I think it's just a different way of thinking now people are starting to recognize that hey
wait a minute i have an option besides being a mom not that there's anything wrong with that
but not everyone wants to do it hey there child free friends i'm hannah and this channel is all
about living the child-free lifestyle i created this supportive community so that you would not
feel alone in your choice to live life without kids china's birth rate plunges to its lowest
in four decades more americans say they're not planning to have a child for the first time ever
india's fertility rate is below replacement level that's a lot of information to get in 30 seconds
india has a lot of kids already though right i mean isn't their population absolutely massive
the fact that they might be actually having a few less kids is a good thing yes no this is
gonna sound sort of high maintenance but could we have it like three degrees cooler in here i always
think better when it's cooler what's replacement level it basically means every woman should have
2.1 children if a country is to replace its dying population is it actually necessary because we
always talk about that we have so many people in this world does it matter if our population
decreases a little bit i don't think so for the first time ever an average indian woman is
not having more than two children south korea is one of the world's most advanced economies
the country's fertility rate is one i absolutely did not know that in singapore the fertility rate
is 1.1 in hong kong it is 1.1 1.3 in spain 1.3 in italy 1.5 in canada in america there are just 1.7
birds per woman it's always funny when they say like 1.2 or 1.3 kids because you always imagine
like one whole child and then peace of another child why aren't women having more babies that
is a very good question isn't that what women did for the longest time marry have babies continue
the bloodline a childless woman was branded as barren she was frowned upon in ancient rome a
woman could be divorced for not giving birth to a child infertile women were flogged with goat skin
that's horrible like that's not something that you can help if you can't have a baby
which actually makes me think is that why people still hang on to this idea that if you don't have
a child you're somehow a bad woman or a bad person i think maybe we haven't completely
let go of that in the middle ages infertile women were called witches compared to satan
but it definitely does shed some light onto how women who were not able to have kids who
made the choice not to have kids back in the day were treated versus how they are treated
now which i will say there is obviously some improvement but we still have quite a ways to
go the only time history spared a woman without a child was when she had taken the vow of celibacy
thank you motherhood was a moral obligation for all the other women it's not anymore this is the
era of opting out women today are choosing to be child free they're chalking out a different
path for themselves becoming more than just a reproductive machine i am so happy that this is no
longer a moral obligation however i would say from the way that some people react to our choice not
to have kids and to not want to be moms or dads you almost think it still is a moral obligation
let's come back to the example of south korea something very unique is happening in that country
you see south korea has always been a very conservative society women have been the
primary housekeepers caregivers and nurturers i think that expectation for moms to can and do it
all is still alive and strong in north america as well that while women entered offices expected to
do both work at offices and also adhere to gender norms at home that is way too much for any human
no matter how much energy you have hey do you want to feel so energetic try power thirst not too far
away from south korea hong kong's fertility rate has also dropped women in the city are retreating
from marriage and motherhood women are citing a plethora of reasons some say they're all worked
and they have no time for a baby many say starting a family in hong kong is way too expensive
many can't afford to bring up a baby many simply do not want to or i don't want them
so i won't have them so back off i feel like people can't say that cost isn't a
factor in whether or not people choose to have children because it is a factor it's a huge
factor then there is india the world's second most populated country it is also home to the world's
largest millennial population many would study instead marry late and chase their career goals
women have so many more opportunities now than they ever have in life and i think there are a
lot of women that want to take advantage of that a pure research found that as of 2019 just 44
of the millennials were married 61 percent of boomers and 81 of silence were married by the
time that reached that age i'm stopping this for just a second because i want to take a closer
look at this that's what everybody used to do and now people are recognizing that they have other
opportunities and i think that's really appealing to people this is the trend of opting out opt out
the movement in america is very different couples are choosing to stay child free it may be because
of financial burdens or wanting to live their own lives or simply being okay with not having a child
absolutely we just want to opt out because we just don't want kids the pandemic has exacerbated the
feeling of wanting to be child free america's birth rate has fallen to its lowest in a decade
for the past six years the cdc reports birth rates across the country have been dropping there are
definitely some changes there what i think is so incredibly amazing is that there is a group
of people now that are saying we do not want to be parents we do not want kids and they can actually
voice that it's homemade i can tell it's it's really cool so i thought i would make a sign
and just kind of wear it around the neighborhood had some time on your hands people are really
reacting to this well those were conversations that i never ever heard when i was growing up and
i'm so glad that we're actually starting to have those conversations and people can actually voice
their opinions about not wanting children today couples around the world also feel a sense of
uncertainty about the future it may be because of climate change the current health crisis
what the pandemic has also done is made a lot of couples realize how difficult it
is to bring up a child when locked up at home without caregivers that's it yeah it's not easy
in the middle of the pandemic a mother took to twitter to vent she wrote non-parents have no
idea how hard it's been many replied yes we do and that's exactly why they've chosen not
to become parents people give us such a hard time about making the choice not to have kids but we've
thought through it the debate became so ugly by the way that the mother had to take down the tweet
truth be told the world is still very much uncomfortable with the idea of women not marrying
or couples not becoming parents it'd be interesting to know if people who choose
not to have kids get more flack or people who choose not to get married have more flack
well francis the supposedly progressive pope recently had a word of advice for non-parents
rich words from a non-parent i did a whole video on this topic because it got me a little fired
up you can watch it up in the cards finish this video first a child free couple is often chastised
for being selfish we haven't just done something out of a whim or because of a societal expectation
we're making a choice that's different than what other people make because it's the right one for
us but can the owners of replacing a country's population be on its women or couples oh my
goodness that is so true women are the ones that have to take all the responsibility if there's
not enough kids it's the woman's fault wouldn't we then just be going back to medieval ages and
once again making motherhood a moral imperative okay maybe i'm thinking way crazy but how about
people just get to do what they want to do nobody has to have two kids or three kids or four kids
you can just have 10 kids if you want or zero kids if you want the south korean government is testing
the waters not too long ago it put out a map showing women of child bearing age by cities today
the government is also pushing women to date and married is encouraging dating events encouraging
dating at workplaces what oh my goodness that is so bizarre we're encouraged to be individuals but
then we're kind of like punished or looked down upon when we are individualistic and do our own
thing and you're made to feel like you're not acceptable let's ask china the country is doing
all it can to fight the disastrous consequences of its one child policy don't force people into
marriage don't force people into having children because not everybody wants that how well are they
actually even going to be able to contribute to society if they're miserable in the life that
they have because they feel like they had to live the life people told them they had to live instead
of living their life that they actually wanted to live acknowledge that having a child or not having
a child is a matter of choice yes that's it right there having kids is a choice have them or don't
have them and people need to stop making people who don't want to have kids feel badly about it