- Hey, everyone, it's Hannah.
Welcome back to my channel.
Here we like to talk about sex and relationships
and there's been a video idea
on my video ideas list for so long
and then I kind of was like now
is the perfect time to make this video.
And that is, as you can see from the title,
long distance date ideas.
I've done few other videos of various date ideas
like free dates, dates that you can do at home,
although that video is probably more for
the couples who are self-isolating together,
and then also London date ideas.
Not applicable right now, stay inside.
So in this video, we're tackling long distance dates.
So you might already be in a long distance relationship
and so this will help you.
Or you are currently dating someone
and you're having to self-isolate
so you can't go on outdoor dates anymore
and you can't see each other in person
but you want to continue talking with each other,
and like having a good time,
and doing interesting things together.
Or in some cases, you might be single
and still using dating apps.
I'm gonna leave a link in the description
to my friend Frankie's article recently
about how people are using dating apps
differently during this time.
Because even though you can't then go
and meet up with the people that you are swiping right to
and having conversations with,
people are still using dating apps.
They're just using them in a different way
and I think that kind of stuff is really interesting.
I think when there's like no expectation
that you're going to meet up in person,
it's allowing for people to have much more in depth
or interesting conversations in the apps.
Who knows.
I'd be interested to know if you're single
and still using dating apps in isolation,
and if you feel like there's a different vibe
and people are using it differently.
I'd be interested to hear that.
But yes, this video is long distance date ideas.
That being said, a lot of these things
you can do with your friends and your family
who you are also not living with.
This is not specific
to romantic or sexual partners.
At least one of them is,
but the rest really are just fun activities
that you can do with someone
when you're not physically in the same space.
So let's dive in.
Number one, play online games.
Come on, there's a simple solution
to all of our problems, video games.
This one thing can be so many things.
There are so many different kinds of games out there.
So do you want to play
a competitive game against each other?
Do you want to be cooperative?
Do you want nice and easy, accessible games
that are just like fun mobile phone games
that you play with each other?
Or do you want like serious sit-down PC gaming?
Or are you a console?
The possibilities are endless in terms of the games
that you can play together.
Obviously, a lot of the games
that you can play online together
may not actually involve speaking to each other,
so I would highly recommend downloading Discord.
And if you're on a PC, then you can use that
to speak to each other and hear each other verbally
whilst you're playing a game together.
Or likewise, if you're like on your phone
or if you're playing on a console,
maybe having your phone on FaceTime or a video call
so that you are still communicating
whilst playing a game together.
I think that's the main important thing.
It's not just about the game.
It's about like interacting with the person
whilst you're playing the game.
Otherwise, you might as well just be playing
with a random person online
if you're not actually going to do an audio
or video call with your person.
Some games that Dan and I
have really enjoyed playing together
that you would be able to do remotely are Jackbox games.
So you can set it up on one person's computer
and then do like a Google Hangout or a Zoom call
and then they share their screen with you.
Portal 2 is a really great cooperative game for two people.
Just make sure that you are talking to each other
whilst you play that game
because communication is necessary to solve the puzzles.
You can't just be going about it by yourself.
And then similarly, similarly,
Divinity: Original Sin 2 is an amazing role play game.
Is that what it's called, RPG?
Does that stand for role play game?
I don't know.
Which is cooperative, and the world is amazing,
and you go exploring, and you definitely need
to be communicating together to play that together
because you're a team, teamwork.
Or, you know, you could play some competitive games
and try and murder each other in video game form, great.
Number two, I believe that I mentioned this one
in the date ideas from home video,
but I want to mention it again
because I've got a few twists on it as well.
So it's the book club idea.
Read a book together and then organise a time
to have a video call to discuss said book.
You could even take it one step further
and read the book to each other whilst on a call,
which could be cute.
But the twist to this
is that it doesn't necessarily have to be a book club.
The mindset that I want you to get into
is consuming the same things together and discussing them.
So it might be a book that you want to discuss
or it might be that you have read an article
or listened to a podcast episode that you're like,
"Oh my god, I want you to read this.
"Let me know what you think."
But rather than doing the "let me know what you think"
via text and they go, "Oh yeah, I thought X, Y, and zed,"
actually be like, "Hey, there's this article"
or "there's this podcast thing.
"Consume this, I wanna know your thoughts.
"Let's have a call at this time
"and we can chat about it."
So being really intentional with the calls that you have.
Obviously sometimes you're just gonna want to
call them just to see their face,
hear their voice, and be doing nothing on the call together.
But that can get boring after a while
and it might be a case that you struggle
to come up with things to talk about,
so it is about being really proactive
in being like, "Hey, let's discuss this thing together,"
in the same way that that would have happened
if you were in real life together
and in person together.
Number three is, of course, Netflix parties.
Netflix Party is a Chrome extension
that you can instal
which allows you to connect with other people
and then hit Play at the same time,
and then you have a little chat box
so you can talk away to each other
whilst your movies are playing simultaneously.
So you might wanna do that for movies, for TV.
Of course, you don't necessarily
have to use the Netflix Party app.
You might actually want to be on the phone to them
and have them in your ears
or like on Skype or whatever it is
whilst you're watching literally anything.
Any streaming service will do.
Disney Plus has just come out.
Once again, the possibilities are endless.
But if you are gonna watch something together,
I think it's a really good idea
to either have an audio or a video call,
or a chat box, like whatever it is,
just to make sure that you're not
just separately watching something.
It is a communal experience.
It does feel like a date.
Number four, this could have gone into online games
but I asked my patrons in the Common Room Discord
if they had any good ideas for long distance dates
and this came up, and I've actually played this before,
and it's a lot of fun, and it is WikiWars.
There are a few different ways that you can play this game.
So in order to play WikiWars,
you need to be on the phone together
at the same time, either video or just audio.
And the way the person in the Common Room
described how they play this game
is that you both start on the same Wikipedia page
and then you pick another Wikipedia page
and it's the first person just from using links
within the article to get from A to B.
Now there are different ways of judging this.
Is it the fastest in terms of how long it takes you in time
or is it the fastest in terms of how many clicks
it takes you to get from A to B?
So there are different judging criteria.
You can pick it yourself.
The way that I've played this before
is maybe a bit more controversial,
which is that the players
all at the same time hit Random Page.
So you're then taken to a random Wikipedia page
and it is the fastest or the least amount of clicks
to get to the wiki page for Adolf Hitler.
There's so much fun that you can have with Wikipedia.
I would recommend looking up all of the different games
that you can play with Wikipedia.
Number five, this is for people who are music lovers.
Maybe music is a really big part of your relationship.
If you haven't already, now is a really good time
to create a joint playlist.
You can create private playlists on Spotify.
I have no idea how Apple Music or Amazon Music works,
so I'm just gonna talk about Spotify.
You can create a private playlist
that you both have access to,
and you can both add songs to it
and you can listen to it at the same time
if you would like to be listening
to the same music together.
Another feature that Spotify has is called a Group Session
and this is intended to be used
when you're having an actual physical house party,
so there's one output speaker.
So you can't have two people listening
to it at the same time but there's just like one output
but multiple people have control
over what is coming out of the speaker.
This could be fun
just to control what your partner listens to.
If they're like, "Oh, I've got some work
"I need to be doing,"
or, "I'm gonna be doing some exercise,"
or, "I'm going to be doing some cooking.
"Will you control what I listen to?"
So maybe in this case you're not on the phone to each other,
you're not actually speaking verbally to each other
but you give the other person permission
to control the music you listen to.
And I really like this,
'cause they can then send you like subliminal messages
through the music and the lyrics that they pick,
and so that could be a really fun thing.
You can't do it to each other
at the same time though, I believe.
I don't think that is entirely possible.
But you could take it in turns
to basically control what the other person listens to
when they're just chilling out.
Send them secret messages and codes. (laughs)
Number six, so this is the one
that is reserved for romantic and sexual partners.
And that is, yeah you guessed it, cybersex.
Do people still say cybersex?
I don't even know.
Sexting, Skype sex, phone sex,
whatever you want to do digitally and getting horny.
Obviously with this one, there is the caveat
of being aware of safety and trust.
And there are laws in the UK about sexting and minors,
and minors counts as under 18.
I'll leave some links in the description
to some comphrensive information about sexting and the law
so you can make the best informed decision.
No judgement here on like what you wanna do,
but obviously there are risks attached to it.
But it can be a really amazing way
to still feel sexually connected to your partner,
to get hot and horny together
whilst being physically apart.
It's also a really great way
to get to know each other sexually,
to get to know yourself sexually.
And if you're having Skype or phone sex with your partner,
there's no chance of pregnancy or STIs.
That's a pretty damn good thing.
Also, there's some really great sex tech out there
that may help with long distance relationships.
Have a look at some app-controlled toys
such as MysteryVibe and Vibease.
You're welcome.
Number seven is cooking together.
Oh, I love cooking together.
You can cook together over video calls.
You can eat dinner together over video calls.
You could even do a thing
where you buy the same ingredients
and you try and cook the same meal together.
That would be super cute.
Bonus points if you do that. (laughs)
Number eight, again this is one that I've mentioned before,
but I just want to reiterate it
because I love it so much, and that's karaoke night.
Get some tunes up on YouTube,
put your video call on, and have a few drinks
and have a good time, that's all.
Number nine is take online personality tests,
relationship quizzes together.
Do all of the things that are basically
in the Who Am I series and more.
So my Who Am I series is the personality test series
and I'm currently releasing episodes
of Who Am I In Bed which is more of the relationship
and sex style getting to know yourself
and each other quizzes.
Be on a video or a phone call together
whilst you're doing these quizzes
and discussing your answers together.
You could also do stuff like the New York Times'
"Questions to Fall in Love".
But basically, there are so many fun quizzes out there
and then there are also so many
like serious quizzes out there,
and you can take your pick from the lot.
So those are some long distance date ideas.
Let me know in the comments
if you have any other ideas yourself
that you want to throw into the mix.
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