Hey there, coach!
Did you start coaching because
you really wanted to serve others,
and then you got tangled up in all the different
coaching models that are available out there?
Don’t worry, you are not alone.
We have all been there.
Hi, this is Ajit Nawalkha
and today we are talking about the simplest
coaching model there is and how that is all you need.
Coaching models are structures or frameworks
that we use to serve our clients.
These are also guidelines that we use
when we are just starting our coaching business
or we're developing our own methodology,
our own framework.
However, they can also be the biggest roadblock
when serving a client.
We tend to overthink and overanalyse these structures
instead of letting the session flow.
Which is why I want to share with you
how to deliver a transformational coaching session
using the simplest coaching model there is.
We’re calling it the simplest coaching model
because it goes back to basics,
before we got all tangled up into
acronyms, structures, and frameworks.
Being an extraordinary coach is a lot about
who you are,
not about what you know.
Which is why, before we get started,
let me introduce my coach,
Yoda.
[You must unlearn what you have learned.]
So let's get started with the simplest coaching model.
The first part of the model is show up.
The second part of the model
is respond to what shows up.
Ok, seriously.
It’s not only the simplest coaching model
because it's obvious.
You don’t need to memorize it,
you just simply have to make it a part
of how you coach.
Let me show you how.
The first part is showing up.
And by that I don’t mean physically
showing up at your client's house.
[Here’s Johnny!]
Hopefully not as creepy.
By showing up I mean being mentally present for it.
The most fundamental and powerful thing
you can do for your client
is present moment awareness.
This happens when you let go of all the different ideas,
all the different thoughts
that might be running in your mind,
when you bring yourself fully present
to the coaching session.
No judgments, no preconceived notions.
Being in the present moment does 2 incredible things.
Firstly, it allows us to creates a
deep connection with our client.
It allows us to be able to build
a really good rapport with our clients.
Having that connection, having that rapport
is crucial to creating a
transformational coaching session.
Another outcome you get by being present
is it opens doors to ideas, insights,
as if they appear out of nowhere.
When you consciously set aside your thoughts
and listen to what your clients are saying with
love and commitment,
you will not need the step-by-step process.
You will be able to create a transformative result
and a true impact just by listening
and being present to that conversation.
Here is something that will happen.
Your mind will wander off.
It could be because your client is going in circles
or something personal that might be happening
in your own life.
Our mind wanders.
It’s only human.
Don’t get all Shia LaBeouf on yourself...
[Do it!
[Just do it!]
[Oh yeah, no...]
[You know what? No...]
When your mind wanders and you recognize it,
come back from that wonderland
and get present with your client.
Your mind may have drifted away,
but you have the capability of bringing it right back
into the present moment.
Get focused again in the conversation.
Get present with your client.
And if you've lost track and
you can't remember where the conversation is,
go back to the bag of questions that you have
and ask open-ended questions
that will bring you back to the conversation.
Now as you show up fully with your presence,
you'll lean into the second part easily.
Respond to what shows up.
As coaches, we can't predict what is
going to happen in a coaching session.
What we can do is we can
bring our understanding of how human beings work
and then utilise that to respond to what shows up.
What’s imperative is timing.
Helping our clients focus on the right items
when the time is right.
[It's showtime everybody! Showtime!]
A skill you want to consider honing
is understanding of human behavior.
On understanding how human beings work.
What are the values, what is the language pattern,
what are their personality types.
Understanding your clients in a deeper way
allows you to respond to what shows up
more powerfully and more easily.
Another great tool to be able
to respond to what shows up
is your ability to ask powerful, meaningful questions.
Questions that challenge your clients
and bring insights they might not have seen before.
Asking the right questions at the right time
can trigger transformation in your clients’ lives
like never before.
As your client is experiencing this transformation,
you show up for what's showing up.
And then you show up again
to what's showing up again.
You see, this is how this becomes
an ongoing model of transformation.
You don't have to memorize a structure,
you don't have to know a particular formula
to be able to get to a result for your clients.
You just show up
and you respond to what's showing up.
Here is the catch.
When you start with this model,
there will be resistance.
You will feel this is too easy
it's not going to work or
I'm not qualified to do this or
what if I don't know how to respond?
It's okay.
It happens to all of us.
It was the same for me
when I first started with this model.
It was only until when I dove deep into
one of my favorite coaches in the world,
Michael Neill's work,
when I realized how much do we discount
ourselves as coaches in our ability to show up
and respond to what shows up.
If you're curious to see Michael in action,
there is a training we've put together with Michael.
A free masterclass that you can attend here at Evercoach.
This training is a powerful, impactful session
that will fundamentally change
how you coach your clients.
So, I invite you to give it a try.
Forget about the structures and frameworks,
how about trying some presence with your clients?
How about showing up
and responding to what shows up?
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and have a phenomenal day.