the more we value things
outside of our control the less control
we have
either we want something or we want to
keep something
so we pursue the desire but fail over
and over again to the point where
it becomes predictable and even
depressing this is the part where i tell
you
to never give up and while you shouldn't
give up i believe i have something that
might help you out
it's called the power of letting things
go and no
they're not the same thing the benefits
are as follows
it's a quick easy way to relieve stress
it can make it easier for our desires to
be attracted to us
believe it or not overall it can improve
the quality of our life since we're not
overly
obsessed with this one thing anymore
however i do think the concept behind
letting things go can easily be
misinterpreted
but luckily for us our trusty friend
gumball and his wonderful show
will explain how to do this in a way
that will make it simple
the story i want to talk about today is
called
the possession this episode revolves
around this fridge that has been with
the watterson family for generations
nicole the mother in the family wants
her husband richard to get rid of it
because it's broken however he doesn't
want to get rid of it because he has so
many memories with it
over the years he's grown a sentimental
attachment
to it it's kind of like that nostalgic
feeling we get
from an old video game console or from
an old photo
letting go of priced possessions can
feel like throwing a
chunk of your childhood away so of
course the idea
of getting rid of the fridge is painful
for him
but he still tries his best to get rid
of it regardless
the first step to let something go is to
admit that it does hurt to do so
just look at richard he isn't afraid to
cry like a baby
and you shouldn't be either as darwin
puts it it's okay to be sad mr dad
it's perfectly normal without acceptance
we'll always be in denial
and richard's man tears help him with
that so a couple
of scenes go by and conveniently for him
he has little to no luck finding someone
who wants the fridge
so he decides the best thing to do would
be to just
keep it wink wink but we all know
the real reason being that he simply
doesn't want to let it go
his children beg him to just get rid of
it already
but he immediately rejects that idea
after that the fridge goes absolutely
berserk
sucking up richard in the process we
then find out that the fridge was never
meant to be
used as a fridge in the first place
according to the person who sold it
using it as a lifelong emotional crutch
is what made it go insane after finding
out the horrible news
nicole and richard's mother go inside
the fridge
to save richard they find him half
frozen
and clearly controlled by his memories
the more attached he becomes to the
fridge
the more he freezes up i believe there
is an analogy here
with the ice portraying someone who was
stuck or
addicted to something with no escape
ultimately becoming
disconnected from life that's what
happens
when we put someone or something on a
pedestal
and over exaggerate its importance life
freezes and doesn't go anywhere in order
to melt the ice we have to let it go
in this case nicole attempts to help
richard reconsider his decision
to keep the fridge forever but he has
his reasons
but if it goes all my memories will go
too what stops the average person from
letting go
is the idea that all the efforts and
memories will be wasted
this is a limiting belief one that we
think
is true but doesn't have to be although
open-mindedness becomes a real factor
here
because without it our door will never
be open to new possibilities
but those with optimism and
open-mindedness
have a higher chance of attracting
future success
in ways that they could never imagine
it's just an
object you'll still remember all those
things without it
you'll always have your memories you
don't need to hang on to possessions
life is like a series of waves while
riding a wave
you enjoy it as much as you can but
eventually that wave will pass
but the good news is there will always
be more waves
new waves to ride sure we could take
pictures but we'll always have the
memories
and lessons regardless this episode
tells the audience that
it's important to remember the
difference between a need
and a want richard doesn't need the
fridge
because it is not mandatory for his
survival
after he lets it go he immediately feels
better afterwards
that feeling can be surprising but
that's what happens when we finally
choose to move on
from a particular object or subject
that's why whenever you read or listen
to minimalists
they often mention how much better they
feel now that they have
less things to worry about less
responsibilities
as a consolation prize by the end of the
episode
he is rewarded with a new refrigerator
that is less dangerous
life can do that sometimes there's a
phrase that
goes as one door closes another one
opens although staying true to this
mindset
requires a profound level of trust and
faith in the way the universe will guide
us
to our destination again letting go
should not be confused with giving up
think about it like
loosening one's grip while riding a
horse
action is still required on our part
it's just about not focusing on it so
much anymore
not trying so hard and instead just
going with the flow
and living life it's okay to have
desires
but it's important to balance our hard
work
with letting go it's important to have
trust that the universe will handle the
things we cannot control
with that mindset we will be rewarded
thanks for watching
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