Let it go, let it go! Turn away and slam that door. I don't care what they're
going to say. The cold never bothered me anyway.
And the great William Shakespeare once said,
"Expectation is the root of all heartache."
Worry is energy my friends and when we're constantly worrying about what we don't want,
guess what happens! We get more of what we don't want.
So how do we separate ourselves from being that little 'worry wart' that I
know you have inside that mind of yours and become totally free?
We're going to talk about that in this video. Let's go!
There's a root cause to your depression, your disappointment, your frustration and
your irritability. It's your expectations of what could happen.
We all have them - big ones, tiny ones, small ones, short ones, fat ones - expectations.
And sometimes, those expectations don't end up the way that we wanted to. So what happens?
When life falls short of expectations, we get really uncomfortable. When
expectations rule our lives, we disappoint ourselves, self-sabotage sensitive.
When we release expectation, we create room for the exploration of trust.
I was recently talking to one of my friends and she was in this relationship
that was really toxic, and I could see it from the outside. And I want to share it
with her, I just wanted to listen. You know guys, we have a hard time listening. We
want to fix everything, right? If you're a guy, give this video a big thumbs up for
wanting to be that doer-fixer that we are but also know that the listening is
much more powerful when it comes to working with a woman. Trust me on this,
okay? Just listen guys. So I was listening to her and she was so expectant of how she
wanted this relationship. She was investing her time; her resources; her
money for being an entrepreneur like a
consistent amount of of money, her emotions; her love was an investment in
this relationship. She wanted to work out so bad. And each and every time through
the past two years, it just didn't work out the way that she wanted it. So she
started to blame herself for it. She started look at things that she could do and
change herself to fit that relationship. The scary thing here my friend is, when you start to
do that, when we start to change who we are, who we're being deep inside our soul level
our hearts to fit and conform to something that's outside of us - be the
romantic relationship, business, whatever it is - we're no longer just being.
We're living in the state of expectancy and attachment and what's scary about this
is your starting to base your identity on something that's outside of you. And
one thing I want to ask you is, "Who are you when you're not doing?"
Who are you when you're not expecting? And that was deep. You got to get clear on that.
She's this beautiful, this bright, this intelligent, this amazing woman. And here
she was expecting this relationship to work out in her favor when it didn't. She
started to judge herself, and that's a very painful place to be.
So how do we remove expectation? How do we move forward with love, trust, and
compassion for ourselves when things may not work the way that we think they
should? Remind yourself that you are enough, you were born enough, and in being,
you are enough. I use expectation all the time and I use it in a way to where I'm
not attached to the outcome but i expect life to give to me exactly what I'm
wishing for. You know at a very young age, I believe that I could literally bend
my reality. I started what I thought at the time which is funny and I was like
16 years old when I first got my driver's license i would sit at the middle of an
intersection and wheel the green light to change as soon as I hit it. Since then, I
had, I would say 98% percent of every single traffic light I come into
turns green right away. So I literally believed at a young age that I can
expect and will things into my experience. And that's a deep-seated belief system
that I have. Now when it doesn't happen, what happens? Do I get upset about it?
No, that light didn't turn green. I'm such a failure.
No! I removed myself from it all together
and I get grateful. The gratitude is one of the things that will help you
remove yourself from an attachment. Think about the complex nature of who
you are - these eyes, these HD cameras, your skin, one of the greatest organs on the
planet for detoxifying and helping to body those bones support you, your
feet, you walk every single day. Whatever it is, get grateful.
Maybe it's the smallest thing that you're grateful for because gratitude is
like investing in your future and creating abundance in the present moment.
The problem is most people, when they expect over and over and over, without
giving into the world, they become what's known as takers.
I call them energy vampires.
But when you're authentically waking up in the morning,
thinking about who you can give to, what you can do to give back in that day,
make a list. Who is it that you want to impact today? Who can I give to? Get
outside of you, right, 'cause expecting things to work out in my favor all the time
and not giving outside of myself is a very depressive place to be in. A lot of
people don't see it because they're so consumed with what's in it for me. I like
to say what's in it for we. How can we elevate humanity? So live from that place,
get grateful and expect in not an attached way. You see, everything that's
happened in your life up to this point has happened for a pretty remarkable reason. You're
exactly where you are. You're exactly in the seat watching this video and you're
exactly where you need to be. And where you are is perfect.
You're an absolutely amazing you. Once you start to believe that and expect things
to happen in your favor,
walking into a restaurant, expecting to have a seat, going into a parking lot,
expecting that a parking space just opened up, expecting the relationship of
your dreams to manifest out of relationship that may be a little discord
tonight. Maybe you're having fights, right? These little arguments, these
things that are working on your communication. Whatever it is, knowing what your
vision is outside of the present moment
is very powerful. And expecting that vision to prevail no matter what. It's that vision
that's going to move forward. So apply it to your life. If this video is helpful, give it
a big thumbs up.
I'm Drew Canole. As always, remember we're in this together and l'll see you next week.