INFJs can sometimes be socially anxious, causing them to end up in isolation.
Naturally, they struggle with conversation and small talk, and so it becomes difficult
for them to interact with others.
This is especially tricky when it comes to big social events with people they don’t know,
or those who they only have been acquainted with.
Dealing with meeting people for the first time can be very overwhelming.
They especially dread the small talk that comes with it.
But social engagement is a necessary and healthy part of human life.
It is difficult to escape but it doesn’t always have to be unbearable.
So here is our list of 10 tips to survive social events as an INFJ introvert.
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Do some research
Google is a life-saving tool for an introvert so why not use it.
A large cause of anxiety over social events for an INFJ is not knowing what to expect.
When they don’t know what will happen next, they can’t control it.
INFJ’s tend to overthink every hour of their experiences.
So knowing what to expect gives them some degree of control and protection that can
make this difficult part of life more bearable.
Doing research about the venue or the event can really reduce overthinking,
especially if it’s their first time attending such an event.
To avoid nervousness over the unknown an INFJ can use google maps
to find the event location for example.
It might sound a bit over the top but for an INFJ failing to prepare is preparing to fail.
Knowing the outline of the building, the location of bathrooms and exits can do wonders for
keeping their minds at ease.
They can also do some research about the theme of the event so they know what to wear specifically.
It is something that makes them feel comfortable and confident.
Have something to hold
Usually, when introverts are nervous, they tend to fidget with what they are holding.
This is a way for them to seem less awkward when they already are.
INFJs as deep introverts are no exception.
Fidgeting may stimulate and encourage some parts of the brain to focus.
Repetitive motions can be used to relieve stress as a coping mechanism.
While it may have a different effect on people, it is known that fidgeting can provide relief
in high-pressure situations such as big social events.
It can help keep the overwhelming feeling of having to socialize at bay.
A handbag can be a great thing to bring to a social event for INFJ woman.
It can keep their hands occupied while looking natural.
As for men, a glass of a drink provided at the event could be helpful
and it doesn’t necessarily have to be alcoholic.
These subtle things aren’t noticeable by their peers but it puts their mind
and awkwardness at peace.
The little things can go a long way for an INFJ.
Think about how to approach people
For an INFJ, it can be a struggle to keep up conversations, let alone start one.
It is especially difficult with people they don’t know.
But these occasions aren’t called “social events” for nothing.
If they end up at a party where they don't know anyone
- congratulations to them on showing up btw,
the first challenge will be to find someone with whom they can converse.
In the crowd, they can look for a friendly face.
Maybe there's someone else who appears to be alone as well.
Since INFJs are intuitive, they know who to approach.
It can be a challenge but it’s a good thing for them to push their limits sometimes.
There could be other INFJs there who are going through the same thing.
It can be a comfort to find like-minded introverted people in a place meant for extroverts.
They don’t have to talk to each other, just a familiar presence is enough.
Retreat when necessary
There's no shame in escaping the bustle of action.
INFJs may feel like running away and escaping when things get too overwhelming.
They may feel the urge to scream when they can't handle it anymore.
Don’t be ashamed of feeling this way because it isn’t a bad thing.
The constant social talks aren’t for everyone and suppressing the need to get away can only
cause stress in the long run.
Instead, they can politely excuse themselves, detach from the party and find a quiet place
like a backyard, a balcony or even a bathroom to recharge their social battery.
Deep breathing should be practiced ahead of time
and used when they are feeling out of control.
They can also bring someone with them who is aware of their anxiousness and who can
assist them if necessary when they don’t want to be totally alone.
It is not rude to want some space.
They need it and they owe it to themselves.
When their social battery is recharged, they’ll go back to the party on their own terms.
Choose when to leave
INFJs have self-discipline and can stay as long as they can but overstaying can become
a problem and cause panic within themselves.
Before they go to a social event, they can set a time limit for themselves and stick to it.
A simple “I believe I'm done for the night.
It was a great party and I really enjoyed it.
Thank you everybody.”
can be useful.
After that, they can depart.
People are normally considerate about it when told politely.
Any problems they might have with this operation are all in their brains so don’t overthink it.
Knowing how much time they'll be spending ahead of time should help them be in control
and feel at ease.
If they enjoy themselves and want to remain longer, that's great.
If, on the other hand, they don't think they'll be able to stay any longer, it's fine to leave early.
They should be proud and give themselves a pat on the back for lasting as long as they did.
Parties can be stressful or exciting depending on how they are approached,
but you can’t hide in solitude forever.
INFJs just need to recognize and acknowledge what they lack
and what they need to do in order to get through one.
It all boils down to knowing what makes social circumstances acceptable and then valuing
themselves enough to seek out what they require.
Once the occasion is done they’re on their way home, they should make sure to give themselves
a symbolic pat on the back.
They did something that made them nervous, but they didn't let it stop them from doing it.
That's an accomplishment to be proud of.