- So what are some really sexy
(gentle music) phrases or texts
that you can send your man
that will captivate his attention?
Well, my team and I got hard at work
and today, we've got nine saucy phrases
that will captivate his attention.
Check it out.
Hey there, my name's Matt Boggs and I'm the founder
of the Love and Relationships Division
here at the Brave Thinking Institute,
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And today we are talking about sexy phrases
that you can send your man to captivate his attention,
raise the temperature and the attraction,
the sexy factor in that relationship.
And so I'll give you a disclaimer, a qualifier.
This should only be used with a man
that you're sleeping with,
that your man that you're in a relationship with,
that the two of you feel comfortable
with phrases that definitely mean,
"I want to get down and dirty with you".
And here's the other caveat.
Many of the couples that I interviewed
who had marriages over 50 years,
we interviewed America's greatest marriages
for my first book, they would all say
how important sex is to the relationship,
even into their 70s, 80s, and 90s.
And sometimes my buddy and I, we're in our 20s
listening to this we're like,
"Ooh, I don't know if I want to hear this right now".
But it was so healthy for me to hear that,
that look, sex doesn't have to die
after a certain point of time.
And here's what's great.
They said you don't have to feel sexy
to ignite the sexual energy in the relationship.
That often when you act sexy,
send that sexy text in advance,
it can spark the sexual energy and that in and of itself
can begin to turn you on, rev you up,
and get both of you ready
for some beautiful connection time.
So these nine phrases, I encourage you pick the ones
that resonate with you.
Pick the ones that you like.
Edit them possibly to make them more aligned with you.
But use them even in moments when you don't feel super sexy
but you know you and your man,
maybe you haven't connected in a while sexually.
Maybe the two of you haven't gotten it on in a moment
and you know that that's gonna help
bond the two of you together.
Use these sexy phrases to spice up that interaction.
Get his mind in the right place.
Turn yourself on so the two of you can connect.
So here is number one.
Number one is, "Can't get you off of my mind.
Can't wait to get you alone".
What I love about this is it's not graphic at all,
but it's direct, it's to the point,
and it builds that sexual tension.
Like he knows like, "Oh man, like she's feeling it."
Like, she's ready, she wants to get alone with me.
I know what this is about".
And it starts to rev him up in that moment as well.
Great text to send.
Here's number two.
Number two is, "Today's been really tense for me.
Perhaps you can relax my body later, wink wink".
Ooh, love this, love this for a couple reasons.
Number one is it obviously just suggests
the two of you hooking up.
But the second thing is men love to help you feel better,
to know that they've had a positive impact
or a positive effect on you.
So this is you asking for him to serve you in this way,
saying, "Ah, today's been tough, I'm super tense.
Maybe you can help me by doing something we both enjoy.
Relax a little bit more".
Now number three I like because it's a little bit playful.
Check this out, here's what number three says.
"I thought I'd show you a little sneak peek
before the main event."
And then you send him a picture of just part of your outfit.
So it might be your shoes,
it might be the slit on your dress, it might be a shoulder.
But send him just a piece of your outfit
so that gets him anticipating,
"Ooh, I can't wait to see her when we go on our date".
Love it.
Now I love number four here
because number four does two things.
Number four is going to affirm that you find him sexy
but it's also gonna reinforce behavior
you would love more of from him.
And this is where you text him this.
"I find it really sexy when a man"
and then insert something that he's just did for you.
Like, if he took you on a beautiful adventurous date,
you say, "I find it really sexy
when a man plans adventurous dates like that".
If he replies like, "Thanks, you're sexy too",
you can reply back with,
"I also find it really sexy when a man stops by unannounced
and does my laundry for me".
Ha ha, get a laugh.
So either way, whether you wanna do
the one two joke with it, but the first one,
"I find it really sexy when a man"
and then insert something he just did for you, great.
Number five is very simple, but it's to the point
and it says, "Has anyone told you how hot you are?"
The reason that this text and other texts like it
is just so good is because it feels good
to know that you're desired.
It feels good to know that you're wanted.
You may think, "Well, he knows that I find him sexy.
He knows that I want him".
If he hasn't heard it from you in a while,
if you haven't said it, if you haven't spoken it out loud,
let him hear it even through a text.
Very, very valuable.
Number six is brilliant.
I call this the UPP, this is the ultimate praise phrase
and it goes like this.
"You do a great job of being my man,
thought you should know."
The reason this is so great is because every man's
greatest fear is inadequacy, not measuring up.
Every man's greatest desire is to be
the man that you desire.
So letting him know that you do a great job
of being my man just will fill him
with this sense of fulfillment and job well done
and he will absolutely love it.
Now number seven, if you're a bit more playful
and a bit more goofy, this one could really work for you
'cause this is more of a funny goofy one
where you say, "Confession, I have a super crush on someone
and their name rhymes with"
and then you replace the first letter of his name
with some other letter and say his his name out loud.
So if his name is Mark, you say,
"I have a super crush on someone
and their name rhymes with Lark". (laughing)
Or my name's Matt.
"I have a super crush on someone
and their name rhymes with Pat", right?
He'd be like, okay, just funny, playful, goofy.
Great way to let him know
that you're thinking about him and that you like him,
you've got a crush on him.
Number eight is also an appreciation text,
lets him know he's doing a great job being your man,
but it's phrased in just a different way where you say,
"I really appreciate you for"
and then insert the nice thing that he did for you.
"I really appreciate you
for the way you rocked my world last night."
You want to make it more saucy, connect it to sex.
You want to make it more G-rated,
just connect it to something that he did for you.
But, "I really appreciate the way that you"
and then, you know, kissed my neck last night
or turned me on or took me to the mountain top
or whatever it is, that really adds the saucy flavor
and lets him know that he's doing a great job
being your man in the bedroom.
Now number nine I love because it is right to the point,
it is obvious and he's gonna love it, too.
And it's, "I want to get naked with you right now".
This is this, "Hey honey, I'll be home in 15 minutes.
Like, let me cancel a meeting and I'm gonna see you soon".
Like, this is a great one to use for a midday rendezvous
if you actually know that he has time
and he could like take a long lunch break and the two of you
could meet up or hook up, or even if the two of you
are like on vacation somewhere and you're like,
"I want to get naked with you right now".
Boom, you go blast back up to the hotel room.
Great way to connect with one another.
And I'm gonna give you a bonus one because this one came up
in our conversation with my team earlier
and it made me laugh and I just have to share it with you.
Now, you could give a code name to sex.
Like, you could say sex equals breadsticks
because this came in another video that we had
where we talked about Olive Garden breadsticks
and how they were just like, oh man,
like you always want Olive Garden breadsticks.
Like, they're never bad, right?
It's kinda like sex, it's sometimes not great,
but it's never really that bad, right?
It's always kind of good.
Olive Garden breadsticks.
So you could have a code word for sex
and then you just text him your code word where you're like,
"I really want some breadsticks right now". (laughing)
Super fun, so there you have it.
Nine saucy phrases that will definitely grab his attention.
My question for you is, if you've got the guts,
what is the sauciest thing you've ever texted a man?
Post it in the comment section below.
This is gonna be an amazing conversation.
Would love to check that out.
Thank you so much for watching this video.
I appreciate you, I'll see you soon.