Justin Bieber
someone that can get it whenever he wants and with whomever he wants...
wishes he didn't 'do it' before marriage.
Hang on a minute am i awake?
Did Bieber just imply, that he wished he kept it halal?
Yes indeed, so Justin Bieber when he was doing some
sort of Facebook live with his wife, actually admitted that he wished he
hadn't had inappropriate relations before marriage. Now for somebody to be
in his position from a small age to have screaming women and the best looking
for someone like that to make such a revelation when- let's face it-
whenever you speak to a guy nowadays it seemed like the stud thing to do.
Yeah I've been with this many women. Yeah I've got this many girlfriends
yeah I've got a sidechick and yeah I've got this many side chicks hahahaha
so here you've got somebody that can have like an unlimited
supply of side chicks. He can have so many chicks he
can open up his own farm. His egg business would go through the roof.
-You're a dirty guy, you're dirty (x2) -Hijab, allow me please yeah?
So this coming from Justin Bieber
is not only profound but it does beg the question:
Why? Why would somebody in his situation wish that he hadn't done that whilst
many of you guys watching would be like 'huh' these are the people that we aspire to
and we thought that was the right thing to do. Why, why not?
I'm gonna tell you why not. Saving yourself will save you from comparing.
Yes, that's right. This is one of the main things that breaks up marriages and
relationship which is comparing your partner to somebody else. And we already
know the standards of beauty are impractical yeah; you got Photoshop
and makeup and whatnot. Majority of the people that you will see do not look
like that in real life. And that's one of the wisdoms in Islam for keeping your
gaze low, so you don't look at the opposite gender and there is not that
kind of comparison bar that that pops up in your head, "oh I could have done better"
There's like eight billion people on the planet yeah- nearing eight billion
people, you're definitely gonna find somebody who looks better than your
potential partner, who's more muscular, who's you know got better bone structure...
but can't live like that yeah it's just... it's just impractical. The heart wants
what it can't have yeah. And the grass seems greener on the other side
But it isn't.
Alright the next thing is the nature of intimacy between a man and a woman. It's more
spiritual and special than the media and advertising has made it seem to us yeah.
It's become very commercialized and something that can be bought and sold
and something that can just be used but, it's so special that Allah has used this
specific act to induce life. And it increases the bond between the partners
That's why it is an integral part of a halal relationship.
And you know this whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing yeah.
The reason why it just doesn't make sense is: As you're growing up yeah,
you're maturing, you're learning about yourself, you're discovering yourself,
you're building yourself, you're an incomplete building, you're making
mistakes, you're fixing yourself, you're correcting yourself and you know
you're building yourself up to a certain level and then when you're ready that's
when you get married. However if you break the system: for example the
procedure of stopping a fan is, you hit the switch, and the fan slows down
and then you can move it. However if you go against the system yeah and you put
your hand in the fan and you try to stop it like that you're gonna hurt your hand
and most likely the fan is still gonna keep going yeah, so the system that
allows put in place is you need a development stage yeah go through the
development and then once you've developed then you're ready to handle a
relationship. However if you go against the system then what happens now is,
you're unbuilt, you're not ready and you're unstable and now you've got another
person and you're having to look after each other and it's a mess. Yeah, it's a
mess. And what that leads to is something- I say there's two things that are 2 one
of the most painful things one of us can experience, that's number one: the death
of a loved one, and number two heartbreak and divorce yeah. These two things hurt.
And many a time these sorts of earlier relationships lead to heartbreak and
it scars a person yeah and they can't see the opposite gender that same way
and it just causes mad chaos yeah. And that's why the creator of our hearts and
our bodies has told us- that's not the time mate. You want to get with a partner
do it the proper way yeah? Do it in the sight of Allah.
Do it in the sight of witnesses. Do it as a nikkah yeah, that there are witnesses, that other person
has rights now. You can't just 'dump' that person.
What is this dump? Dump is something that elephant does on the floor mate. What a cheap
way to talk about such a sacred bond between a man and a woman. I mean that
age is such that you barely even know what's going on on the outside of your
body and in the world, how you gonna know about the mysteries of the heart?
You ask even many adults yeah, go ask your parents, what is love?
People that are you know married and they got kids even many of them don't
know what love is. So how is some little 15 year old/13 year old going to know
what love is. And the final thing that I wanted to say
guys is if you save yourself for marriage, you know what? It's something, it's
something amazing to look forward to and you know what? It's new experiences. And it
makes it even more special. That then leads to a stronger bond between you two
because you're creating memories and experiences and makes your marriage more
exciting and it's less likely that you will break up.
There you go guys yeah
what an amazing revelation. Hopefully you guys learnt something and a bit of
food for thought, I'm gonna leave it there guys...
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Asalaamu aleikum