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A few weeks ago I went through the Instagram account @heterocringe
And that video banged. You all really enjoyed it.
So I thought today that I would sit down and I would go through it again.
See what is going on in the world of the Straights™.
Before I start, uh, every time I wear these earrings people ask, so I thought I would answer your question.
Yes
... or apparently no...
They do in fact blow bubbles.
Let's get into the cringe, shall we?
Oh my goodness. Is this what true love looks like?
Wanting to spend time with someone even when you don't want to have sex? Oh my goodness!
Oh! Who would have known?! Who would have known you could spend time around a person you are attracted to when you're not just wanting to sleep with them?
True love, my friends. True love.
Get it?! Because all women do is nag you and tell you what to do!
We all hate our wives! God, they're so freaking controlling and annoying!
My wife always wants me to do my own laundry, and clean the kitchen, and put my dishes away.
She's always wanting me to look after the baby! And I'm like "No!"
"I don't want to! Do it yourself, woman!"
I know that's not what they say, but the type of men who make those memes are the type of men who that's what they're talking about.
Like, I've not seen anyone in like a happy, healthy relationship, where they share responsibilities, where they talk like that. You know?
I only ever see it in relationships where, uh...
"Hmph! I don't want to do the dishes!"
Grow up!
Look after yourself, all right? Your wife isn't your mother.
Your wife isn't your mother. It's weird. That's weird. You are an adult. You are a human adult.
Look after yourself. And if you hate your wife, just get a divorce. Or if you hate your girlfriend, maybe don't marry her.
I don't know. No one's forcing you to be married. No one's-
If you're watching, and your husband like refuses to help you with the housework, and he doesn't look after himself,
Get out of there! You deserve better!
I'm sorry, what... That's... f*cked up. That's so f*cked up, what?
Haha! Abuse! It's so funny! Get it? Get it?
Because like women can't be wrong, and when they're wrong they beat their husbands! And it's so funny!
No! It's- No. That- No. No! No.
Can we please stop normalizing women being overly controlling and needing to be right? It's terrible.
We need to cut it out. It's not okay to control your partner tell them what they can and can't do who they can and can't hang out with, when and where they can go.
It's not okay to not listen to them and respect them.
And if they do something you don't like, you don't punish them for it!
Esp- It's not funny.
And you get so many men right? Like, this happens whenever I talk about abuse against women, I get a lot of men saying "Well men get abused too!" Yeah!
They do! And it's terrible, and it is a huge problem, and you're making a joke of it!
You are laughing at it! People aren't going to take it seriously. People don't take it seriously. They're like "haha, yeah, my wife hit me." It's not funny!
It's not. And so many men feel like they can't come forward and talk about the abuse that they've gone through because people laugh at it!
They're like "oh yeah women, right?" No! No. It is never, never okay for you to hit your partner.
It doesn't matter what gender you are. It doesn't matter what's happened. You do not hit people.
Abuse isn't okay no matter which side it comes from. Emotional, physical, sexual, whatever. It is not okay. It is not funny.
It is not something to joke about, because people don't take it seriously.
To the very small percentage of men who watch my videos: If your partner ever hits you or tries to control or manipulate you, I am so sorry.
It is not a joke. That experience is valid. And that is abuse.
It doesn't matter if this partner is male or female (or enby), it's not okay.
This goes for everyone of all genders. I just want men to know as well that the abuse towards you is valid, and it is abuse, and I hope that you get help and I hope that you get out.
This is a- This is a really simple basic answer for you. You ready?
Consent.
If you're out in public, and some random person went up to you and went: "Come on! Take your shirt off!" Are you gonna do it?
No! It's weird! It's not okay! Especially if you know this person has sexual motives behind it.
Like if they're like "All right, take your shirt off!" because they want to sexualize you, then obviously you're not gonna do it!
Anything, any body part is sexual if it's intended to be sexual.
I do not consider my feet a sexual part of my body, right?
But if someone asks me explicitly, "Hey can I see your feet?" No! You can't! You can't see my feet.
No. No. But I'll still go to the beach barefoot or I'll go somewhere barefoot because my feet aren't sexual.
But there are circumstances where people are going to sexualize my feet and will ask to see them in a sexual context which I'm not okay with. Yeah?
Or even if there's not anything sexual about them asking to see my feet, bit weird. I don't want to show them my feet so I'm allowed to say "No, I don't want to show you my feet."
It's really not that hard of a concept to grasp.
You aren't going to strip down for someone just because they asked you. That's not how this works.
Consent, my guy. It's worrying that you don't know what that is
Listen.
My favorite thing about this whole elaborate ridiculous story:
"My girlfriend invited me to watch Netflix and when we sat down, she said 'I have laundry to do'".
I'm sorry? What? Why would you? Why, when you're writing this story, why would you think laundry?!
Who's gonna invite you to their house to sit you down and do their laundry?!
Surely you could have thought of literally any-
I don't know, man. No one's gonna wait for their boyfriend to come over to then do their laundry.
They'll do it before you arrive. What is going on in your head?! That's-
I just think that's so funny.
"Thank you for coming over! I'm really excited for date night! Oh my goodness! Take a seat, I've just got to do my laundry real quick, that I could have done five minutes ago but like didn't."
"Because I don't know, I just wanted to make you sit in the lounge by yourself while I do laun-" Like what?
I mean my parents divorced so...
Yes.
Honey, your mum is probably too busy crying about how her son is a misogynistic assh*le to be hanging out with any men.
Honestly though, regardless. They're adults! They hang out with whoever they want.
If your mum isn't hanging out with men because your dad said it wasn't okay?
That's f*cked.
Hang out with who you want! Stop controlling who your partners are seeing! I say this every video and I will continue to say it!
Relationships require trust and communication. If you don't trust your partner to hang out with another man that is on you.
That is something that you have to sort out.
And you should break up, maybe. If you don't trust your partner, don't be with them.
That's really- That's really it. If you don't trust your partner, don't date them. It's really that simple.
Also! Who am I, someone who dates all genders, supposed to hang out with? Or do you not care if I hang out with women because two women hooking up is real hot.
Which is gross! But I would imagine that if you're this type of person that's what you would think. And "it's not cheating if it's with another woman because your relationships don't count"
That's a whole other can of worms.
We did a podcast episode on that if you want to check it out. I will link it up here if I remember.
You good? You good there? I- Uh...
No? Maybe? That's real- That's a weird dynamic. That's a weird dy-. I don't- No. No?!
No! It is not your girlfriend's job to look after you! We've gone over this already.
Look after yourself. Don't treat your gir- That's so strange! That's so strange.
Be an adult! Care for each other the same amount and in the same way! You are equals. You...
That genuinely makes me feel ill.
To look at, like... Tha- No. No. That genuinely makes me very uncomfortable to look at.
Holy sh*t. What the f*ck. Oh, that makes me so uncomfortable. Especially during corona.
Listen. That image is gonna be burned into my mind. I am so sorry for showing you that. Oh my god.
Also, I love the fact that the hands that were dirty were black but then the clean hands were white.
Like- Like her sucking his fingers just changed his race...
Oh no... There's so many things wrong with....
Don't be putting your fingers in anyone's mouth if your nails look-
I can't talk about it. I can't talk about it because I keep thinking...
I keep thinking of- I keep thinking about it. I can't.
I can't. I can't. Tapping out. Tapping out. I can't do it. I can't. I can't
I think that I am going to end this here, because I can't do this anymore. I'm past my limit.
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*Monsters and Fairies by Savannah is playing*