hey guys welcome back to my channel I'm Hilary your certified Enneagram coach I'm a type 9 wing
a on the Enneagram and today I am going to be teaching you guys about the wings of a type 2
the helper okay so let's dive into the wings of a type 2 the helper I'm so excited because
we're almost done I started at the type 9 they usually have to you know wait all the way till
the end to find out their information you know you usually start at the one but instead I started at
nine I've been going backwards and today it is the type twos turn so let's do this alright so
before we go into the wings of the type 2 let's go into what our wings in general right you might
be going wait I know what the angiogram is I know what I think my type is that what is a wing can I
be a type two with a seven wing the general answer is no you cannot if your dominant type is a type
two so it's the one where your core fears core desires core weaknesses and core longing they
all align with who you are inside it's that one as you were going through the top three types
that might have come up when you took a test that goes oh ah yeah that would totally is Who I am and
so that's what we like to call a dominant type because you can feel like all nine types if you
take a certain test I'll tell you a percentage of all nine types but what it comes down to is
that core of the dominant type and so once you've realized or you know done enough research or you
know hired an immigrant coach or whatever you've done you know your core type of course today we're
going to use the two throughout the whole thing because that's what this teaching is about then
you'll figure out your wing if you have a wing and what the wings are are the numbers on either side
of your dominant type and so that's very important so for a two that would be a two wing one or two
wing three those are the only wings a type two can have but like I said there's other reasons
why you might feel like other types at times but that's not what this video is about today just
the wings and the wings of the type to their the salt and pepper so you might go well I don't feel
like you know I'm a - but I don't relate to the two wing one but I really relate to the two wing
three well that just means you know that it's a flavoring to your type it's the behaviors you
can use for your dominant type and unlike like I said it's just like a salt and pepper it doesn't
necessarily mean that you're like well I really feel like you know a lot of one side is totally
mean so that's probably my number no no you're still - you just use either the one or the three
to kind of enhance your type okay so that's just a little bit in general on what is let's dive into
what is it type - before we get into the wings of the type to just so if you've you know stumbled
upon this video or you wanted to watch this video on a techtube you have a little bit of a base to
build off of to make sure that you are a - and or if you're just trying to learn about it - you
know it gives you a little bit more education on you know who the two is okay so the type two
at their best when they're just you know living at their healthiest their open-hearted charming
and supportive and just generally interested in other people they're super loving they're helpful
they're considerate and if they are living - the average - unhealthy side of a - well then
they start to seek validation of their worth by kind of like obeying that super ego that we all
have this just happens to be telling them that they need to sacrifice themselves in order to
get love and you know and that's not true but again that's just that you know once we start
going to the average unhealthy side that's what can happen okay so now I want to go over the
course of the two just in case you're sitting there going am i - am I not a - I just want
to cover some of the course of the types of that you would know and we'll start with the core fear
which is being unloved or unwanted for purely being themselves and so that's the core fear of
the - and then the core desire is being wanted in love for purely being themselves and you can
see where you know those two can go hand-in-hand for the type two and the core weakness for two
is pride and what that means is not being able to take care of themselves almost like feeling
like they just have to take care of everybody else and ignore their own needs and so they
you know they can tend to struggle with that and then the core longing is you are wanted in love
so those four cores right Cortazar core fear or weakness core logging just to give you just a
taste of the type 2 of the helper and who they are okay so now it's time to get into the wings of the
type 2 the purpose of this video right so the type 2 what's the first one type 2 wing 1 which they
are called the serpent and what that is is that type 1 really brings a more serious side to the 2
versus the two wing 3 they're more of a caretakers you'll often find the type 2 with the one wing and
like a ministry a teaching role public service some some kind of healing practice and they were
the ones that they have more control of their emotions and they will quietly serve behind the
scenes all right so these two types they really counterbalance each other and the reason why is
the personalities of the two with the and the one are in conflict with each other and what
that means is is twos are more melodramatic emotional and relational and the ones are more
rational self controlled impersonal and so you can see where those two types could you know conflict
are being conflict with each other but again it brings balance to to the two with the one wing
okay so moving on to the two with the one wing one struggling what does that look like well it
can become extremely self-critical and neglectful of their health while denying their personal needs
they also can become like more impatient more controlling and more demanding that everybody
follow their moral advice so let's move on to the inspiring quality of the tube with the one wing so
then spending quality is that they can do a great deal of good for others and they really want to
serve others with the best possible service super important to them another inspiring quality would
be they love to give smiles and encouragement and they really want to make a difference and
touch the heart of others and so those are just some inspiring qualities of that type to with
the one wing okay so let's move on to the type two with the three wing called the host or the hostess
people this subtype they are way more outgoing they seek love through the creation of personal
connection and making there's feel good they are sociable talkative adaptable charming you know you
could definitely tell that that too would get that from that that three wing and really that you the
two can be very charming and so when you put that to with the three you know that's where like it
just like turns onto an extra level of charm and twos and threes they both can relate to people
really easily and so the traits for these types tend to reinforce each other and they can be very
adaptable in stressful situations and so that to with the three wing alright so what happens
for with a two with a three wing when they're struggling what does that look like well they
tend to start to become very focused on winning approval from others affirmation and praise you
know using flattery when they're struggling that tends to be what you know you'll see and they will
have to work really hard not to go on autopilot when struggling that is something that to watch
for and and just you know that autopilot and not wanting to be present any longer and just
kind of doing what needs to be done and not paying attention to themselves and their feelings and you
know stuff like that and then also when struggling they could be prone to outbursts of anger and so
yeah just all of that are things to be watching for when struggling as a two wing three okay so
what are the inspiring qualities of the two with the three wing well they have the gift of making
people feel better they just really have the warmth and social graces that make other people
feel comfortable what you're you know such an equality to have such an inspiring quality to
have and this is what you know these qualities make them great host and hostess and also great
motivators that's another thing they could be amazing motivators so alright so those within
sprang colleagues about to week three okay so we're through the wings I would like to
end with um the life lesson for type two which is to develop the humility that comes with allowing
yourself to be loved without being needed and have needs of your own if you need to like scroll you
know do the little cursor thing go back hear me say it again it's super important for a type two
to hear that that is just one of the little life lesson for a time - all right well that's I have
for you guys today it was just the wings video for the tech tube the helper I hope you enjoyed
it don't forget to subscribe and like the video leave me a comment down below if you know what is
your week what is your type I love hearing from you guys and then also I will put all the other
wings videos in the description box below if you want to watch those and so yeah that's all I got
guys so until next time bye everyone ready so everyone is not ready let's do this I'll play
the hair does it look crazy it probably does but what do you do hey guys I'm Hillary your
Enneagram and coaching mm ah no okay so people this type a little blue okay last time take five