneur. When things happen that are out of your control,
you need to know that your next breakthrough will come as long as you don't stop. I always say that
the only way to lose is if you quit. If you keep going, inevitably success will happen for you.
That is one of my mottoes, is that your success is inevitable. Being able to adapt and to look
at what's going on in your business and really audit it with a clear set of eyes and knowing
your numbers, which I talked about in this video, it's an act of self care to know your financials
and know your numbers and have that certainty on what's going on, it allows you to make decisions
and adjustments. And those adjustments can be the biggest key to your next breakthrough.
So being able to pivot is really important. The next thing we'll say is knowing yourself
and being able to tune in and tune out the noise. You get a lot of information and a lot of advice
as a new entrepreneur. Sometimes it's really hard to figure out what's right for you. So
you have to figure out how you want to operate in your business and what feels right for you. And
you have to learn what's a yes and what is a no. And for me, when something's a yes, and when I'm
onto something good, my body feels expansive. My heart feels expansive. I feel free. I feel
liberated. I feel motivated. I feel like I'm headed in the right direction. And I feel in flow.
When I feel like something's a no, I kind of constrict. It feels forced. It feels
like I'm headed in the wrong direction. And it's hard to describe that for each individual person,
but that's what it feels like for me. And so, I've learned to really trust myself and trust
my body and trust how I feel about things. And oftentimes it could look like this big,
shiny thing to everybody else, but for me it's a no. So you have to really tune into that feeling
for you and what is a no and what is a yes. I would also say that for me, I pretty much
every day will say to myself, "It's coming." So whatever it is that I'm trying to work towards and
I've set a vision for, it may not happen today, it may not happen tomorrow, it may not happen
10 years from now, but I will have post-its on my wall or a little vision boards around my house
that remind me of what I'm going towards. And when I keep myself in check of that, I know the next
breakthrough is inevitable and my next success is inevitable. Even if I don't know how I'm going to
get there, I know if I keep moving towards it, it will happen. And truthfully, that's a muscle.
So a big thing for me is understanding that this felt a lot more difficult at the beginning.
And oftentimes, when I am about to reach a new level or hit a new breakthrough, whether it's
with my channel, with my relationships, with my business, there is some tension.
There is some friction. It can feel sticky. It can feel hard. It can feel like I don't know what I'm
doing, but that's why I talk about testing. And not everything has to be perfect, but I
know if I keep just doing the things and trying different things, I'm going to find my groove.
So it's a muscle to know that you can always get back up. You can always pivot.
You can always find a way. And if you just believe wholeheartedly for yourself,
no one else's opinion matters. And what other people think of what you're doing,
they're judging you because they're not doing it themselves, or they're jealous.
You have to believe it for yourself and remind yourself every freaking day that your next
breakthrough is on its way to you. Say that to yourself in the morning. It's so important.
So I think really understanding and getting aligned with your own vision and your own
goals. And I really do believe that distraction and shiny object syndrome and all of those things,
they come from a lack of vision. They come from a lack of knowing what you really want. And
when we're not centered in aligned, it's easy to just be swayed back and forth
by what everybody else is doing, and all the shiny things that come up online, and all the
new platforms you have to try. That's bullshit and you don't need all of that stuff to succeed. What
you need is a clear vision of what you want to do, and don't stop until you get there. There's always
going to be new levels. There's always going to be new devils. There's always going to be
new breakthroughs. But as long as you keep all of those things in mind, I think it's so important.
And one thing I talked about in this video, where I talked about what I do when I'm overwhelmed,
I remind myself of how far I've come and I create what I call a hero list. And that's something I
recommend you do. So basically it's a list of all the hard things you've done, and all of the things
that you've been able to achieve, big and small, throughout your life. And I have a list going back
like almost 10 years now. I look at it any time that I feel like I want to give up, or I can't
keep going. Hold on to those things and hold onto the belief that you are doing what you're meant
to do. And even if it's not right right now, or it doesn't work out perfectly, something better is on
the way to you, and you really have to trust that and believe in that in order to keep going. It's
not toxic positivity, it's grounded positivity and realism and a true wholehearted belief in
yourself and knowing it's okay to fail. One of my favorite quotes of all time is,
"A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is a stepping stone on the way to greatness,"
which is why I love and embrace failure because at least I'm moving forward. At least I'm not stuck.
At least I'm not sitting here judging what other people are doing, and I'm focused on my own stuff
and my next breakthrough. Are you with me? If you enjoyed this and if this answered your
question, Nadine, please let me know. But if you enjoyed this, let me know what your big takeaway
was in the comments, share this with somebody who needs to hear it. And I hope this was helpful for
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And again, I hope this was really helpful for you and I will see you in the next video. Bye.