this video will show you three powerful ways to love yourself unconditionally
I'm going to share with you ways that you can apply in your own life today to
start to see yourself as somebody that is worthy of love and actually being
yourself welcome back to another video my name is Erin and I help people expand
their continent now in this video I'm going to be sharing with you those three
ways that you could apply in your life that can really allow you to love
yourself 100% now understand that when you love yourself 100% you then give the
opportunity for other people to love you as well now there may be some people
that love you no matter what that are unconditional with it but many times we
get a reflection of who we are being so if we don't appreciate who we are and
we're not focused on you know what we're grateful for for ourselves and many
times people will kind of be blind to it understand that when you go out into
public you are projecting your self-image out and the emotions you feel
about yourself are contagious to other people so to have magnetic energy and to
really have you know the ability for people to love you you must first love
yourself now normally it's kind of counterintuitive you would think that
until in order to love yourself it's more about taking on these new
perspectives of piling on you know these things that are good about yourself and
that can be powerful but the key is not so much on the piling on it's more about
the letting go you see the reason I say this is because love and unconditional
love is actually our natural state of being when we are born now I know that
sounds kind of weird because you know it seems so unnatural for us to love
ourselves but understand that that's based on conditioning we have been
conditioned to not love ourselves we've been conditioned to have all these rules
as to how we can love ourselves and why we should or why we should it we've had
all these magazine companies and all these advertisements that show the
perfect models of how we're supposed to be and if we're not you know we need
some type of pills we need some type of weight loss formula in order to look
exactly like them you see but that's just conditioning that's not really true
we think it's true we might think it's true we might buy into it and that's
where some of the pain might come from but love is our natural state of being I
believe that love is everyone's natural state of being that when we put labels
in our mind when we're focused on other perspectives we create barriers between
ourselves and that that causes a lot of the problems we have in the world but
get back to the core of who you are and the reason I say this is because when
you realize that your natural state of love it's less about trying and it's
more about just letting go letting go of perspectives that no longer serve
letting go of all the baggage that we may have been carrying around imagine
you've been walking around with other people's baggage other people's beliefs
of when we grew up we were picking up these packages we were walking around
with other people's beliefs and we're lugging them around on our back and it's
so tiresome to bring them everywhere we go but now what we're learning is that
we can let them go that they're not really even our beliefs they were just
things that we picked up that we thought what we identified with we thought oh
I'm supposed to pick this up I'm supposed to carry this around this is
what everyone else is doing everyone else is carrying luggage around looking
tiresome I'm supposed to do the same thing but what I'm encouraging you in
this video is that you can let that luggage go you can realize self-love is
your natural state of being and that as you start to understand this you can let
go of everything that doesn't serve now the first powerful way to really
love yourself is to forgive yourself now of course you can forgive other people
for everything they've done but let me tell and share with you the most
powerful way I found to forgive other people and to forgive even myself is
having the perspective that wherever I was in my life when I made a certain
decision that was where I was act and that was the decision I needed to make
in order to learn and come to where I'm at now so in a way you could be grateful
for where you are now even if you're like I don't love myself be grateful
that you're there because if you didn't feel this emotion you wouldn't have the
desire to move beyond it you wouldn't have the desire to bring this
unconsciousness into your awareness to then take action to move through it so
that's where a lot of power is now understand first off that people that do
things to you always do it from their own level of rationalization they have
justified what they're doing in their own head they've said this is something
that I need to do because of my current beliefs maybe they didn't say that
consciously or outloud but they set it at assert
level maybe someone stole from you maybe they took something from you and they
lied about it they did that from their own level of rationalization they in
their minds made it okay because of maybe some limiting belief or because
they didn't believe that they had the own abundance to do what they wanted to
do or because they believed that they had to bring you down to feel good about
themselves you see whatever it is it's from where they were at a lot of times
we take on the beliefs of our parents but understand our parents did the best
that they could and even if you know I had an extent mom that was very abusive
she learned that from her dad and she was just reacting that and putting that
on to me and my brother and unfortunately now she's put it on to my
half sisters who have to deal with it because they're actually related to her
you know but the idea is that that's based on her own level she's made it
okay you know her controlling this the way that she is it's okay for her to be
like that in her own mind and the moment I realized this was the moment I was
really able to forgive her because you know my dad divorced her when I was
about 15 years old so from 9 to 15 I was around her all the time you know me my
brother was always doing work outside weren't allowed to have friends we
weren't allowed to do anything really we're always in trouble for something
and she was a very angry person all of a sudden 15 comes around we're
allowed to have friends you know we're allowed to watch TV we weren't allowed
to watch TV in those years we were allowed to do things that we were
deprived of for so many years and we were all excited about it
but it took me a couple years to forgive her but what really made the game
changer for me was I realized that someone that abuses someone else has
been abused and they wouldn't even really admit that they're abusing
because they're just right that's more about their ego being right you see what
I mean so in that same perspective that is a perspective I had that really
allowed me to forgive her then also to forgive myself I didn't forgive myself
by realizing and asking the question why did this happen you know I had to trust
the process and that's what really made a big difference for me but when you
have the understanding and the awareness that people always make decisions based
on their own level of rationalization it makes it so much easier for you to let
go of any baggage you have towards someone else and realize that if you
have baggage towards someone else it's still within your own energy it's still
something you are carrying around it's the luggage on your back even though you
think it's about someone else so let go of it heal it with someone else heal it
with yourself and understand you did the that you could for where you were but
now you are grateful because now you can actually decide to go in the direction
that you prefer so forgiveness for most people is the most powerful thing you
can do because when you forgive you emotionally heal yourself and you allow
yourself to let go of those patterns so that then you can be the way that you
prefer now the second way is also very powerful and it's something I'm
currently learning about myself now it's having an understanding that we work in
the sense that our mind has certain rules as to when we can feel certain
emotions it's almost like we give ourselves permission to love ourselves
when certain things have happened you know for me I have a strong ambition to
be successful to be able to give back to people you know the more successful I
become the more resources I have to give up to other people to help other people
raise along the journey as well that's my perspective right and I realize that
sometimes I have these rules as to when I can love myself how much work do I
have to put in I have these rules of when I think other people will only love
me if I do certain things you know I probably you know I have people my
family that probably wanted me to go to college and I went to college for two or
three years but they probably wanted me to get and become like a lawyer you know
I went I did forensics debate high school I was very good at speaking I
enjoyed it I wanted to be a lawyer but then I kind of realized that I didn't
want to do that I realized that a lot of this you know a lot of lawyers that I
either knew or you've read about we're really unhappy people not all of them
but you know some of them were and I just realized that it's probably not the
thing I'm most passionate about I could have easily gone to school I could have
done really well I did well in school when I was in high school and in college
but I realized it's just not for me and I had you know people my family my uncle
was an entrepreneur who had no college education is very successful and I just
kind of you know I knew that I always wanted to be an entrepreneur right but
people my family wanted me to go to school because that was like the thing
to do right and I used to have these rules that I had to fit within the
categories in their own mind of my family members in order for them to love
me and also in order for me to love myself so it's like a self perpetual
thing but this is what I've learned recently is now that I'm you know
growing and I'm starting to become successful the idea is what I'm
focused on now is more so loving myself for the sake of loving myself I switched
the rules in my mind this person will love me if this person will love me if
two people who love me because I am being myself I love myself because I'm
being myself I don't love myself because I'm doing X Y Z in life I love myself
for being me that's the main rule that I think is so powerful that's what I
encourage you to do is to look at the rules you have as to how you can love
yourself and how other people can love you and make it simply you can love
yourself for being you that's all and you need is you to be
yourself that will allow you to realize and start to see that you don't need to
give yourself permission only when you do X Y Z and all of these things all you
have to do is be yourself get to the core of what that is understand the more
you do it the more you'll feel it just start to really have that understanding
and you will start to resonate with it more so the first two are all about
letting go now the last one is about focus now the reason I say this is
because how many people are focused on the things that they've done wrong in
the past they're focused on what could go wrong in the future but what I'm
saying is focused more in the present moment and knowing that you could feel
grateful for what you already have you see when you're grateful for what you
already have or who you already are that leaks into the past that leaks into the
future in a powerful way because with focus comes momentum and if you're
currently focused on things that you haven't done well in the past or even
you haven't done well right now what happens is that leaks because then the
thoughts that resonate with you are times in the past when things didn't go
right and when you think about the future
your hypothesize you're like theorizing or thinking and all of these things that
could go wrong based on what you focused on in the present moment so right here
in the present moment what are you grateful for about yourself you might be
grateful for the little things may be grateful that you got up today and you
did something that you said you were gonna do you checked it off the list
you may be grateful that you were being yourself in the moment you're expressing
yourself more every day you may be grateful for amazing
connections you have with your family members
whatever it is focus on that gratitude and the more you focus on it the more
you feel it and the more that will leak into the so-called past and future but
really you're just gonna get more reflection of who you are being in the
present moment so if you feel negative emotion right now from focusing on
negative aspects of yourself first off be grateful that you are aware of what
you're thinking of be grateful that you are aware of that because that's when
you can change you can't change when you're in the subconscious mind or
you're in those repetitive thought patterns so now that you know this start
to shift your perspective start to put I choose in front of everything that
you're thinking about yourself you know if you're like I'm not worthy say I
choose that I'm not worthy I think you see because when you say I choose you
didn't realize you don't have to choose that but if you have a belief that says
this is the way things are that's set in stone that's from the point of limited
perception but if you said say I choose whatever that is then you're like oh do
I want to continue to choose to believe this is this something I prefer to
believe and then you can change it to what you actually want this is so
powerful for taking back to your power understanding as you do that everything
changes and then you can actually be who you prefer to be so remember this whole
process is about loving yourself in a very powerful way now I've created a
very powerful subconscious mind mp3 meditation that you can listen to before
you go to bed and the way you can use it is you can focus on the perspectives of
having that self-love of feeling that gratitude and that meditation is
specifically intended to give you ways of using what's called NLP
neuro-linguistic programming in order to bring more of your self-image of who you
prefer to be and really amplify those emotions so you can listen to this right
before you go to bed you can start to feel more loved within yourself for who
you are and using it in that way will allow you to reprogram your subconscious
mind so that you get the reflection that you want so I'll leave that in the
description it's absolutely free you can download it listen to it every day and
it's something that can help as well but remember that most of this process isn't
about taking all new perspectives it's about letting go let go the rules you
have as to how you can love yourself let go have forgiveness let go the
perspectives that say this person did this to me or I shouldn't have done XYZ
as you start to do that everything will change and then you can focus on the
gratitude for who you are as you do that you'll find that you have more
perspectives you start to think in the past and a powerful way think of the
future and a powerful way but mainly you just become present to the moment which
is where all the magic happens so what's that being said I hope you guys enjoyed
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