The highly developed INFJ heyoka comes with a host of traits and challenges
that some people couldn’t fathom. With a deep connection to the world around them
and a tendency to do things quite opposite from others, the modern day INFJ heyoka empath
doesn't always communicate to spare feelings, but rather to show the honest truth..
Welcome or welcome back PSYCH-O! So, why is it exactly that the INFJ Heyoka
can seem a little off-putting to some people? And is it something that should even be considered?
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Alright, let’s get right into it starting with.. Number 1: They’re noticeably blunt
Anyone with the INFJ personality type who also identifies with being a modern-day heyoka empath
probably has trouble relating to the INFJ’s stereotypical feeling-sparing communicative style.
While it’s fair to say that every INFJ has a certain level of bluntness, the heyoka INFJ
unapologetically tells it like it is. They don’t mind making people feel uncomfortable
through their mirrored actions and words if it means that someone may be able to use honest
feedback to better themselves. However, heyoka honesty isn’t for the faint of heart. In fact,
this seemingly ruthless communicative style acts to shake people from their emotional hold-ups that
slow them down as individuals, which most INFJs can easily detect from people. When this bluntness
is accepted with open-mindedness and not shut down by the defensive ego, it can change someone's
perspective instantly. Yet, if someone isn’t ready to face their truth, they can become deeply
offended by this empath’s good-willed honesty. Number 2: They’re focused on the larger picture
When you’re wired to innately focus on the bigger picture, the smaller details become slightly less
significant. Silly everyday matters that caught-up humans can become so consumed in barely phase
the INFJ heyoka, because they can see that every hardship has a blessing or lesson that unravels.
Sure, this deeper understanding may save them from a lot of temporary inner turmoil, but when
it comes to communicating with others, this INFJ heyoka trait can seem like nothing but dismissive
or even arrogant behavior. When this mirroring empath pokes fun at people’s minor inconveniences
like being stuck in traffic or spilling coffee on a new blouse for example, all they’re trying
to do is enlighten others to laugh it off. Yet, in the heat of the moment, snarky remarks and
even humorous words of encouragement can be the last thing to truly set someone off - ironically,
leaving them to wallow in the frustration that they caused themselves in the first place.
Number 3: They can’t help but to treat others how they want to be treated
One of the most amazing and distinctive characteristics of the heyoka empath
is their unique way of presenting to others how they choose to present themselves in the world.
With introverted intuition and innate empathy as the forefront of their perspective,
the INFJ heyoka has a keen eye for the true behaviors of people
and ultimately uses that to subconsciously mirror it back to them. It’s like they’re walking karma,
giving people a taste of their own medicine right before their eyes. And so, people who choose to
only put good out into the world are more likely to perceive the INFJ heyoka as a kind-hearted,
helpful spirit that we all know and love the INFJ for being. Someone who chooses to put out
negativity, selfishness and control, however, may have a different view of this type of INFJ empath.
Number 4: They can see right through covered trauma
Besides their use of jarring words and frank honesty, the heyoka INFJ empath sees more to
an individual than most people do. What makes them tick is finding out what makes others tick,
and why some people don’t tick at all. And so, they spend a great deal of time analyzing and
observing people from afar; a classic INFJ tendency. Intuitively, INFJ heyokas who have
taken the time to develop these talents are able to see past the smiles and auto-pilot responses of
people, with a look into their deep-seated wounds and unhealed traumas they’ve experienced in life.
Sometimes these unacknowledged wounds are so obvious to this infj empath that they can’t help
to get nosey. They may ask some thought provoking questions, or even resort to requesting personal
information that is ultimately none of their business. To some people, this risky bravery and
interest can be quite flattering, allowing for some much-needed insight to be brought
to their attention. And to other people.. well.. It’s fair to say it doesn’t go over
as well as the INFJ intended. Not only does this challenge people’s vulnerability, but it can be
extremely off-putting to know that your traumas are so noticeable from the outside looking in.
Number 5: They’re persistent
A lot of people claim that if they only had persistent encouragement towards their goals,
that they would probably have better chances at achieving them. Just like how a fitness coach can
help you lose weight, or how persistently showing up for classes can earn you a university degree.
But what about having a persistent voice in your life that wants you to become the best version of
you. Someone that, despite your insecurities, sees the potential of who you truly are.
Well, it’s not as nice as it may sound. In fact, although most of us want to achieve
the highest form of ourselves, being challenged on your habits, behaviors and thinking patterns
can be a true soul-shaking experience. And that is exactly how it can feel when you’ve caught
the attention of an INFJ heyoka. While it may be difficult, offensive and uncomfortable to endure,
if an INFJ heyoka is being persistent with their lessons, it’s actually their way of saying
they see so much potential they can’t stand to let you continue on their path of mediocrity.
Number 6: They have little sympathy for the victim mentality
Every INFJ heyoka empath goes through several awakening processes as they advance through
their adolescence and adulthood that allow them to see through the constructs of reality.
They understand the ripple effects of our thoughts, words and actions, and how it ultimately
all comes back into their experience. And so, while they may serve their empathetic nature
well by being able to effectively absorb and reflect the feelings of others, it’s not to say
that they always have sympathy for stupidity or intentional self destruction. While INFJs
are known for giving undeserving sympathy and the benefit of the doubt, the Heyoka INFJ can clearly
see the difference between someone who is trying despite their hardships and someone who sees
themselves as a victim to life’s circumstances. This makes their opinions and observations of
behavior quite different to other empaths. Number 7: They need their space
Surprise, surprise.. An INFJ who needs their space, who would’ve thought. The INFJ heyoka
empath is no different when it comes to the amount of R & R that’s required to maintain optimal
sanity. And it’s no less difficult explaining this need to other people for this blunt type either.
In fact, you don’t really have to be considered a Heyoka INFJ per se to know how offensive this
need for solitude can be for people who really put the effort into spending time with you.
Whether it’s romantic or platonic, every Heyoka INFJ can probably think of a time that they had
to choose disappointing someone else in order to maintain mental equilibrium. Since feeling so much
emotion coming from their outer environment can be so taxing, heyoka INFJs often prefer solitude,
even though their gifts are best used in social situations. Yet, it’s never easy to communicate,
and often requires a few misunderstandings before people stop taking it personally.
Number 8: They won’t hesitate to door slam
INFJ heyokas have the power to turn people’s world upside down, more particularly in their eyes,
right side up. Like other INFJ empaths, the intuitive heyoka joker will spend any amount
of time it takes spoon-feeding their wisdom to someone that they deem truly deserves it.
They’ll take every approach and use every lasting bit of social energy they have
if they know their powers are being used for good. Take advantage of the INFJ heyoka,
however, and you’ll see a door-slam like you’ve never seen one before. Since the INFJ heyoka
literally reflect people’s energies back to them as we mentioned before, they’re able to use the
dark and narcissistic ways of manipulators to not only cut off all contact with little notice,
but also teach them a long overdue lesson along the way. They’ll use the same behaviors
and manipulation tactics in a more obvious and humorous way in order to show the other person how
obvious and ridiculous their behavior really is. Well psych-os, that's it for today.. So,
have you ever offended someone as an INFJ heyoka empath and what do you do to seem less offensive?
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