- So what are the things that women do
who find it easy to attract love
that women who are having trouble
and stuck in the grind with dating
and attracting a partner don't do?
Well, after coaching literally
1000s of women over the last 10 years,
I'm gonna share with you today three easy habits
that can change your love life forever.
Check it out.
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Hey there, my name is Matt Boggs,
and I'm the founder (upbeat ambient music)
of the Love and Relationships Division
here at the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is empowering people
to create and live a life they love.
And that includes your love life.
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And today we're talking about the common habits
that women who have an easier time attracting love,
what they do,
that women who are stuck in the grind tend not to do.
And so it all starts with this principle, flow begets flow,
ease begets ease.
You can't grind your way to an easy result.
In other words, it's just everything in this universe
operates with frequencies, or everything is energy.
Let's say you turn on your television,
operates with free frequencies to the channel
or the frequency of HGTV, home and garden television.
You're gonna get certain shows,
certain programming on that channel.
If you turn your channel to ESPN,
you're gonna get different pictures, different results,
different shows on that channel.
You're not gonna get ESPN on HGTV or vice versa.
The same thing, often we try to work really hard at dating
thinking that's going to create more ease and flow.
So the general concept is flow begets flow.
You want to be in the flow with your love life,
you gotta get in the flow now.
And so here are three ways
that you can use your mind, your heart,
your whole energy to move yourself into more flow.
Step number one is to assess your beliefs about dating,
about relationships and about men in general.
And try to uncover the places where you have said,
"This is going to be hard.
This is going to be a struggle."
So often we say, "Oh, dating apps suck,
dating is gonna be so painful,
it's gonna be so, such a ugh, such a grind."
Or, "There are no good men out there."
Or "Men aren't trustworthy."
Or you like gear yourself up
for the people that you're gonna meet,
there's this sense of tightness going into the circumstance
or relationships are hard work.
What programming have you adopted
from previous relationships in your life,
your parents' relationships
about what it means to be in a relationship?
One of my clients, she lost her husband,
husband passed away, love of her life,
they had an amazing relationship, married over 25 years
and within four years she grieved him,
did life on her own, finally felt like, "You know what?
I'm ready to be married again."
Within six months she met a man,
18 months later they were married.
And I was asking her, I say, "What do you think it was
about the way you used your belief system
that helped you attract this relationship?"
And she said, "Matt, I always have this belief
that love is available for me.
I'm the woman who finds love easily
and I can have an amazing partner."
And so she's attracted this amazing partner,
his name's Brian in her life
and they're a beautiful couple together,
they have in their own unique extraordinary love story.
So do some digging, where in your belief system
do you have resistance to love being easy?
And start to shift those beliefs
so that love can be easy for you.
You must believe that love can be easy,
that you deserve love and there is a man out there for you
who is looking for you now.
If you want help recalibrating old beliefs
that have been sabotaging you into new empowered beliefs,
I'm gonna put a link in the comments
and the description below for our Manifestor Man program.
The whole first part of Manifestor Man
is developing what are called love abundant beliefs.
And this is one of the most critical
and foundational pieces of changing your love life.
So if you want support with that piece,
go ahead and click the link below, fill out that form
and explore what that program looks like
'cause it could be life changing for you.
So number one is to assess your beliefs
and cultivate beliefs that are aligned with love being easy,
love being in flow.
Step number two is date outside your normal criteria.
So many of us get typecast,
myself included when I was dating,
this one thing really helped and here's why this matters,
I'll explain why it actually opens the doors
because you've probably heard this before,
"Date outside your criteria",
but without the right mindset, it isn't going to work,
and here's what I mean.
When we get typecast
where we're only gonna date people who look a certain way,
who have a certain vibe about them,
who are kind of their archetype
is what we think they should be like,
we only date people like that,
we limit ourselves and we start,
if you notice over time, you will
shrink and shrink and shrink and shrink,
the number of dates you go on
and the type of people you're meeting
'cause you know what you want.
You're a grown woman, you know what you want,
you know what your desires are,
you know what you're worthy of,
you know what standard you have,
and you're like, "If someone doesn't meet that standard,
then I'm not gonna even go on a first date."
And what it does
is it energetically closes down possibilities.
There's this great line in a movie called "Fools Rush In"
where the lead character,
this guy who's in falling in love with the woman,
she's Selma Hayak, he says,
"You are everything I never knew I always wanted."
Keep a part of your mind
and your heart open to the possibility
that this universe is bringing you someone extraordinary,
and there's aspects of this person
that you don't even know you're looking for
that are gonna be great for you in the relationship.
In my relationship with my wife,
there are things I didn't even know to put down on the list
that she has that now that we've been married
for over a decade, I'm like,
"Oh my gosh, babe,
you are everything I never knew I always wanted,
like these things I would've never known to write down
and you have these qualities and it's beautiful."
So here's what happens,
when you start dating outside your normal criteria,
you're demonstrating to the universe,
I'm open, I'm open to possibilities,
I'm open to what you have in store for me.
And openness begets openness,
it makes room for men who are open,
it makes a wider doorway
for the universe to send you someone incredible
because here's what is great, you might meet someone
that you didn't even expect was gonna be your man,
he becomes your man.
You might meet someone who's somehow connected to your man,
the two of you just decide to be friends
and actually scout for one another
and he introduces you to your man.
You have no idea the momentum that you throw open
and you engage when you start dating outside your criteria,
but it has to be with an open mind.
If it's with a critical mind, like here we go again,
another wasted evening,
another jackass that I'm on a date with,
if that's your vibe, you've got a happy face,
but a cynical heart when you're on that date,
it is not gonna work.
And this brings me to step number three,
step number three is interpret every event as good news.
Meaning, every event is moving you
a step closer to the relationship.
Whether that event is a bad date, quote unquote "bad date",
a date with a guy that you're not really interested in
or a guy rejecting you, a guy saying he doesn't like you,
every event that happens,
you are in control with the meaning that you assign to it.
You are control with the power you give it,
you can either give it an empowered meaning
or a disempowered meaning.
The women who meet their man the fastest
are the ones who give all the events an empowered meaning
to the best of their ability.
So remember, flow begets flow, ease begets ease.
Eradicate the beliefs that love is hard
and replace them with love is easy.
Open the door wide, date outside your criteria,
make flow available for you
and interpret every event as something good
and you will step into that current of flow
and you will attract the relationship faster
than you even imagined possible.
So my question for you is,
what helps you get into the state of ease and flow
when dating?
What mindsets or what practices?
I would love to hear what works for you.
Go and post that in the comment section below,
and know this, I am in your corner, I believe in you.
If you're already in a relationship, it can get even deeper,
if you're looking for that relationship, know this,
he's out there and he's looking for you right now.
And I believe the best is yet to come.
I appreciate you.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you soon.