So, the thing you need to understand about the female sex drive is that, in general,
it’s typically less than the male sex drive, because the principle driver of sexual libido
or lustful feelings is testosterone.
Women just naturally have less testosterone than men.
That being said, if you’re in a new relationship, it’s called, like, the romantic cocktail,
that adrenaline, that dopamine will shoot up anybody's drive; where you don’t even
notice things like, not getting good sleep.
So, just appreciate that for any given woman, her drive may be less than yours, but there
will certainly be times during her cycle that she notices feeling more randy or horny, like
around ovulation or some women, even when they get their period.
Just noticing when your partner is feeling more responsive and turned on, helps you both
think about how you can capitalize on those windows to increase the frequency of sex that
feels really enjoyable to both of you.
I think it’s also important to realize that, for women, there’s a range of their own
appetite.
We lean from, some that may feel, quite comparable to what we see in men, and to others on the
other end of the distribution, where they barely think about sex.
So, you have to realize that for your partner, sex isn’t on the brain, it isn’t on the
radar.
It doesn’t mean that it can’t get to that space, but it does mean that she does need
some additional stimulation to sort of coax her, to get her to that place, what I call,
open and receptive, because not all desire is born out of feeling it initially before
a sexual experience starts.
For some, it’s more, I’m open to where this is going to go and it’s actually your
touch, and your caress that feels good, feels nice, and then lo and behold, she too is beginning
to feel the desire and arousal to move it toward a more sexual experience.
The important thing to realize is, even for any given woman, her love, love desire is
likely to change over even the course of a month, and certainly over the course of her
lifetime.
So just try to get a sense of where her turn-ons are, and how do you both make the most opportunity
of those windows where she’s open and receptive