in this video you will learn hidden things that men do when they're just not
that into you in other words you will never see these
behaviors in men who really like you and want a relationship with you so if
you're seeing one or more of these behaviors from your man it's time to be
concerned don't go anywhere because we're starting right now hi everyone I'm
Dr. Antonio Borrello and I'm a psychologist in a relationship coach.
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men do when they are not into you when a man wants you he usually makes it known
beyond a shadow of a doubt you know he texts you he calls you he makes plans to
see you yeah when he really wants you it's usually very obvious but other
times you meet a man who is more hot and cold sometimes you know that he's
interested other times you worried that he could care less
it makes dating and starting new relationships so difficult and
frustrating I mean if he's just not into you
he may be stringing you along or using you as a place keeper
someone better comes along and if he's doing that he's certainly not going to
tell you instead his behaviors will often reveal much more about what he's
really feeling as they say actions speak louder than words so without further ado
here the hidden things that men do when they don't really like you number one
he's always so busy now no matter how busy a person is if you or your
relationship is important and a high priority they will find the time or make
the time for you if they don't make the time and then a relationship just might
not be a priority so don't take it personally or question whether you're
good enough it's just not a reflection of you period
avoid making excuses and fooling yourself into believing that you can
wait it out the more thought and energy you invest while waiting the stronger
your feelings will become so don't waste another moment thinking about their
situation or wondering when it might change move forward and find someone who
is on the same page as you are in the end you'll be happy that you did number
two he only makes plans that are convenient for
him in other words he doesn't go out of his way to see you a guy who likes you
and wants you will make efforts to show you how special you are to him and again
actions speak louder than words a man could tell you anything that he
wants but if he's not willing to put in the effort to go out of his way to show
you how special you are well then something is wrong now what do I mean by
going out of his way well he comes to your side of town to pick you up
he makes effort to plan a date in advance rather than call you last minute
to see if you want to hang out he remembers the details of your schedule
and makes himself available during times when you're free so yeah if he's not
making you a priority either he's just not that into you or he's playing games
or taking you for granted number three he never text first or he
doesn't consistently return your calls or texts okay this is probably the most
common one and notice I didn't say instantly I said consistently and
there's a difference here I mean people have work in school and other
obligations and can't always be immediately available but consistently
means that the person is excited about you and they're eager to stay in touch
and communicate with you I know when I like a woman I seem to check my phone
for text messages or missed calls more frequently just to be certain that I
hadn't missed any communication and because I'm excited to hear from her so
when I receive a text message I'm happy and excited and I want to keep the
communication going you should expect nothing less from your partner but when
someone doesn't ever initiate conversation or consistently return your
calls or texts you're left wondering if they've playing games or if they're just
not that interested number four he's a master of excuses when he does make
plans with you he often cancels them last minute with excuses he had to work
late or forgot about a thing he had already scheduled look life happens
things come up and sometimes we really have to cancel plans last minute but
when a person is serious about you they want to reschedule and they want to make
sure that you know that they are sorry they will also want to confirm a time to
reschedule number five he keeps you a secret on social media does the person
you're dating avoid posting photos of the two of you together is that person
otherwise active on social media I mean that person constantly updating
Instagram or Facebook and posting photos with friends and do you feel like you're
the only one who doesn't get any love on his social media accounts if yes have
you discussed this I mean new couples who are excited about a future together
usually want to share their happiness with friends and family if that's not
happening in your situation you should certainly ask why number six they don't
take you out in public this is another huge red flag if the man you're dating
always wants to stay in or meet at your place this doesn't just happen once it
happens over and over and when you ask about it they give you lame excuses for
why they can't go out with you like they don't have the money they're tired but
the real reasons they either don't want to put in the effort or they are keeping
your relationship a secret why well ask him number seven it's always about the
hookup he never wants to stay the night after being intimate and wakes you up if
you accidentally fall asleep at his place waking up next to you might mean
spending more time with you and he definitely doesn't want that does that
sound like a person you're dating if so perhaps it's time to kick him to the
curb number eight your intuition tells you
that something isn't right if deep down you feel like something isn't right with
this person you're probably correct and you're noticing it for a reason it's a
culmination of so many little things that just don't sit well and when you
start to put the pieces together your suspicions will without a doubt be
correct now if you don't listen to anything else I say listen to this
intuition is your best friend so don't ignore your best friend's advice but I
know I know I've been there to hearing that little voice in my head telling me
that something just isn't right but choosing to ignore it in favor of what I
wanted it's the D word it's denial our brains use self-justification and
self-deception to manipulate our thoughts and behaviors to explain to
defend and to protect us from recognizing unacceptable truths and when
we blind ourselves to our true motivations and feelings we unwittingly
sabotage our own efforts for happiness and satisfying relationships okay so if
the writing is on the wall you're seeing signs that are troublesome and your word
that he might not be into you as much as you're into him now what well what I see
so many women do they dismiss the signs they dismiss what
their gut instincts are telling them and they dismiss what the guy just told them
instead they believe it's just a matter of time until the guy falls for them and
wants to be committed it's like they want him even more when he says he
doesn't want a relationship but why why do people refuse to accept the fact that
someone doesn't want a relationship with them or that someone isn't that into
them well it's because people deeply personalize romantic rejection to the
point of attaching their value and self-worth to whether or not a person is
interested in wants them and when you do that you give away your power and rely
on the validation of a man to tell you that you're good enough so if they're
not interested you start to question yourself and you ask what's wrong with
me think about it this way this is a person
who hasn't known you very long it's just a person that you went on a few dates
with they don't know you or your value and your value and Worth has nothing to
do with his perception of you either good or bad so take your power back and
trust the process if you two are meant to be together there's nothing that will
keep you apart but even if you're really into him and he isn't into you trust it
is meant to be for your well-being as well as for his it's not personal and it
says absolutely nothing about your values as a human being how lovable you
are or whether or not you will ever find mr. right giving your power away by
basing your Worth and someone else's opinion of you will always create
emotional suffering but when you shift into what you want instead of whether or
not someone wants you you gain so much freedom and you move forward with
confidence and don't say but I want him in the end do you want someone who
doesn't appreciate your value and want you more than anything else look new
relationships should be exciting and passionate and easy when you really like
someone you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship
is and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated so you
treat them with as much affection and consideration and attention as you can
and that's exactly how you should be treated in return don't settle for
anything less remember if you're busy waiting and wondering and worrying about
this relation you just might miss the opportunity to
meet the right one so here's a question for you
are you in a situation or dating a person that you really like but you
don't know where you stand have you discussed your relationship
goals or have you had a discussion but are on two different pages with regard
to your future if so why are you sticking it out leave a comment below
and I'll tell you what I think let's talk about situations and if you want to
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