where parents feel a kid can't be successful
unless the parent is protecting and preventing at every turn
and hovering over every happening
and micromanaging every moment
and steering their kid towards some small subset
of colleges and careers.
Our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood,
and here's what the checklisted childhood looks like.
We want to be sure they go to the right schools,
but not just that,
that they're in the right classes at the right schools,
and that they get the right grades in the right classes
in the right schools.
And when they get to high school,
they don't say, "Well, what might I be interested
in studying or doing as an activity?"
They go to counselors, and they say,
"What do I need to do to get into the right college?"
And then when the grades start to roll in in high school,
and they're getting some B's
or, god forbid, some C's,
they frantically text their friends and say,
"Has anyone ever gotten into the right college
with these grades?"
And they're withering now
under high rates of anxiety and depression,
and some of them are wondering,
will this life ever turn out to have been worth it?
Well, we parents, we parents are pretty sure it's all worth it.
We seem to behave--
It's, like, we literally think they will have no future
if they don't get into one of these tiny set of colleges
or careers we have in mind for them,
or maybe, maybe we're just afraid
they won't have a future we can brag about to our friends
and with stickers on the backs of our cars.
Yeah.
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